Is there a way for girls to like you like star chasers?

Aunt powder, mother powder, daughter powder, girlfriend powder, sister powder, these titles in the eyes of people who do not chase stars, sometimes it is a little incredible.

I have also asked my brother before, Brother Chen, why do you say that girls now watch a drama and fall in love with a husband, why they are always so easy to like boys who are so far away from their lives.

This kind of mood Chen Brother I really understand too much, just like me, my girlfriends around me, their husbands often change ah, today Peng Yuyan, tomorrow Liu Haoran.

Besides, you touch your conscience and ask yourself, you say that none of us have fantasized that our boyfriend and girlfriend are a perfect king of the world.

It's just that boys generally don't show their flower obsession so obviously, only in the middle of the night, a person hiding in the bed...

So today we will talk to you about how to use the psychology of girls chasing stars to make her like us, today is all dry goods, take out your little notebooks, and write them down for me!

First of all, let's popularize a concept, quasi-social relations.

PSR

Parasocial Relationships, or PSR for short. If you know A very well, but A knows nothing about you and doesn't know you at all, then for you, you are in a quasi-social relationship.

For example, if you like Di Li Reba, your nickname is Di Li Reba is my wife, but people don't know you, for you, you are in a quasi-social relationship.

In our real life, the most representative of the quasi-social relationship is the relationship between fans and idols.

Shira Gabriel, a professor of psychology at Buffalo State University in New York, said, "People are basically not at risk of rejection in quasi-social relationships." ”

That is to say, many people go to y y a person who has nothing to do with their own lives because this person meets our beautiful expectations, and this person will not reject us, because she does not know us.

We grew up being rejected by others in some way and to some extent, right?

But some people, her self-esteem is stronger, and rejection will make them feel a lot hurt, so they will be more inclined to relationships where the risk of rejection is less.

So, although this relationship is one-way, it makes people feel happy. A person who is willing and keen to do something, constantly expending energy and time, is not because this thing will make him feel happy!

So today we will talk about the psychology of girls chasing stars and how we use this psychological science to attract girls who like them.

What is the reason

Well, we're going to take a look at it now with the psychology of a fan.

Imagine a situation where, for example, when I see someone through someone else's Amway or other means, the first thing that attracts me is his appearance.

And then, I may find that he has a gentle personality, is humble, and has a lot of skills, so I am on the powder.

But the important point is that we like a person, and most likely in this person we will find that he has something that we don't have, like Li Ziqi.

Why she is liked by so many people, a very important point is that the idyllic and leisurely life she presents is something that many people can't live, looks beautiful, and has strong hands-on ability, so I like her.

Back to the psychology of fans, there is another very important reason, the projection effect, that is, a projection of the same psychology, we tend to like him because we have something in common with the idol we like.

Take girls chasing stars, girls will think that she understands their brother very well, "Ah, worthy of being the person I like, I know him too well" "He is not that kind of person!" You don't know him at all!" ”

For example, if the boys are super fond of a basketball star, you will also like to play basketball. I like not to ask for people, then I must like to eat chicken, right, otherwise I like him to do what!

I like idols because you feel that you have a lot in common, and what he is doing must be something you like, which is what psychology calls the projection effect at work.

Then there's what you see, fans are willing to enjoy everything they want to "be with" their idols.

For example, go to his concerts, collect information about his surroundings, discuss the latest situation of idols with other fans, and follow the TV series and variety shows in which idols participate.

These consumption behaviors are no longer simple consumption behaviors, this is spending money to buy happiness. Then, the more money you spend, the happier you are, the happier you are, the more you spend, the more you spend, the happier you are...

You may not be able to accurately experience this feeling when you watch Brother Chen's video now, or do you want to invest a coin to try?

Maybe the money is getting less and less, but the love is more and more.

It's a feeling of pity for each other. That's the same in love, two people in love, but also a kind of pity for each other.

How to advance the relationship

So how do we use this to attract the girl we like to get closer to her?

First of all, when we know a girl in various ways, you have a good feeling for her, and the first step is for her to notice you.

It must be ours... Clean and comfortable on the line! Although we don't have the face of a star, the overall clean and comfortable atmosphere can be done with thought, brains, and a little money.

Then, for such a girl who has just met, although you can't quickly understand her preferences, we can first go to the right time to let our shining points and advantages be seen by her, which is a plus.

One day she might be likely to exclaim, "Oh, he'll do this?" "What did he do with this?" I don't even know, it looks very powerful. ”

Maybe you will feel embarrassed, but think about it in turn, in fact, you are the same, you like this girl, she must also have the characteristics that attract you, so how is her shining point seen by you? You think about it.

Third, use what you have in common to attract her.

Whether it's a hobby or a common topic, find it and make it a topic of conversation between you and something you can often go with.

Like the projection psychology of the fans we talked about above about idols, most people will like people who have similarities with themselves.

But here I would like to remind you that to dig into your common ground is not to force yourself into what she likes.

Fourth, know how to take appropriately.

Why many brothers have been chasing girls, but the relationship has not been pushed closer, that is, you do not understand, properly to ask for, how important.

People are mutual, you invite me to eat bowl noodles, I buy you a cup of milk tea, Brother Chen brings you happiness, you give a key three consecutive, right?

There is a not very appropriate saying that people owe each other, but it is because of these debts that there is a bond, whether it is with friends or family, it is such a process.

Just as there is some kind of connection between idols and fans, there is actually a relationship of mutual giving between the two.

Then this kind of psychology is the same when we get along with girls, then you have to know how to make her pay for you.

For example, when you are sick, you can properly expose your vulnerable side to her, and when she begins to care for you, or even take care of you, there is a connection between you.

Many boys will have the misunderstanding, that is, when you like a girl, you want to chase her, you just care about a brain buried in the head to rush forward, this is not right to drop my little brothers.

If you have been paying unilaterally, there will not be a connection between you, then the relationship will naturally become unequal, how long can you hold out? Even if you persist for a long time, what is it? So flattering!

Give each other some time, you slowly get to know her, she slowly accepts you, rather than chasing down and then tearing up and backing down.

Finally, you can make a wish here with me, type the abbreviation of the person you like on the screen, and Brother Chen bless you.