Why do girls prefer boys with more exes?

Hello everyone, your morning brother, suddenly appeared.

I am not exaggerating at all, eight or nine of the 10 little brothers will ask me, compared with the boys with more predecessors, the looks and abilities are similar, but why do girls still like boys with more exes?

Aren't you afraid that he's a scumbag?

Who told you that if you talk too much about love, you are a scumbag? Don't this idleness first, in fact, what really makes girls feel excited is the male traits that boys with many predecessors have exercised in the past love process.

Then these boys with male traits are called high emotional intelligence men, and conversely, we call him...

So where is the difference, not much to say, analyze a wave.

#1 Follow the girls and lead the girls

There was once a psychology professor who did such an experiment.

That is to give three hundred dollars to the single boy in the mother's fetus and the boy who is experienced in love, so that they can chase the same beautiful girl.

The single boy who is single in the mother's fetus gets the money and immediately buys lipstick and a skirt, while fantasizing about the picture of the girl being moved to tears while sending it to the girl.

After the rich boy in love got the money, he went to the barber shop, took a hundred yuan to make a shape, took the remaining money to meet three beautiful girls to eat, and sent the group photo of the dinner to the circle of friends by the way.

What do you think the result will be? Anyway, it was quite dramatic, the girl wore the lipstick sent by the single man in the mother's fetus, wore the dress he bought, and went on a date with the boy who took a picture of the beautiful woman.

I'm just going to be a good guy.

But in fact, you taste carefully, behind this involves a male trait that we said earlier, that is, the recognition of the people around you.

In fact, others will often judge your value and level through the people and things around you, that is, we often say that the near Zhu is red, and the near ink is black.

Girls judge the comprehensive value of a boy, do not need to communicate with you, only look at your behavior, dress, circle of friends, basically there will be a preliminary conclusion.

Therefore, the single male of the mother and fetus in the experiment, to chase after beautiful girls, is very inferior, and before it starts, he pays for the girls, and it is difficult to get the favor of the girls.

People will think in their hearts that only low-value people will pay high-value people, and his approach is very low-value.

Look at the other one, the hairstyle is good, well is a person, then there is an urge to contact him.

The point is that he also took photos with several beautiful women, no doubt telling this girl: "Brother, I do not lack heterosexual resources around me." ”

People are sometimes like this, I don't want anyone to want it, and I also want to grab it when a group of people grab it, which is to recognize the value of this boy.

#2 Catering to emotions and leading emotions

Respecting each other is a passerby, and playing is a lover.

Some brothers are like, once they like a girl, they are afraid, afraid of what.

Afraid that if I invite myself to watch a movie, the girl will not come, so I can only test.

Afraid that the gifts sent are inappropriate, the girls don't like it, and then pay more.

Afraid that after saying the wrong thing, the girl is not happy to snub herself, so the chat is more careful.

I want to ask these little brothers, do you think this is love?

Sweet, happy, appreciative, inclusive, where? Obviously, none.

If you take the halo effect to explain, it is that as long as you think she is beautiful and she is good everywhere, then you will feel that you are not good at anything, that is, even if my needs are not met, it is not worthy.

Look at the experienced boys in love, he will not cater to the emotions of girls, he will only lead the emotions of girls.

Because the lesson they learned from their experience is: if I can't make a girl have mood swings, then this girl can't like me.

So he dared to speak.

For example, the most common is that girls make a good hairstyle and send a selfie in the circle of friends.

He wouldn't immediately come over and praise her: "It's so pretty", just this sentence is estimated that in addition to you, there are ten or eight of them who have commented on it, and what you let her reply, at most a thank you.

I will give you a real example, I saw ah, once a very good boy gave my girlfriend such a reply: "This hairstyle is a little difficult to top Oh" after the match.

It is very subtle, if it is just a simple sentence, it will only make people simply angry, but you add such an expression, it makes people want to be enthusiastic with you.

Then my girlfriend replied to him: You say it again?!

He immediately replied with a sentence, which probably meant: "Fortunately, this hairstyle is on your head, otherwise other girls would not be able to see this hairstyle."

For a moment, you really can't understand whether he praises you or hurts you, it will only be: Hmm, this person really makes me "angry"~

The goal is that I will make your mood fluctuate with a few words.

I let you fluctuate every day, and you still worry that you can't remember me? Still worried that you are not curious about me?

Again, dare I say where else is it manifested?

It is to dare to take a stand.

If the girl doesn't reply to you for half a day, I can imagine what you are like, oh is it that I said the wrong thing? Was it because the last time she saw me, I wasn't happy? I thought I was bald, but I still didn't dare to send messages to people.

What happens to the more experienced boys? It is to ask directly: "Do you usually chat with friends directly?" They will rationalize their attitude.

Anyone who sees this kind of words will be nervous, people are nervous, the heartbeat is accelerated, the suspension bridge effect will work, you don't have to say, it's so simple.

#3 Laissez-faire love and business love

In fact, whether it is the elder brother or the old sister, there is often a question, why did he feel so much at the beginning with him, what days and days and long seas and rocks are also sincere, how to get around or break up?

Popularize a concept for everyone: the positive illusion.

The so-called positive illusion is the meaning of the lover's eyes, we go to find the other half with a beautiful imagination, meet a person who meets the ideal object, and the feeling of love comes.

However, once the hot love period has passed, there is no freshness and it enters the run-in period. Once the run-in period is not handled well, it will pull the crotch, inexperienced, do not know what to do.

Then let it go, isn't that a bad ending?

But where there is a lot of experience, what does he do? That's the mystery of running your own business.

Just like when the game is played, we don't have much expectations for this game, but when you can't play the game, you are in a hurry and you still want to play, and you are clearly sanctioned.

This is the same as creating a sense of mystery. So those who are experienced never go to the bottom at the beginning.

I'll just give a few examples, maybe you sound a bit vulgar, but don't really say, can't stand girls is to eat this set.

For example, he sneaked to learn how to do brown sugar ginger tea, the girl came to the aunt, he ran to the kitchen to click the operation, brought out a bowl of brown sugar ginger tea, we don't say whether the girl can move to cry, at least there is a touch.

For example, he does not say that he can order music, people girls have a birthday, he does not record a guitar singing to send to girls, which is really more intentional than directly sending red envelopes.

That's called surprise, guys.

You imagine it in reverse, for example, if you and a beautiful woman did not meet before chatting, she does not say how beautiful she looks, how beautiful she is, after meeting you look, this is also too beautiful.

But if you two chat when she frantically sends you selfies, sends you a dozen a day, you yourself are numb, and when you meet you, you will only think: Well, the photo is really not P.

Isn't that right, you say?

So in the end, Brother Chen nagged two more words, talking about love itself is a thing that needs to be practiced, don't always hold a so-called Ning Que and no abuse of psychology to find an object, then in turn don't be afraid that others will reject you.

A little thick-skinned, not impatient, let's not say that tomorrow is better than today, at least you are better this year than last year? The so-called planting of plane trees, attracting the phoenix, everyone encouraged it.