How important is reading? I believe that anyone who has seen "The Reader" will be impressed by the light of the host Dong Qing's poetry and bookishness.
In this era when the tumor of play is deeply rooted in the hearts of students, as parents, how eager we are to pull out the tumor of play for our children, thus planting the seeds of obsessive reading. However, it is said that reading is good, but countless parents just nagging, and finally children not only do not like to read, but hear the word "reading" and become irritable.
So, if children have no sense of reading, what should we, as parents, start from? In fact, there are many ways, the key depends on how parents guide.
(1) Parents must first exercise self-discipline.
Many parents think that learning is a child's business, and so is reading. When they are nagging at the mouth to let the child hurry to read, they are addicted to the world of small videos and can't extricate themselves; when they seriously criticize the child for not loving to read, they turn around and play games with their mobile phones; when they angrily order the children to read for half an hour, they don't forget to look in front of the computer to see if they have suffered too much loss when they hang up.
Parents are role models for their children in all aspects. If you will only be a parent who will only be a finger-pointer from beginning to end, or stand and talk without waist pain, let alone cultivate your child's reading habits, even if it is any other good habit, you may have difficulty helping your child develop.
(2) There must be a parent-child reading area.
In the early cultivation of reading interest, parents must play a leading role.
There is a user on Douyin who often shares videos of his two children indulging in reading with their fathers. Inattentive parents may think they are in the library, but they are actually in their own homes.
I have to say that the parents of this family are very far-sighted parents. When they renovate the house, they use a wall to make a bookcase, and a variety of books are sorted into different grids, so that children can easily and happily read any book they want in this reading area.
(3) Reading enlightenment begins with reading to children.
Many parents think that I know that reading is very important, but my child does not know a few words, is it not more difficult to ask him to read than to climb the mountain?
But in fact, the early reading enlightenment of children is actually based on parents reading to their children. With the help of illustrations, coupled with our colorful recitation, it is 100% possible to arouse children's interest in reading. Every night before going to bed, we can accompany our children to read for half an hour, but do not fish for three days and dry the net for two days, we must know how to persevere.
(4) There should be discussion and reflection.
Whether it is a comic or a small story, there is actually something worth discussing and reflecting on. Take the "David Can't" that many children like to watch, after we watch a story with our children, we can actually take the opportunity to tell children which behaviors can't be done, why not, and which behaviors can be done.
Subsequently, when the child reads a story independently, we can also guide the child to share his own views, which can not only examine whether the child has read carefully, but also test whether the child has absorbed the reading content.
(5) The necessary excerpts must be adhered to.
It is said that good memorability is not as good as bad writing, and it is quite necessary to read the content of the fine works for excerpts.
For example: good words, sayings, jokes, poems, afterwords, riddles, etc., are all things that we think can make our eyes shine at the moment, and we can all encourage children to copy them into the designated book. Every once in a while, I take it out to read, look at it, and turn it over, and when I write, I naturally have a fountain of thought.
(6) Go to the library to read books in a fixed cycle.
Books at home are very limited. On the contrary, the library has a wide range of books. In the library, there are all the books that children want to read, which can meet the children's reading needs to the greatest extent.
In addition, there are many readers in the library, and everyone reads quietly, often sitting for a morning or a whole day. It is also an excellent way for children to feel this strong reading atmosphere. Of course, in order to meet the higher reading needs of children, we can also borrow books from the library for children to taste at home.
(7) Do not have limitations on reading subjects.
Many parents let their children read for a simple purpose, just to cope with essay writing and exams. Under the influence of this psychology, parents often like to buy full score essays for their children, and even let their children memorize them one by one.
What a child reads should not be single. Can include: newspapers, magazines, masterpieces, myths, fairy tales, science, plants, animals, comics, novels... It is our duty to expose our children to different categories of books.
(8) Have some positive cues and encouragement for children.
Many parents praise their children for being the first to last, but trampling on their children's hearts is the way.
Children need their parents to see their shining points, and they also want their progress to be recognized by their parents. As parents, we can grasp this psychological characteristic of the child, give the child positive hints, and let the child get the encouragement he deserves.
When your recognition and praise are just right, children will restrain themselves with higher requirements, because they also want to be good children in the hearts of their parents. Therefore, when children take the initiative to read, even if the reading time is not satisfactory to parents, we should also give appropriate praise.
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The good habit of reading is by no means something that can be cultivated in a day or two. This requires parents to make efforts, and parents also need to do the above eight points. Do you think Xi Xi's mother is right?