Author | There are bookshow
Source | There is a book (ID: youshucc)
Anchor | Fan Deng Reading · Children
Home is a person's ultimate destination.
People live a lifetime, and the picture is that the family is full of happiness.
In life, some people can run the family very well, and some people can make a lot of chicken feathers.
Leo Tolstoy said:
"Happy families are the same, unhappy families are different."
When a person reaches a certain age, he will know that the true blessing is not asked for, but cultivated by himself.
The most blessed family is to learn to give up.
Can you believe it? Sometimes, one sentence can change your destiny.
A while ago, I saw a particularly heart-wrenching news.
Yang, 31, took his wife and one-year-old daughter to a friend's house for dinner.
On the way home, he and his wife began to talk about some trivial matters.
But neither of the two people was willing to bow their heads first, so they began to complain to each other, and the more they quarreled, the more fierce.
The atmosphere became more and more stiff, and the wife put her daughter on the co-pilot and jumped out of the car.
Eventually, his wife died, and he was imprisoned.
Writer Liu Na said:
"Emotion is a gun, and when we pull the trigger of emotion, the muzzle of the gun is actually aimed at ourselves."
This is especially true in the family, your complaints, accusations, and complaints, seemingly to take the other party out of anger, in fact, in the end, you are also full of scars.
There is no perfect person, and there is no perfect marriage.
A good family starts with cutting off unpleasant emotions.
Understand each other, support each other, talk well, and even the bitter days have a warm sweetness.
The marriage between the poet Yu Guangzhong and his wife Fan Yicun has been passed down as a good story by the world, but they did not get along well at the beginning.
When she first got married, Yu Guangzhong was busy and ignored her wife for several days in a row.
At first, his wife did not adapt and complained that he did not care about himself, but later felt that his creation was really important and forgave him.
Yu Guangzhong was touched by his wife's thoughtfulness several times and once confessed:
"She helped me out of the world and let me write calmly in the back, and I am very grateful to her."
In this way, one does not complain, one understands gratitude, and they have walked hand in hand for 61 years.
There is a saying: "Home is not a place of reason, but a place of affection." ”
In the family, there is no need to argue about right and wrong in many things, and there is no need to argue between each other about what is high or low.
Because whether you win or lose, you hurt the people closest to you.
Don't complain about the other person's inadequacies, don't worry about how much you pay.
Appreciate each other, tolerate each other, let the home become a warm, healing harbor, dissolve all tiredness and unbearable.
In this way, you are more powerful when you move forward in a complex world.
Have you ever experienced anything like this:
When you go home, push the door and see that the house is in a mess, the clutter and courier are scattered on the ground, and the clothes and socks are piled up on the sofa, and your emotions will instantly become irritable.
But when you push the door and see that the house is neatly packed, simple and tidy, even the depressed mood will immediately improve.
This is the influence of the environment on a person's magnetic field.
Social development is getting faster and faster, and the material that everyone has is also increasing.
Endless clothes, unused cosmetics, old electronic devices, and other things that were no longer used were piled up, and the room was stuffed and bloated.
As the saying goes, "Your room is your feng shui." ”
Clean room, can sweep away the tiredness of the body, let the mind light.
If a person lives in a dirty house for a long time, not only will his mood become very bad, but his luck will also decline.
As one author said:
"If your room is dirty, I regret to tell you that your good luck and dreams will slip away."
The road is simple, abandoning what is not needed, simple and quiet, the family will be harmonious, and good luck will come.
The book "Breaking Away" has conveyed this idea to people:
When a room is filled with things for a long time, all the waste products will continue to emit exhaust gas.
If people are in it for a long time, they will gradually become paralyzed, so that they can absorb these exhaust gases 24 hours a day.
In other words, the room is full of debris, which will release the exhaust gas that affects the mood, so that you will unconsciously fall into a state of chronic poisoning.
People tend to pay attention to food safety and clothing quality, but it is easy to ignore the quality of breathing that cannot be seen or touched.
It is as important as food and water and affects the fortunes of the entire family.
The poet Hong Mai wrote in the Yi Jian Zhi: "The clear window is clean, and there is the peace of sitting and lying down." ”
This means that staying in a clean and bright house is very comfortable at all times.
Clothes that are no longer worn, items that are no longer used, are all discarded.
Don't let unnecessary things disturb the mood of the family, clean up regularly, let the family live in a clean environment, and promote a more harmonious relationship with each other.
The good fortune of a family starts with tidying up the room, and the cleaner the home, the more blessed the people are.
Mr. Yang Dai wrote a passage in "The Two of Us":
"Our home is very simple; the three of us, very simple.
We have no needs from the world, no quarrels with others, but only to get together, to stay together, and to do what we can.
When we encounter difficulties, we bear them together, and the difficulties are no longer difficult; we accompany each other, no matter what bitter and difficult things, they can become sweet.
When we are a little happy, we will also become very happy. ”
In life, many people like to make friends in various circles, always thinking that with more connections, life will be smooth.
As everyone knows, the so-called circles are mostly just a scene at the dinner table.
When you encounter difficulties, the only one who is really willing to help you is your family.
So, don't neglect your family because you pursue ineffective socializing.
True success is to stay with your family and be healthy and healthy, and to live in harmony for a lifetime.
Speaking of which, I can't help but think of two people.
The first one is Zhou Runfa.
As the hottest superstar in the Hong Kong showbiz industry in the 80s, he married the plain-looking Chen Huilian when he was at his brightest.
For more than 30 years, he spent most of his time with his wife, except for acting.
Go to the wet market together; give interviews together; travel far away together...
His wife liked flowers, so he often bought flowers to go home; his wife liked to eat crabs, and as soon as the crabs were on the market, he ran to buy them and steam them.
He even said:
"After so many years of marriage with her, we spent almost most of our time together, not even separated for a few hours at most."
The second is Chen Daoming.
In addition to his excellent acting skills, Chen Daoming is also famous for rarely socializing.
After he and his wife Du Xian got married, they accompanied each other and never abandoned.
Others chased fame and profit and squeezed their heads, but he deliberately avoided the disturbances in the circle and put all his energy on the family.
Pinch a small sugar man for his daughter and sew a "Chen leather bag" for his wife.
At the age of 60, he lamented:
"We sat under the window together. She embroidered her flowers and plants, and I cut my leather bag.
The leaves outside the window are silent, and the time inside the house is quiet. ”
In a lifetime, the warmest friend is the family, and the most reliable backing is the family.
No matter how many confidants and deep friendships, they cannot withstand the hardships and hardships of their families.
When people reach middle age, they understand that the only people who really accompany you are your family.
A family, peaceful and peaceful together, no matter how hard the day, a little happiness is happy.
Emerson said:
"The family is the kingdom of the father, the world of the mother, the paradise of the child."
At a certain age, I understand that what really determines the quality of life is the family.
The blessing of a family is the effort of all.
Forward to the family, from now on, learn to give up and gather blessings for your family.
Click "Watching" and encourage your friends.
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