At the end of the year, many places have started construction one after another, and many young people can't wait to return to their posts, not to love work, but to "stay" at home. Because the marriage urged by family and relatives is really dizzying and bitter.
"It's not like you don't get married."
"What will you do when you get old without children?"
"You'll regret it later."
Words of doubt have plunged young people who want to remain single into contemplation.
But is there only one trajectory in life?
Ye Haiyang, who is now 32 years old, has embarked on a different path with his own ability. In 2018, she spent 500,000 yuan to buy sperm abroad and gave birth to a 5-country mixed baby, so how is she and her children doing now? Do you regret it?
Ye Haiyang is an ordinary person, but her life is not ordinary.
She was born in an ordinary family in Changchun, Jilin Province, and although she had no worries about food and clothing, her conditions were not good. But it is such a woman, at a young age, she has worked hard in society to create her own business, create her own company and brand, and become a CEO.
Today's achievements are inseparable from the hardships, sweat and blood and tears behind her. Whenever Ye Haiyang's parents talked about it, they couldn't help but blush. Even if the child does not say it, when they also know how much effort it takes for a girl to get to this point.
Watching his parents work hard to earn money for their own schooling and study, Ye Haiyang, who was young, in addition to studying well, saving money and frugality, and not letting his parents worry, his biggest wish was to make a lot of money in the future and let his parents live a good life.
Later, when the family had financial problems, Ye Haiyang really couldn't bear his parents to worry about his expensive tuition fees anymore, and resolutely chose to quit school. In the face of the unknown future life, Ye Haiyang was not as confused as other people of the same age, but had a clear plan in his mind.
If you want to earn money, you have to go to the big city. Therefore, Ye Haiyang walked out of the small county town and came to Guangzhou. In the face of the bustling world of red and green lights, she has always adhered to her heart, down-to-earth, and struggled from scratch.
In her part-time work days, she keenly found that the cosmetics market is particularly hot, and women's purchasing power is also excellent. After staring at this piece of meat, Ye Haiyang began to draw on this knowledge of the drill camp.
With the longer she went to Guangzhou, the more things Ye Haiyang saw, the more her vision and insight expanded, and she also met some contacts, she felt that the time was almost up, so she left her original post and created her own brand.
No one's entrepreneurial road is smooth, but the thorns everywhere are not enough to crush the tough Ye Ocean. She gritted her teeth, believing that as long as she persevered, she would be able to make money.
No matter how bitter and tired he was, or what grievances he had suffered, Ye Haiyang never said anything, gritted his teeth and swallowed the tears into his stomach, let alone tell his parents about his hardships, for fear that they would be distressed and uncomfortable.
Fortunately, her hard work was not in vain, and after a few months, Ye Haiyang's business improved and became better and better. On the day the sales broke through 10,000, the girl in her twenties was so happy that she almost jumped up and excitedly told her parents the good news.
The original poor days are gone, Ye Haiyang and her family's life has become more and more prosperous, she has completely become a successful person among friends, and even some friends jokingly call her a "domineering female president".
Ye Haiyang's parents are satisfied with such a life, in their view, money can never be earned, and they must understand enough. As a result, Ye Haiyang's single problem was put on the agenda.
Her parents thought she was so busy, how nice it would be to find a boyfriend to help her and give her a shoulder to lean on when she felt tired. But Ye Haiyang didn't think so.
Originally busy with her career, Ye Haiyang never thought about falling in love, and now that her career is successful, her mind has become more mature and independent, and she feels that she does not need to rely on others. The reality of life had already taught her that it was better to rely on others than on herself.
In addition, the unhappy marriage of her friends and widowed parenting are also one of the reasons why she does not want to get married. In her opinion, she can do everything a man can do, why find someone to interfere with her originally planned life.
But this kind of thinking cannot be accepted by parents with traditional ideas. Faced with the urging of his parents to get married, Ye Haiyang had to find an excuse that he was still young and wanted to take advantage of this time to work hard for a few more years.
After being pushed back a few times, his parents also understood that no amount of it would help, so they no longer urged marriage, but Ye Haiyang had his own ideas.
Although she does not want to get married, she likes children very much, especially when she sees other people's cute and loving babies, her heart will melt. So she made the bold decision to buy sperm, conceive alone, and become a single mother.
Although single mothers are more difficult and not fair to their children, Ye Haiyang is confident that he can give her children full of love and make up for the lack of paternal love. After this idea came into being, it had been lingering in Ye Haiyang's mind, and finally, she couldn't help but tell her parents about it.
After some discussion, Ye Haiyang was surprised and delighted that her parents had agreed to her seemingly absurd idea. Just tell her to think well, this is not a small matter, once the child has it, there is no room for regret.
Ye Haiyang had already thought very clearly, the only thing to worry about was her parents' opposition, and now that her parents nodded, she set out to do it. But soon, she discovered a problem that domestic sperm banks were not open to single women, which forced her to turn her attention abroad.
After careful screening, Ye Haiyang went to a foreign IVF institution and selected the sperm of a cheerful donor born in a prestigious school. After deciding on the choice, Ye Haiyang began to prepare, coincidentally, the donor she chose was still a four-country mixed-race child, plus her, and the future child would be a five-country mixed-race child.
From the beginning of the selection of the institution to the final successful conception, Ye Haiyang spent a total of half a million, but she felt that it was all worth it. Especially after the birth of the child, looking at the child's small face, she felt that she was simply the happiest person in the world.
She named the child Doris, which means small gift in Greek, meaning the best gift from Heaven. To this daughter, she poured out all her love and gave the best possible to the child.
She happily posted photos of herself and her daughter on social networks, wanting to share her happiness, but she did not want to fall into the storm of public opinion.
For her foreign spending 500,000 yuan to buy sperm to give birth to a 5-country mixed-race child, the Internet has mixed praise, some say that she is brave and cool, and some say that she is selfish and reckless. There are even vicious people who say that children have no father and lack of fatherly love, which may be psychologically distorted.
The negative news is like snowflakes after an avalanche pouring down, all pressed on Ye Haiyang's body. But none of this could bring her down, she just wanted to have a child, to be an ordinary mother, there was nothing wrong with it, and she had never hurt anyone.
As for some netizens asking how to explain to the child that she does not have a father in the future, Ye Haiyang made a clever move, took the child to take a group of photos, put the child into the hollowed out watermelon, and later said that the child jumped out of the watermelon.
In fact, Ye Haiyang recorded everything about the child, and decided that when the child was older, he would tell her the truth and would not hide it. She believes her daughter can understand herself.
And even if Ye Haiyang is busy with work, she still takes out a lot of things to accompany her daughter, taking her out to eat, play, and shop, just like other mothers and daughters.
Now in the blink of an eye, two and a half years have passed, Doris is not as lacking as some netizens said, but has grown into a lively and cheerful little girl. She has big eyes, dark like grapes, and she is very cute when she laughs.
Once, Ye Haiyang was working, and her daughter ran over to play with her mother, and her small hands were not waving around, especially for the computer used for work, which was very curious. If one did not pay attention, the child did not know what to point to, and the files in the computer were deleted by her.
Ye Haiyang was momentarily angry and was trying to teach the child a lesson, but a pair of innocent little faces on the child also called "Mother" softly, and the suffocation in her chest dissipated at once.
From the moment the child was born, Ye Haiyang was determined to strive to play the role of a good mother and father, and with her full of love, let the child grow up healthy and happy, she did it.
Although Ye Haiyang's behavior of buying sperm and giving birth to children abroad was in an uproar, no one could deny her clear and deep love for her children. And in the photos she posted, each one has a child's innocent and natural smiling face, coupled with the favorable conditions that Ye Haiyang can provide for the child, who dares to be sure that the child will be unhappy?
With the passage of time, the original voices of dissatisfaction and doubt have gradually disappeared, more and more people choose to support and encourage, and everything is developing in a good direction. In May 2021, Ye Haiyang flew to Russia for a second embryo implantation, and this time, she was more courageous and confident.
Mrs. Carnegie once said, "Don't pay too much attention to the appearance and form of the family, but most importantly, pay attention to the atmosphere that is unique to the family, full of love, warmth, and clarity." ”
As long as the child can grow up in a loving environment, the specific structural form may not matter.