On a first date, if you accidentally leave a bad impression, how to save it?

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Hello everyone, the strict and gentle Brother Chen, who is dedicated to telling the big truth, has reappeared.

Why do other boys go so fast on the first date, the sky thunders the fire, and the next second they determine that the relationship is called husband and wife?

And you, when dating, not only awkwardly buckled out a set of three rooms and a living room with your toes, but also tossed and turned all night and couldn't sleep, and when you think about it, you feel that you haven't played well anywhere.

As a result, it is not okay for you to chat with other people's sisters, and you think that seeing the light is dead, the whole child is self-doubting, and life is gray.

Don't think that this is not saved, there is no brother Chen! Today we will talk about this file, master a few small methods, from the dead to life that is not a minute, a key three consecutive walk a wave we immediately start!

#1 Don't focus too much on yourself

Some little brothers are too sensitive, people a word, an action, a look, you can think of a dance, the heart staged a big drama.

As a result, people have not yet done anything, but they are nervous and breathless. Don't do it, okay?

There is an effect in psychology called the "focus effect", people tend to pay too much attention to themselves, amplify their behavior and feelings, and think of themselves as that focus.

Didn't I say, little brother, let's not be too narcissistic? Don't focus on yourself, should you put it on her?

You're scratching your liver in this awkward way, and people may not have noticed at all? Before long, you won't even forget what you look like, and you'll want to go on your own!

So when it is time to forget, forget it painfully, don't think about it all day long, there is no help at all, and it will affect your normal play.

Do you know why puppies are so happy every day? That's because people forget! There is nothing to learn from other puppies, although single but happy!

#2 Avoid minefields

As long as the first date is not a big problem, find a reason, and it won't be too difficult to make another date.

I'm afraid that you will finish dating someone's girl to give you a next time, then you should give up as soon as possible, this pain is only the most understood by Brother Chen...

But this re-appointment must avoid the minefield, otherwise I don't know how cold it is!

Minefield One: Too Egotistical

It's good to schedule ahead of time when it comes to dating, but it's not for you to make decisions for girls.

After eating, people girls want to go to the milk tea shop to buy a cup of milk tea, you can accompany people to go, don't be stupid and can still drink it?

Don't we just say it's good to watch the movie directly? Oh, you're working together to see the movie? Can't buy a ticket directly to see the end of it?

Still so much trouble, patronizing self-talk, straight men don't bring such a straight, right?

Say that Brother Chen is angry! Oops, I accidentally substituted it, sorry. However, this is not rough, we must not be too self-ego when dating, a little eyesight.

Look at what the other party needs, won't the quality of this date come up, or are you afraid that there is no good image in the heart of the girl?

Minefield two: Too assertive

Some of the little brothers listened to Brother Chen's words and began to deviate again. I mean don't let you be too egotistical, not unassertive, why can't you master this degree? uncomfortable.

Let you understand her needs is not to ask her everything, you have to prepare in advance to show your intentions, know more about people's preferences.

Put into the dating arrangement, during the period to listen to her thoughts, this is simply a perfect boyfriend, the girl wants to not move I see it is very difficult.

Minefield Three: There are out-of-line words and deeds

Did the little brothers expose their needs prematurely on the first date?

I will ask people what they want from their boyfriends? How does it feel to chat with me? Can I be my girlfriend? stop! Okay, this time you are not embarrassed, Brother Chen is embarrassed for you!

There are also some little brothers who don't care how much they talk to other girls on the Internet, this is not okay!

If you want to develop in the long run, this determination must be there! Otherwise, before the image was established, even the foundation would have been destroyed.

#3 Relationship warming up small tip

Give Brother Chen a look at how many little brothers have not stepped on the thunder to live until now, and give yourself a wave of deductions worthy of me! Whoops!

But this date ah, light lightning can not do, but also have to add some BUFF.

For example, this meal, it is best to sit side by side, not only less embarrassing, the distance between the two is also close, breaking the other party's psychological defense line, the relationship will not develop rapidly.

Do you know the word "emotional pulse"? Proper gaze at each other can convey love, so ah, like her must look at her a few times!

Nagging so much, the little brothers can remember, otherwise this date is the last time and not the next time!

Finally, Brother Chen reminds you again, you must maintain a normal heart, you are not in love, you are nervous and suffer from loss, this is a big taboo in love!

Two people get along comfortably, this relationship can be long-lasting! I hope that all the little brothers can harvest warm love in winter

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