Ever since I went to school, my fate was up to me
Author | Martian Housewives Since my son went to elementary school, I felt like he and I were participating in Extreme Challenge every day.
The limit of my son's challenge is: see how far I die before my mother beats me.
And the limit of my challenge is: see how many times I have to be angry, and my life will return to heaven.
One day at 10:30, my son's homework was not finished.
He approached the last application problem with the attitude of a craftsman, that is, repeated revision.
Watch him scribble and write, sometimes frown, sometimes bow his head and meditate, that kind of carving, that kind of rigor, as if he was not facing an application problem of summation, but an integral equation.
Before that, I had been working for 8 hours, cooking and cleaning for 2 hours, and working with him for 2 hours, the blood tank was close to empty, my mind was almost frozen, and my nerves were about to collapse.
Resisting the urge to roar, I told myself: Bear with me, he will be done.
If you scold him and cry, the scene will be even more unmanageable.
Finally, he finished writing, and it was expected to go to bed before 11 o'clock!
But as soon as he packed his bag, he suddenly shouted again: Ah! There's also an assignment I forgot to write!
In the end I scolded him and cried.
Swearing, writing homework, coaxing, the whole process is over, it is already past 12 o'clock.
I couldn't hold back my inner sadness and sent a circle of friends, accompanied by a collapsed selfie:
"Scientists say that women who give birth have shorter lives, probably because they are childish."
I didn't expect to attract a lot of old mothers who didn't sleep at night to praise:
"I just finished scolding the baby."
"Don't think about it too much, go to bed early."
"Third-class citizens are like this, don't be too demanding."
Wait, what is a third-class citizen?
First-class citizens, children out of the nest, rich and idle
It is said that the Internet circulated such a saying:
The hierarchy of parents is divided into three grades, based on the age of the child.
The circle of friends of parents at different levels will also show very different characteristics.
First-class citizens are the parents of those children who have been admitted to college.
For the first half of their lives, they fought for the Republic and worked for the gold-devouring beasts, and now they can finally rest.
Enjoy the biggest stumbling block to life , kids , who have gone to college.
Nothing can stop their yearning for freedom.
Not only are there plenty of time, first-class citizen parents, but there is also general financial freedom.
Rich, timeless, not delayed retirement, and still physically fit, first-class citizen parents are definitely the object of everyone's envy.
Their circle of friends has two major characteristics, one is that they are rich in activities, mainly based on tourism and food.
Put it this way, the circle of friends of first-class parents is like a mix-and-match between National Geographic and China on the tip of the tongue.
Every time I saw it, I would click on the collection and think: When my kids go to college, I will also go there to play.
The second feature of their circle of friends is that there is a sense of luxury that they have too much time to know what to do.
They would often send a picture of a cup of tea or coffee, followed by the caption: Stop and feel the pace of time.
If the average parent stops, they will only feel that time is whipping my ass with a whip.
Of course, first-class parents occasionally share the warm bits of being with their children, such as during winter and summer vacations.
In their circle of friends, they can't see the collapse of the parent-child relationship, only the joy of seeing the child twice a year.
It is said that the most envied parent-child relationship is the weaver girl, that is, to see the child once a year, and the rest of the time is just a distant look.
First-class parents of citizens have brought myths and stories to life.
Second-class citizens, the children are still young, and the mother's love is high
Second-class citizen parents are parents whose children are still in preschool age.
Their circle of friends is the place where the mother's love is strongest under the heavens.
The child cried and laughed, and they all loved;
Kids can run and jump, and they're proud.
I love watching the circle of friends of second-class parents.
They believe that their children are the most intelligent and lovely, and they also feel that they can be a good mother.
This naïve and firm belief often makes me cry.
The most significant feature of the circle of friends of second-class parents is that it is full of nine palace grids.
In their opinion, every photo of the child is too cute.
Even if there is a slight difference between the two photos, it is worth all THE PO.
For example, this grin appears to be Sven; the smile with a wide mouth appears healthy.
Looking at the circle of friends of second-class parents, it is like playing and watching, and it is like watching the split shot of stop-motion animation.
In fact, if WeChat allows the 12th and 18th squares, they will fill these spaces with children's cute photos.
The second feature of the circle of friends of second-class parents is that there are many small videos.
Their children can sing alphabet songs, recite "Wing Goose", add and subtract within 10, and they will definitely share it in the form of video.
The obvious copywriting is: record the child's moment.
Actual mental activity: Come and see! My cub is really a genius!
Second-class parents also like to take some very poetic sentences as WeChat personality signatures:
What is leading a snail to go for a walk, raising a child is like a potted plant waiting for the flowers to bloom.
Without realizing that as long as the child goes to school, his snail child will encounter a large number of rabbit classmates.
And when the son of the old iron tree is surrounded by a pile of blooming flowers, the frustration is really indescribable.
They are big fans of stocking theory.
Also, the mother of the baby before the age of 6, even if she exhausted her imagination, could not imagine that there would be so many subject projects that needed to be paid close attention to in the next ten years.
Is this their blessing or their iniquity?
Don't tell second-class parents the truth about the world, let them enjoy their honeymoon with their children.
Third-class citizen
Children are half the same age and live anxiously every day
The so-called third-class citizens are the parents whose children go to primary school but have not been admitted to college.
The group of bald middle-aged people who move bricks in the unit during the day and tutor at home at night;
The group rushed to attendance on weekdays and the slightly fat social animals trained with babies on weekends.
That's you and me, and the main part of our circle of friends.
Their circle of friends has the following characteristics:
First, the chances of children appearing in the circle of friends decrease with age.
Since the child debuted in school, it is to retire in the circle of mothers.
The reason is that there is no other material to dry.
Since I am serious about school, those scribbles, plasticine, and scribbled words are embarrassed to dry.
Let's post some full-score papers, five-star homework, class masters, campus stars and the like.
But are there any of these things? Sorry, no.
Not only that, after entering the comparison system of the class, when the mother will find more and more "black spots" on the child.
Why is it so slow to write homework?
Why do you lose some stationery every day?
How do you always get a "complaint" call from your teacher?
Daily parent-child activities have changed from kissing and hugging to carrying out criticism and self-criticism.
Of course, when you are childish, you also have to send a circle of friends, because there will be friends at the bottom of the message, and share with you the moment when she is also childish.
Suddenly, the psychological trauma of the mother was healed by 80%.
Sure enough, the only one who can cure the scum mother is another scum mother.
Second, the content of the circle of friends gradually shows symptoms of schizophrenia.
The circle of friends of third-class citizens will gradually develop a schizophrenic state in the medium term.
Their thinking is very jumpy and their emotions are very unstable.
One second forwarded "Treat the scum of the school, they are here to repay the favor", and the next second they liked "Child, I regret not forcing you to work hard";
The day before, he vowed to be forever friends with his child, and the next day he posted a picture and sent a ring ruler bought on Taobao.
Post at six o'clock in the morning: Today is also the first day of full vitality.
At eight o'clock, I posted again: Stepping on the bell to send my children into school has already spent all my strength.
It is not that third-class parents are not firm in their lives, but that every day they get along with their children will encounter new challenges.
Sometimes we really don't know what to do or who to listen to.
So listen to any theory and try any method.
Speaking of the mood changes of third-class parents, it is quite intense.
Simple topics repeatedly said that the child could not understand, the adrenaline began to soar, can not help but scold the child.
Then in the middle of the night, looking at the child's sleeping face, dopamine began to secrete, and began to kiss the child again.
The child occasionally makes an additional question, and begins to look forward to the future, feeling that Pugao still has a play.
Children who are tested below the average score of the class will suddenly start to be discouraged and begin to inquire about the way to join the store below the building.
A second ago told myself, forget it, don't chicken, the child is not learning well, let's change the track, and it is good to be an industrial worker in the future.
The next second, in the darkness, I asked myself: Where is this, is this the way to give up?
Third-class parents are such a complex of contradictions:
The mood repeatedly oscillated between joy and anger, volunteering to switch back and forth between Sanben and Lanxiang.
Persistent anxiety, intermittent chicken blood.
Seeing the successful cases, the morale was immediately high, and when it encountered difficulties, it immediately gave up on itself.
Harm, this day and day, all kinds of hormones are secreted in turn, the old stimulation, I am tired of the heart, spleen, lungs and kidneys panic.
Third, in the end, from the WeChat avatar, signature to copywriting, it will show a complete indifference.
Without exception, in the later stages, the parents of third-class citizens chose to collectively renounce on WeChat.
They replaced the avatar with something like this:
The circle of friends has long been a straight line, because there is no desire to share.
I saw other parents crying for their children in the circle of friends for their children to laugh, and third-class parents laughed and did not say anything.
For so many years, I have been tired of fighting with all kinds of enemies in the open and in the dark.
In order to maintain the precarious parent-child relationship, they choose to sacrifice their ambitions for their children's education and let everything go naturally.
After all, children have struggled to the critical stage of junior high school, learning themselves do not understand, then close the wheat. Providing a good environment and a peaceful psychological state for children is what they can do at present.
After reading "Positive Discipline", "Child Psychology", "Discipline Without Hitting and Scolding", "How to Say That Children Will Listen" and many other children's education books, I found that silently reading "Mo Qi" is the most useful way.
Therefore, if a friend has a baby and is constantly sending circles of friends, please do not dislike them.
Parents of every rank have their own happiness and their own troubles.
That kind of joy of raising a baby, they really want to share.
The kind of distress of being angry with the baby, they also want someone to understand.
Please give those who are trying to be mothers, a lot of praise.