01
Marriage is not a one-way bridge, everyone must pass, and not everyone is suitable for marriage.
Someone loses love in a marriage, someone buries a lifetime in a marriage. Obviously, burial is more terrible than loss, maintaining the principle of persuasion and non-persuasion, but in some cases, divorce is indeed a choice worth celebrating.
Montaigne once said:
"A happy marriage is one of the greatest happiness in life, and an unhappy marriage is tantamount to living in hell."
In fact, the real misfortune has never been the grievances brought about by life, the harm caused by marriage, these are the interference of the outside world on the self, when you don't care about yourself, it will not affect you. So the real misfortune is our own attachment to things.
When you refuse to let go of yourself, attachment becomes a weapon to hurt yourself, whether it is physical injury or mental trauma.
All husband and wife should have such an awareness, two people must have inappropriate places, and you cannot kidnap one person's thoughts and three views to synchronize with you. It is normal for problems to occur, after all, it involves the family life of many individuals, how can there be no problems.
However, when you really need to make a choice, you must know how to let yourself go, don't let the obsession drag yourself into the endless abyss, then your life is over.
Especially when you find that your temperament begins to gradually become violent and extreme, really violent and extreme, it is time to adjust the direction. Then you have to adjust the direction in time, immediately, and immediately with efficiency, and think more about some beautiful things in life.
So when the marriage has reached what point, it is best not to insist on it, to let go as soon as possible? There is a kind of husband and wife, I advise you to leave it at best!
02
Sister Li's quarrel with her husband once again alarmed the family. When the family rushed over, although they had made sufficient psychological preparations, they were still shocked by the situation that came into view, the table and chairs were overturned, and there was almost no complete thing in sight, and there was no place to get off their feet.
Children under the age of two, due to excessive fright, have two clear tear marks on their faces. Even so, the two people have not been able to restrain their emotions and restrain their behavior because they are thinking about their children.
Yes, the two men started again, just because they fought for two sentences.
Such a situation is almost the norm of their married life, as long as there is a bad word, they can be beaten anytime and anywhere.
Two people in hysteria, regardless of the occasion, regardless of the child, have no reason to speak of. Sister Li is always like a madman, as if this is the only way to end up emotionally happy.
People can't imagine that before getting married, Li Jie was a very gentle and quiet person.
But now, if someone advises you what deep hatred you have, you have to torture each other like this, And Sister Li's facial expression becomes violent, hateful, and distorted back:
"He tortured me like this today, he won't make me feel better, I won't let him get better, it's a big deal to die together..."
As for how to get to this point, it is no longer a problem, the problem is that even then, neither person is willing to divorce. But the reluctance to divorce is not because they are reluctant to each other and want to repair each other's relationship, but because both people are bound to destroy each other to the end, until they are divided into winners and losers, and out of the evil and resentment in their hearts.
So when someone advises them to divorce, Li Jie will say:
"I can't divorce him, in the end to see who can torture whom, even if I fight for this life, anyway, I have not thought about what life I have." 」
To put it bluntly, both people gave up their lives just to torture each other together, and the more they tortured each other, the more paranoid, extreme, and crazy they became. It seems that an obsession that is bound to destroy the other party has been generated, and the vow not to give up until the goal is achieved, no matter how much the cost is.
I didn't think about repairing each other's relationship at all, clinging to my own sense of revenge, anyway, I thought of the worst possibilities and prepared for them.
This is a real double physical and mental torture. In ordinary life, either do not speak, as long as you open your mouth, it must be demeaning, insulting, sarcastic, slanderous words, and gradually make the two people look beyond recognition, as if the enemy is extremely red when they meet.
03
This is equivalent to entering a vicious circle, torturing each other, entangled, you live and die, so it is not only unfortunate, it is simply terrifying. What is more important than life in this world? Not even taking a life, or torturing each other at the cost of their lives, is simply crazy.
Think about the couple, how much fate should be, in order to get married, of course, can not give up easily, otherwise it is too much of a pity. Moreover, there is no marriage that does not have problems, but marriages will have problems.
No matter how difficult it is, it is not easy to divorce, but in such a situation, divorce is really the best choice.
Let go of each other, but also let go of yourself, you all only live this time, there is still a long life, even if the final fight wins, the mood is happy, the price is very heavy, or greater than you think.
And when that time comes, I'm afraid you won't be happy, and you will have immense remorse, remorse for your actions, regret for your paranoia.
Who exactly is torturing you, obviously, is not marriage, not life, not a partner, but yourself. You can't get out of your own obsession, and you live forever in the heart of revenge, and only then do you live so painfully. Is it really hard to take on your own choices?
In fact, if you can really come out, contact the outside society, contact the outside life, or start a new relationship, you will also find that it is really not worth it, that kind of behavior is stupid, that kind of psychology is very dangerous.
Opportunities are given to each other and given to each other, and the more you turn around in a dead end, the more gradually this dead end will become the whole content of your life. Otherwise, the endless internal friction is also the internal friction of oneself, until the burial of one's own life, and nothing else.
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