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In a family, how can parents better connect with their children? One is to cultivate the child's interests and hobbies in the process of growing up; the other is to feel safe in front of the parents. Parents should give their children a safe environment to grow up in and pay more attention to their children's inner beings.
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Most of our children don't want their parents to always talk about it, they all want to be better inside. It's just that in the process of their growth, sometimes, they will not be able to do it, when they can't do it, their hearts will be very frustrated, and within themselves will be born a lot of accusations and criticisms of themselves.
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Let's look at our parents again, our parents will also have a lot of emotions in their hearts that have not been dealt with, which may also be in the process of growing up in the original family. When parents interact with their children with their own emotions, many times when they scold their children, parents cannot feel it. It is possible that in their original family, their parents used to interact with them in this way. So go and see if you have taken on your parents' coping patterns. If so, you need to be aware of this pattern of automation.
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Cultivate children's interests and hobbies. When the child is still very young, parents must consciously observe the child, what are his hobbies? Then cultivate him in the areas he is interested in, such as the child likes to play ball, go to practice with him every day, if the child likes to play chess, then go with him to practice, if the child likes to make by hand, then accompany him to do it. In short, what the child likes, go and spend time with him. This hobby is the child's, not what the parents think.
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Parents should be safe in front of their children. Only when the parent's emotions are stable can the child feel safe. Home is a warm haven for everyone, and every family member wants to find a sense of belonging here, and children are no exception. Every child wants to connect with his parents in his heart, but when the parents' emotions often fluctuate greatly, the child will be afraid to speak in front of the parents, and he is afraid of being blamed by the parents.
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Start with your child's feelings. When the child is in a better mood, you can find some topics to interact with the child, from the topic of interest to the child, talk about a small event, not just open a topic, to have a little contact with the child, starting from the child's feelings, so that he can feel your care. When we can do more of this, the child's connection with us will slowly become better and better.
The train of time passes, people come and go
Be sure to cherish
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