Quanzhou Anshen Psychological Hospital: Children's boredom is actually a term for children, because they do not have a good way to solve the problem of children's boredom (if they can't solve it, they go to school to learn, so some children are bored with school). For school-weary children, experts must learn in school, not to mention parents. So, how can parents help their children overcome school aversion? In fact, how to overcome boredom is not a big problem, but first of all, we must understand, and secondly, we must have patience and perseverance.
According to expert analysis, there are mainly the following reasons for children's aversion to school:
1. Parents' rights: The consequence of too high and too strict requirements is that children are easily afraid of failure, resulting in loss of self-motivation and lack of motivation to learn. Especially when parents take tough, authoritarian measures, children will retaliate against their parents in a rebellious way. Because they can't guarantee that they won't make mistakes, it's even harder to make their parents happy. Even if a child tries his best, he or she will not be able to get a satisfactory return from his parents. Over time, children feel that they are losers, especially when they think back to the doting and free life of their parents before going to school, and they will hate learning more and more.
2. Too low or too indulgent. Most children enter the school with a sense of freshness and are not mentally prepared for learning and life. If parents think too lowly of their children, busy with their own affairs all day, ignore the psychological changes of their children after entering school, and let themselves go. Once the child encounters difficulties, he will feel that learning is too hard and lose interest. They will definitely lose motivation and then get bored with school.
3. Serious family conflicts: Living in a family with frequent disputes, children will have too much trouble and have no time to take care of homework. Seeing that the happiness of life is constantly under serious threat, how can he take school lessons seriously? The fierce quarrels and high tension in the family, especially the parents are emotional, do not take care of the children, and even use the children as a punching bag, further increase the seriousness of the problem.
4. Children's own problems: children's psychological development is immature. Although the child's intelligence is normal, but the social adaptability is poor, naïve, lack of enterprising spirit, will lead to learning inadaptability.
5. Lack of self-confidence. At first, children are very interested in learning and are very confident. However, children's creativity and unusual behavior are often suppressed by conservative, stereotyped, and score-oriented parents. As a result, children can not only be proud of their uniqueness and creativity, but also feel weird and incompetent, giving up on themselves.
6. School problems: the study burden is too heavy; school life is too tense; school discipline is too strict and rigid; children are often bullied in school.
7. Poor learning environment: parents do not love to learn; poor learning conditions and so on.