Recently read a book "How Children Learn", which believes that children are born to love to learn, and all we have to do is four words - trust children.
The so-called trust in children, my understanding is to respect the child's learning style, believe that he can learn on his own, do not "interfere too much", do not control, supervise, but observe, support.
Trust is two words, easy to say, not simple to do. After all, in the entire education environment, we have pressure from the school, the pressure of the children and parents around us, and the face and vanity that we can't put down, it is relatively easy to happen, there will be a gap in comparison, and anxiety is inevitable.
Although it is not simple, it does not mean that it cannot be done, and it is impossible not to try, otherwise how can there be progress? This is the creed I have always adhered to, so I am constantly learning and trying, finding ideas that suit myself and my children.
It's not hard to make your child fall in love with reading
The book talks about how children learn to speak, learn to read, learn to exercise, learn to draw, learn mathematics and other knowledge, and what I want to talk about most is reading, because I feel empathy for the ideas in the book.
I think my children still seem to love to read.
Later, I don't know, people are constantly changing, he will bring books when he goes out, he will read books when he is bored, he will read books when he needs to calm down when he has emotions, and he also likes to chat with friends about the content of books.
However, looking back on my own parenting process, I don't seem to have deliberately done anything to develop my child's reading habits and reading skills. Children seem to fall in love with reading naturally. In the words of the book, it is learned by the child himself.
Overall, I don't think it's hard to make your child fall in love with reading.
Because it is his nature for a child to understand the world, how should he understand it?
There are many ways to learn, and reading is a relatively easy way to get, as long as you provide him with this path.
How does your child start reading?
Although I didn't deliberately cultivate it, I always had a concept in my head, that is, to read more books.
So, I read to my child from a very early age, to be precise, from pregnancy.
After the child is born, he also continues to buy him all kinds of books, plastic, cardboard, three-dimensional, starting from his touching, nibbling, tearing, and playing with books, so that books and him become good friends.
This is probably the "hard environment" I provide him with, and the easiest thing for him to access every day is books.
In addition, I myself often read, which is actually a demonstration, the child will have a perception, the book is a good thing, the mother also likes.
Before the child is five years old, my time with him is very limited, but when I spend time with him, one of the things I do the most is to read to him, which is a parent-child activity that we all like.
I remember when I was very young, he would often sit on my lap, I would read to him, he would use his eyes to read the contents of the book, he would also go to the book, pull the book, grab the book, I think these are all part of his participation in reading.
Slowly, as he listened and watched, he learned a lot of words and learned how to read.
Don't "teach" your child to read
Sometimes, we will be very anxious, want to confirm whether the child has learned a certain word, a certain word, or a certain sentence pattern, and want the child to learn more, so we constantly ask the child (the heart is to test), which will cause the child's disgust, and even erase his interest in reading.
I remember once reading a set of "Shaun the Sheep" storybook with my child, that set of books has parent-child interaction behind each story, let the child express the relevant content in the story, I hope that the child can "learn" to express, but the child is very unhappy, he only wants to see the story, and does not want to do those exercises, and does not want to endure the embarrassment and frustration that cannot be answered.
I also did something that maybe a lot of mothers do, teaching children to read, maybe reading when reading, maybe a literacy card or a literacy app. I let my children know the word cards when I was in kindergarten, but the effect was not very good, and I finally gave up after about a month.
However, I found that when he began to read on his own, he did not have many literacy problems, and most valuablely, he was still passionate about reading. To be honest, he didn't like to do homework very much, but he only read this homework every day and took the initiative to complete it every day, never needing to urge.
Write at the end
After talking so much, I actually want to say that no matter what methods and techniques, there is no "love" in the heart to be important, to make children fall in love with reading, the key is to make him feel that reading is happy, not painful, forced.
Thankfully, I didn't erase my love of reading because I wanted to "teach" my child to learn some reading skills. I hope that reading can become the love of his life and accompany him throughout his life.