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Good is rewarded with good, evil is rewarded with evil, not by not being repaid, the time has not yet come. It is an old saying that people believe that the good man will also be kind to him, and the person who continues to do evil will be punished by heaven.
In people's normal cognition, people with good hearts will be treated better, because they have a very good personality in daily life and treat people sincerely and kindly.
However, such a perception is no longer applicable in modern times, and the manifestation of good and evil in real life is less and less, but those who are evil can live a very good life, and those who are good can only live at the bottom of whoever is at the mercy of others. So, what causes the fate of good people to get worse and worse?
Cultivate the most interesting and practical psychology every day
Good is rewarded with good, evil is rewarded with evil, not by not being repaid, the time has not yet come. It is an old saying that people believe that the good man will also be kind to him, and the person who continues to do evil will be punished by heaven.
In people's normal cognition, people with good hearts will be treated better, because they have a very good personality in daily life and treat people sincerely and kindly.
However, such a perception is no longer applicable in modern times, and the manifestation of good and evil in real life is less and less, but those who are evil can live a very good life, and those who are good can only live at the bottom of whoever is at the mercy of others. So, what causes the fate of good people to get worse and worse?
In modern times, the word goodness seems to be often associated with concepts such as stupidity and brainlessness, and people are always accustomed to taking the kindness of others for granted, and the result is that the relationship between people is becoming more and more distant, and the problem of human nature is becoming more and more serious.
At this time, we will not only have a question, kindness was originally the most shining side of human nature, why has it now become a weakness of human nature?
First: an indoctrinated culture: good people have good rewards
The odds of a person encountering good and bad things in their lifetime are completely random from a probability and statistical point of view, and no one can control their chances of encountering good or bad things.
Cultivate the most interesting and practical psychology every day
Good is rewarded with good, evil is rewarded with evil, not by not being repaid, the time has not yet come. It is an old saying that people believe that the good man will also be kind to him, and the person who continues to do evil will be punished by heaven.
In people's normal cognition, people with good hearts will be treated better, because they have a very good personality in daily life and treat people sincerely and kindly.
However, such a perception is no longer applicable in modern times, and the manifestation of good and evil in real life is less and less, but those who are evil can live a very good life, and those who are good can only live at the bottom of whoever is at the mercy of others. So, what causes the fate of good people to get worse and worse?
In modern times, the word goodness seems to be often associated with concepts such as stupidity and brainlessness, and people are always accustomed to taking the kindness of others for granted, and the result is that the relationship between people is becoming more and more distant, and the problem of human nature is becoming more and more serious.
At this time, we will not only have a question, kindness was originally the most shining side of human nature, why has it now become a weakness of human nature?
First: an indoctrinated culture: good people have good rewards
The odds of a person encountering good and bad things in their lifetime are completely random from a probability and statistical point of view, and no one can control their chances of encountering good or bad things.
Even if you do good in your lifetime, you can't increase the chances of an individual encountering good things, and doing countless evil deeds can't increase the chances of an individual encountering bad things.
There is no law between what kind of thing to do and what type of thing to encounter, in short, there is no necessary connection between doing good and encountering good things.
The concept that good people have good rewards is a culture and cognition that we have been constantly instilled for a long time, but this is only to adapt to this emotional level of expectations, and people hope that good people can meet more good things and be favored by God, which is more similar to a psychological comfort.
Cultivate the most interesting and practical psychology every day
Good is rewarded with good, evil is rewarded with evil, not by not being repaid, the time has not yet come. It is an old saying that people believe that the good man will also be kind to him, and the person who continues to do evil will be punished by heaven.
In people's normal cognition, people with good hearts will be treated better, because they have a very good personality in daily life and treat people sincerely and kindly.
However, such a perception is no longer applicable in modern times, and the manifestation of good and evil in real life is less and less, but those who are evil can live a very good life, and those who are good can only live at the bottom of whoever is at the mercy of others. So, what causes the fate of good people to get worse and worse?
In modern times, the word goodness seems to be often associated with concepts such as stupidity and brainlessness, and people are always accustomed to taking the kindness of others for granted, and the result is that the relationship between people is becoming more and more distant, and the problem of human nature is becoming more and more serious.
At this time, we will not only have a question, kindness was originally the most shining side of human nature, why has it now become a weakness of human nature?
First: an indoctrinated culture: good people have good rewards
The odds of a person encountering good and bad things in their lifetime are completely random from a probability and statistical point of view, and no one can control their chances of encountering good or bad things.
Even if you do good in your lifetime, you can't increase the chances of an individual encountering good things, and doing countless evil deeds can't increase the chances of an individual encountering bad things.
There is no law between what kind of thing to do and what type of thing to encounter, in short, there is no necessary connection between doing good and encountering good things.
The concept that good people have good rewards is a culture and cognition that we have been constantly instilled for a long time, but this is only to adapt to this emotional level of expectations, and people hope that good people can meet more good things and be favored by God, which is more similar to a psychological comfort.
However, the human living environment is diverse and does not depend on the will of human beings, which means that people in life, whether they encounter a good thing or a bad thing, are fifty percent, that is, there is a fifty percent chance that even if you do a good thing, you will not be rewarded.
Similarly, the chance of an individual encountering bad things will not increase the chance of encountering good things, and when a person continues to encounter difficulties, he will not necessarily encounter the opportunity of willow and dark flowers, so the saying that dead wood is spring and no pole is coming, can only represent a good wish in the human heart.
Second: Ignore your feelings and your kindness will become bottomless
From the perspective of behavioral psychology, there are few people who can sacrifice themselves for others without asking for return and willingly contributing, and this behavior is also inconsistent with human nature.
Cultivate the most interesting and practical psychology every day
Good is rewarded with good, evil is rewarded with evil, not by not being repaid, the time has not yet come. It is an old saying that people believe that the good man will also be kind to him, and the person who continues to do evil will be punished by heaven.
In people's normal cognition, people with good hearts will be treated better, because they have a very good personality in daily life and treat people sincerely and kindly.
However, such a perception is no longer applicable in modern times, and the manifestation of good and evil in real life is less and less, but those who are evil can live a very good life, and those who are good can only live at the bottom of whoever is at the mercy of others. So, what causes the fate of good people to get worse and worse?
In modern times, the word goodness seems to be often associated with concepts such as stupidity and brainlessness, and people are always accustomed to taking the kindness of others for granted, and the result is that the relationship between people is becoming more and more distant, and the problem of human nature is becoming more and more serious.
At this time, we will not only have a question, kindness was originally the most shining side of human nature, why has it now become a weakness of human nature?
First: an indoctrinated culture: good people have good rewards
The odds of a person encountering good and bad things in their lifetime are completely random from a probability and statistical point of view, and no one can control their chances of encountering good or bad things.
Even if you do good in your lifetime, you can't increase the chances of an individual encountering good things, and doing countless evil deeds can't increase the chances of an individual encountering bad things.
There is no law between what kind of thing to do and what type of thing to encounter, in short, there is no necessary connection between doing good and encountering good things.
The concept that good people have good rewards is a culture and cognition that we have been constantly instilled for a long time, but this is only to adapt to this emotional level of expectations, and people hope that good people can meet more good things and be favored by God, which is more similar to a psychological comfort.
However, the human living environment is diverse and does not depend on the will of human beings, which means that people in life, whether they encounter a good thing or a bad thing, are fifty percent, that is, there is a fifty percent chance that even if you do a good thing, you will not be rewarded.
Similarly, the chance of an individual encountering bad things will not increase the chance of encountering good things, and when a person continues to encounter difficulties, he will not necessarily encounter the opportunity of willow and dark flowers, so the saying that dead wood is spring and no pole is coming, can only represent a good wish in the human heart.
Second: Ignore your feelings and your kindness will become bottomless
From the perspective of behavioral psychology, there are few people who can sacrifice themselves for others without asking for return and willingly contributing, and this behavior is also inconsistent with human nature.
And there are some people in life who will always ignore their own feelings in order to cater to the feelings of others. They cannot refuse in the face of others' requests, and once they reject others, they will have a feeling in their hearts that they have made a terrible mistake. When it comes to helping others, they put in more energy and time, even beyond their own capabilities.
This type of person is called a "flattering personality" by psychologists, and in order to satisfy others and get the love of others, they will constantly pander to others and please others, completely disregarding their true feelings.
This kind of person is particularly concerned about the evaluation and vision of others, a mistake that will not attract the attention of others at all, will also cause them to be entangled for a long time, therefore, they are always afraid of the end in life, by often maintaining a state of unconfidence, in front of others will not reveal any of their true thoughts.
Cultivate the most interesting and practical psychology every day
Good is rewarded with good, evil is rewarded with evil, not by not being repaid, the time has not yet come. It is an old saying that people believe that the good man will also be kind to him, and the person who continues to do evil will be punished by heaven.
In people's normal cognition, people with good hearts will be treated better, because they have a very good personality in daily life and treat people sincerely and kindly.
However, such a perception is no longer applicable in modern times, and the manifestation of good and evil in real life is less and less, but those who are evil can live a very good life, and those who are good can only live at the bottom of whoever is at the mercy of others. So, what causes the fate of good people to get worse and worse?
In modern times, the word goodness seems to be often associated with concepts such as stupidity and brainlessness, and people are always accustomed to taking the kindness of others for granted, and the result is that the relationship between people is becoming more and more distant, and the problem of human nature is becoming more and more serious.
At this time, we will not only have a question, kindness was originally the most shining side of human nature, why has it now become a weakness of human nature?
First: an indoctrinated culture: good people have good rewards
The odds of a person encountering good and bad things in their lifetime are completely random from a probability and statistical point of view, and no one can control their chances of encountering good or bad things.
Even if you do good in your lifetime, you can't increase the chances of an individual encountering good things, and doing countless evil deeds can't increase the chances of an individual encountering bad things.
There is no law between what kind of thing to do and what type of thing to encounter, in short, there is no necessary connection between doing good and encountering good things.
The concept that good people have good rewards is a culture and cognition that we have been constantly instilled for a long time, but this is only to adapt to this emotional level of expectations, and people hope that good people can meet more good things and be favored by God, which is more similar to a psychological comfort.
However, the human living environment is diverse and does not depend on the will of human beings, which means that people in life, whether they encounter a good thing or a bad thing, are fifty percent, that is, there is a fifty percent chance that even if you do a good thing, you will not be rewarded.
Similarly, the chance of an individual encountering bad things will not increase the chance of encountering good things, and when a person continues to encounter difficulties, he will not necessarily encounter the opportunity of willow and dark flowers, so the saying that dead wood is spring and no pole is coming, can only represent a good wish in the human heart.
Second: Ignore your feelings and your kindness will become bottomless
From the perspective of behavioral psychology, there are few people who can sacrifice themselves for others without asking for return and willingly contributing, and this behavior is also inconsistent with human nature.
And there are some people in life who will always ignore their own feelings in order to cater to the feelings of others. They cannot refuse in the face of others' requests, and once they reject others, they will have a feeling in their hearts that they have made a terrible mistake. When it comes to helping others, they put in more energy and time, even beyond their own capabilities.
This type of person is called a "flattering personality" by psychologists, and in order to satisfy others and get the love of others, they will constantly pander to others and please others, completely disregarding their true feelings.
This kind of person is particularly concerned about the evaluation and vision of others, a mistake that will not attract the attention of others at all, will also cause them to be entangled for a long time, therefore, they are always afraid of the end in life, by often maintaining a state of unconfidence, in front of others will not reveal any of their true thoughts.
Invisibly, people with pleasing personalities will put their status extremely low, even if they are dissatisfied, they will choose to be patient when they are hurt, afraid that their appeals will cause dissatisfaction from those around them.
The "threshold effect" in psychology points out that after a person accepts the irrelevant requirements of others, it is inevitable that he will accept more difficult and complex requirements.
At the same time, for those who are good-hearted, it is a very normal thing to help others in life, and it is such a "normal thing" that will cause them to endure great suffering often until it is unbearable.
Psychologist Emerson said very early that your kindness needs a little sharpness, otherwise it is bottomless kindness, and this bottomless kindness will only harm yourself in the end.
Cultivate the most interesting and practical psychology every day
Good is rewarded with good, evil is rewarded with evil, not by not being repaid, the time has not yet come. It is an old saying that people believe that the good man will also be kind to him, and the person who continues to do evil will be punished by heaven.
In people's normal cognition, people with good hearts will be treated better, because they have a very good personality in daily life and treat people sincerely and kindly.
However, such a perception is no longer applicable in modern times, and the manifestation of good and evil in real life is less and less, but those who are evil can live a very good life, and those who are good can only live at the bottom of whoever is at the mercy of others. So, what causes the fate of good people to get worse and worse?
In modern times, the word goodness seems to be often associated with concepts such as stupidity and brainlessness, and people are always accustomed to taking the kindness of others for granted, and the result is that the relationship between people is becoming more and more distant, and the problem of human nature is becoming more and more serious.
At this time, we will not only have a question, kindness was originally the most shining side of human nature, why has it now become a weakness of human nature?
First: an indoctrinated culture: good people have good rewards
The odds of a person encountering good and bad things in their lifetime are completely random from a probability and statistical point of view, and no one can control their chances of encountering good or bad things.
Even if you do good in your lifetime, you can't increase the chances of an individual encountering good things, and doing countless evil deeds can't increase the chances of an individual encountering bad things.
There is no law between what kind of thing to do and what type of thing to encounter, in short, there is no necessary connection between doing good and encountering good things.
The concept that good people have good rewards is a culture and cognition that we have been constantly instilled for a long time, but this is only to adapt to this emotional level of expectations, and people hope that good people can meet more good things and be favored by God, which is more similar to a psychological comfort.
However, the human living environment is diverse and does not depend on the will of human beings, which means that people in life, whether they encounter a good thing or a bad thing, are fifty percent, that is, there is a fifty percent chance that even if you do a good thing, you will not be rewarded.
Similarly, the chance of an individual encountering bad things will not increase the chance of encountering good things, and when a person continues to encounter difficulties, he will not necessarily encounter the opportunity of willow and dark flowers, so the saying that dead wood is spring and no pole is coming, can only represent a good wish in the human heart.
Second: Ignore your feelings and your kindness will become bottomless
From the perspective of behavioral psychology, there are few people who can sacrifice themselves for others without asking for return and willingly contributing, and this behavior is also inconsistent with human nature.
And there are some people in life who will always ignore their own feelings in order to cater to the feelings of others. They cannot refuse in the face of others' requests, and once they reject others, they will have a feeling in their hearts that they have made a terrible mistake. When it comes to helping others, they put in more energy and time, even beyond their own capabilities.
This type of person is called a "flattering personality" by psychologists, and in order to satisfy others and get the love of others, they will constantly pander to others and please others, completely disregarding their true feelings.
This kind of person is particularly concerned about the evaluation and vision of others, a mistake that will not attract the attention of others at all, will also cause them to be entangled for a long time, therefore, they are always afraid of the end in life, by often maintaining a state of unconfidence, in front of others will not reveal any of their true thoughts.
Invisibly, people with pleasing personalities will put their status extremely low, even if they are dissatisfied, they will choose to be patient when they are hurt, afraid that their appeals will cause dissatisfaction from those around them.
The "threshold effect" in psychology points out that after a person accepts the irrelevant requirements of others, it is inevitable that he will accept more difficult and complex requirements.
At the same time, for those who are good-hearted, it is a very normal thing to help others in life, and it is such a "normal thing" that will cause them to endure great suffering often until it is unbearable.
Psychologist Emerson said very early that your kindness needs a little sharpness, otherwise it is bottomless kindness, and this bottomless kindness will only harm yourself in the end.
Kindness is the most shining side of human nature, but bottomless kindness is not, and bottomless kindness is more similar to a kind of weakness, which will only bring great harm to people.
Use your kindness on people and things that are worthwhile, and don't constantly waste your kindness for the sake of others' eyes.
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Reference: Jean Piaget Biographie. (2020, January 29).