Yesterday, a reader confided in me that he had been very unhappy recently, because a male colleague of the company, Xiao Jiang, sent her back home several times, which brought her special trouble.
Because she had just arrived at the company not long ago, and Xiao Jiang had intersected at work, every time she worked overtime until late, Xiao Jiang would offer to drive her home.
For her, Xiao Jiang is the relationship between ordinary friends and colleagues, and she has not refused his kindness. But then, once after work, when she was preparing to get into Xiaojiang's car, a woman rushed over from the opposite side and scolded her, saying that she didn't want her face, seducing other people's husbands, and so on.
At that time, she was really confused by the second monk, and she asked the woman, "Why do you say that?" The woman yelled at her again, "I'm his wife." ”
Although this matter was explained clearly later, it had a great impact on her, and many people in the company who did not know the truth were talking about her behind her back, saying that she and Xiao Jiang must have something unseemly, otherwise why would Xiao Jiang's wife scold her like that.
She couldn't stand such criticism and went to the company to quit her job.
She felt that she was very wronged, obviously nothing had happened to her and Xiao Jiang, why did she have to bear such a criticism of reversing black and white?
I have to say that many times the interaction between the opposite sex is so sensitive, especially when getting along with married people, if we don't pay attention, we will let ourselves fall into an inexplicable emotional vortex.
Maybe your heart has always been clean, but it does not mean that the other party has not thought of anything, just like this reader just now, after this incident she thought about it carefully, Xiao Jiang usually has some differences with her, such as: every day will buy her breakfast, every night will say goodnight to her on WeChat, etc., but she does not care.
Therefore, these performances of married men, women should be vigilant, in order to protect themselves from falling into the emotional whirlpool.
01
Always looking for opportunities to approach you, appearing in front of you frequently.
There is a word called "brush presence", when a man always appears in front of you without any reason, it means that he wants to get your attention, and after getting acquainted with you, he will have more opportunities to further develop with you.
Like a friend I know, she herself belongs to the kind of person who has a big grin and usually doesn't pay much attention to details. A married man on the unit always showed all kinds of overtures to her, and a friend saw the other's intentions and reminded her to pay attention, she always smiled and said, we are just friends, it's okay.
However, later, in frequent contact with each other, her heart slowly changed, and the two slowly developed from ordinary friends to lovers.
In the end, this matter was discovered by the other party's wife, and she made a big fuss in the unit, and then she could not stay in the unit anymore and resigned.
So if you find that a married man is always looking for opportunities to be with you, be vigilant, otherwise the person who will be hurt in the end will be you.
02
Always look for an opportunity to give you some gifts.
We often say that there is some truth in reaching out and not hitting people with smiling faces, taking people's hands short, and eating people's mouths softly.
In a relationship, when a man wants to pursue a woman, he will definitely take the way of giving gifts, and he will also spend a lot of money to buy some expensive gifts for women, the purpose of which is to get you as a person.
Maybe initially he would say when he gave you a gift, just a thank you between friends, thank you for your help at work in the recent period, etc.
After you accept the other person's thanks, he will have more and more actions, and you will receive gifts from him on your birthday or Valentine's Day.
If after this you still do not know how to refuse, then you are not far from the road of sinking, so you should be cautious in receiving gifts, and if you don't get it right, you will let yourself fall into the gentle township of the other party.
03
Often complain with you about how bad his wife is.
This is the usual trick of cheating men, he complains in front of you that his wife is not considerate of him enough, not understanding him enough, in fact, it is to win your sympathy for him.
So, if a man comes to you and says that his wife is not good, then you must put away your sympathy, because your sympathy is likely to bring you an unexpected storm.
And a man who always says bad things about his wife in front of outsiders must be an irresponsible scumbag for the family, such a man is simply unreliable.
In short, we must be vigilant against these manifestations of married men, and always remind ourselves that we can prevent problems before they occur and save ourselves from some unnecessary harm in our feelings.