Recently, there is a very popular video on the Internet, women and their husbands from the Chinese New Year's Eve to the tenth grade, every day to wear the clothes to match well. However, if you look closely, a woman's clothes are not resampled every day, and her husband's clothes are not changed, and they are the same set of clothes from beginning to end.
I have seen several such videos, and many male netizens said: Is this what women call "no clothes to wear"?
Some netizens said that they remembered the high school teacher, who did not change his coat for a month, which is really not false.
Every time when it comes to changing seasons, women feel that there is no clothes to wear, and men can wear a dress for more than ten years, which is really not exaggerated.
Why do you still feel that there is no clothes to wear in a whole cabinet of clothes?
Why do I feel like I can't finish work every day?
Why do you obviously have a lot of styles of dishes at home, or can't help but buy them?
Why didn't the box where you bought something work, but you didn't throw it away?
When you feel that life is a mess, it is difficult for you to achieve a clean and tidy living space, in fact, your obsession with objects is a manifestation of your spiritual obsession.
"Breaking away is not simply disposing of debris and throwing away waste, but awakening the "circulating" breath of life in the river of isolated human growth. —— Hideko Yamashita, "Breaking Away"
By throwing away the material debris, we can clean up the distractions in our hearts, liberate ourselves, and find our true selves.
First, learn to break, give up, and leave in order to find your true self
As we all know, our body will grow with time, there will be some problems, there will be a lot of metabolic substances in the body, if you do not get metabolized for a long time, then the body will sooner or later have problems.
If we regard our living environment, that is, our home as a person's body, in the same way, it also needs to be "metabolized", and there must be "in" and "out", so as to ensure the health of our living environment.
"Its biggest purpose is to shake up our deep-rooted 'value of goods' and encourage us to shake off inertia and take action to promote life and its metabolism, thus ushering in a new life." ”
In the book "Breaking Away", the author describes the purpose of breaking away in this way, and the most fundamental purpose is to return to us people, make our lives more quality, and make life come alive.
After reading this book, I have benefited a lot, if we can do break, give up, and leave, it will not only be beneficial to our mentality and life, but also greatly help our social and work.
I've seen a data before, a study in the United States showed that women who can dress up in the same work ability, their average salary is twenty percent higher than others.
This has a lot to do with the fact that many women say that there are no clothes to wear in the closet, that you are full of clothes in the cupboard, but there is no one to like, and it also proves that your taste is not very good, or that your taste should be improved.
Those clothes you don't like, and those things that the salesman fooled you with, why not throw them away? When you choose to shop according to your own needs, you have your own taste, so that every item you buy is what you like, forming your own unique style.
In the process of item metabolism, it is also a process of constantly improving taste, throwing away waste, making you feel refreshed physically and mentally, and buying more textured items than before, in order to make yourself truly feel that the quality of life has improved.
So, I think everyone should learn to cut corners.
Second, obstruction = obsession
Before reading this book, like many people, I was obsessed with many things, many things that would not be used at all were reluctant to throw away, things were bought back and used only once to be "hidden in the snow", some clothes have not been worn for two or three years, but because "it is very expensive when buying", they are not willing to throw away.
To practice "breaking away", the first step is to throw things, but many people can't do it. There are three main categories of these people, see which one you belong to:
1, escapist type: because they are very busy, do not have the time and energy to clean up the housework, over time, more and more debris at home, the workload of sorting out is also getting bigger and bigger, so they choose to escape, and even do not want to stay at home.
2, clinging to the past type: this kind of people are very nostalgic, they are not willing to throw, such as the clothes worn by children when they were young, the wardrobe they bought when they got married, even if they are very worn now, they are still reluctant to throw them away, very nostalgic.
3, worry about the future type: among the three types, this kind of person is the most, likes to hoard things, worried that it will be used in the future, or this thing may be useful in the future, afraid of not being able to buy or increase in price in the future.
We can understand these kinds of psychology, but if these items affect your living space and consume a lot of energy and time to sort it out, there is no need to keep it at all.
Third, the standard of "throwing things"
"If you want to regain a healthy living space in the future, you have to throw away a lot of things at the beginning."
However, which things to throw and which things to keep, you can decide based on these 3 "axes":
1. Self axis
You just have to think about one thing: do I want to use this thing?
The object in front of you, you don't have to consider whether it can be used, but to think about whether you want this thing, if you don't want it, even if it is brand new, it is useless for you to keep it.
2. Timeline
In the three categories mentioned above, they all have one thing in common, they are not living in the "now", in fact, this is not also a waste of their time and energy?
After I gave birth to a child, I gained more than ten pounds, and I couldn't lose it, and some clothes couldn't be worn at all, but I was reluctant to throw them away, and I always thought that I could wear them later when I lost weight.
A while ago, I was tidying up the closet, and I packed it all up and threw it into the laundry recycling bin.
3. Other people's shafts
Some things are not what you need at all, such as a friend giving you a lipstick, but you don't like it, never use it, because it is sent by someone else, and you always receive it.
We give gifts, very few people can do what they like, you send things, others do not like, if you deal with it, do not have to be too sad.
4. Material axis
Is this thing expensive, or is it brand new? Can't throw.
If you still use this kind of thinking to organize items, you are caught in the endless cycle of collecting "waste". You have to think about your own needs, not think from the perspective of an object: I am useful, although it is not useful to you, but you cannot throw me away.
When you judge which items can be kept and which things should be thrown, if you can judge from the criteria of these 4 "axes", it is easy to make a decision.
If you still feel that there is nothing to throw away, it means that your obsession is too deep and you are not ready to "renovate" your life.
Fourth, "throwing" also requires strategy
When breaking off the debris, first briefly understand the meaning of these 3 words:
Cut: Cut off the way of huge and miscellaneous items. Discard: Discard unwanted items. Detachment: In the repeated breaks and houses, get rid of the obsession with objects.
When you have a goal, it's much easier to do, and here Hideko Yamashita proposes the principle of "necessary, appropriate, and pleasant", which is very instructive for "throwing" things.
In fact, it is to let everyone use the "self axis" as a benchmark to choose between clutter: "Is this thing necessary for me?" Is it right for me? Is it a pleasure to use? ”。
Those things that are "not needed, inappropriate, unpleasant", are what you don't need, are useless to you, and keeping them will only increase your troubles.
Specific how to do, Hideko Yamashita listed the steps in great detail, I summarized it, the main steps are 3 points:
1. Out
Take out the items, let yourself be able to know in your heart, at this time, you may find that there are many things you have long forgotten, such items are still left for what?
This step, you can step by step according to the living space and the type of items, such as kitchen, wardrobe, bathroom, bookcase, etc.
2. Throw
When throwing things away, you can also take three steps: how to look at the garbage is garbage; take "self, time" as the standard to judge the relevance of items to yourself for trade-offs; take "necessary, suitable, and pleasant" as the benchmark for the item dormitory.
3. Receive
When you throw away the unwanted debris, the items will be greatly reduced, and at this time, you will feel comfortable to store.
After throwing away a lot of things, the storage space is naturally enough, and you will find that those storage boxes and storage cabinets may also be "waste".
In fact, many things, some of them are more convenient, if not, they will not worry, but many of us just can't help but buy, just to satisfy their shopping desires.
Only by constantly disposing of those things that are not needed can we focus on those items that are "highly related to life = like" in this process, so as to gradually form a spiraling life route. ”
When you eliminate your attachment to matter, your spiritual world will also be enhanced, which may be the sentence in the preface written by Chen Shu to this book: Do the subtraction of matter, the addition of spirit!
Fifth, get rid of attachment, give up and get
Dong Qing once went to Milan, the fashion capital of the world, and people around her asked her to see the new spring and summer styles of the first-line brands there, because most women like to dress up.
Dong Qing is different, she thinks: "But as a girl, that material feeling suddenly faded, and I myself wondered, maybe the spiritual world is too rich, when you are rich to a certain extent, another pursuit may be weak." ”
Yeah, why did you buy so many things and still feel like it wasn't enough? Why do you have to buy new clothes every season, or do you have no clothes to wear? Why do you keep buying and buying a lot of clothes for your children?
On the surface, what we throw away is debris, but at the same time we throw away the invisible world— the "superfluous obsession" in the heart.
Some time ago, a boy "cried" that his mother bought him too many clothes, and another boy hated his mother's courier too much, are these things really all necessities?
I think it is of little use to improve the quality of life in this way, but it will make life more troublesome.
"After attaching an object, the heavier the emotion attached to it, the more you can feel what lightness is in your heart."
Nowadays, many people have begun to practice a minimalist life, they truly appreciate their own needs, reduce material desires, you can really live a comfortable and casual life, reduce the burden on life, starting from "breaking, giving up, leaving".
Author: Muzi
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