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As the saying goes: "The child avoids the mother, and the daughter avoids the father." But in real life, many parents and children get along very casually, and there is no concept of "avoiding suspicion" at all.
In the eyes of parents, "children are still young, what can they understand"? Such a concept makes many parents and children have no evasion. When children change their clothes in front of them, go to the toilet without closing the door, etc., it has almost become a common thing.
Survey data shows that more than half of parents have had the experience of changing clothes in front of their children. It is these seemingly inconspicuous little things, but the harm hidden in them is greater than we think.
The mother changed clothes in front of her son for a long time, and the child harassed the female classmate and was expelled
Shortly after the beginning of the school, I heard a teacher friend say that "the school expelled a student." At first I thought about what a mistake I had made, but later I learned that the expelled boy had actually harassed female classmates at school.
The boy was only 11 years old, although he was not very old, but he was well developed, his height and weight were almost the same as an adult, and this child had this problem since the lower grades, but at that time the school felt that the child was still young, so that parents could go back to educate them well.
Unexpectedly, within a few days of the start of this school, the boy reached out to the female classmates around him to the "salty pig hand". In this regard, the parents of the female students asked the school to deal with this matter seriously, and the school considered the seriousness of the matter, and after research, decided to publicly dissuade the boy from expulsion.
Afterwards, everyone learned that the root cause of the child's personality was his mother. Mothers do not know how to avoid when children change clothes from childhood to adulthood, and children do not have any sense of avoidance, which is this bad habit of life, so that children have such a fate.
Parents of the opposite sex change clothes in front of their children, there will be several kinds of harm
1) Influence children to build awareness of privacy
Before the age of 3, children are in the embryonic stage of sexual consciousness, and when they have a basic sense of gender distinction, they begin to be curious about the different physical characteristics between men and women. For babies before the age of 3, parents do not need to deliberately avoid suspicion, but they must start to establish their children's privacy awareness.
2) Affect the child's healthy psychological development
In life, when parents find themselves changing clothes, children of the opposite sex often peek or simply stare at their bodies, indicating that children have developed a strong curiosity about the opposite sex.
If parents and children do not know how to maintain a certain distance at this time, or do not stop the child's abnormal behavior, then it will affect the normal development of their psychology and are more likely to induce psychological diseases.
3) Bury the hidden danger of hurting others
Studies have shown that "children who have not received sex education from an early age are more likely to be hurt or more likely to hurt the opposite sex when they grow up."
When the child is still in a stage of vague "sexual consciousness", if the parents do not teach him the correct knowledge, then he will use his own way to obtain. Once the concept is affected by bad and low-level interesting information, then when the child reaches the stage of puberty, it will hurt other children driven by hormones and bad ideas.
Parents who change clothes and do not know how to avoid it, the baby raised can not escape two endings
It is easy to go down the path of crime
As children grow up, they can clearly identify the differences between men and women from the age of 3, and at this time, parents are still brazenly changing clothes in front of their children, which will stimulate the child's physiological response and germinate the child's sexual consciousness in advance.
In addition to changing clothes in person, there is also a bath together, such as contact with the opposite sex, as the child grows older, it will more and more stimulate the child's curiosity about the opposite sex, of which early love is the most obvious manifestation.
And when they have a deeper curiosity about the opposite sex, they will naturally explore further in their own way, and the final result is nothing more than to embark on the road of crime.
Easy to become "Mommy Boy"
Compared with girls, mothers changing clothes in front of their sons are not conducive to the development of personality, and over time, they will also make children's psychology deviate. Moreover, the mother and the son are too close, and it is easy to form an extreme "maternal love", so that the child becomes a "mother treasure man", which poses a serious obstacle to the formation of an independent personality in the future.
Sex education is urgent, especially this neglected "hidden sexual assault"
In the final analysis, the reason why parents will change clothes in front of their children is that the parents' own sex education is insufficient, and even in the education of children, they will think that sex education is a difficult thing to talk about.
In fact, the child more than 2 years old, gender awareness began to sprout, this time appropriate sex education is very necessary, and in addition to preventing external "explicit sexual assault", this often ignored by parents "hidden sexual assault" should also be avoided, to a large extent from the family parents' inappropriate parenting style.
Therefore, although changing clothes in front of children is a small matter, the impact on children is not small at all, and I hope to attract the attention of parents.