Text/Little Snow Mom
Although we say that today's children, early contact with the Internet, ideological precocious, but now can be said to be an era of late marriage and late childbearing, young people's ideas are very mature, for the future consideration is also very cautious.
More than a decade ago, we may have heard that we got married and had children at the age of eighteen or nineteen, but now this is very rare, after all, women of legal marriage age must not be earlier than 20 years old.
It is said that before the age of 20, their thinking was not mature enough, and their worldview and values were not fully established, so it is also very surprising to hear that people now have children in their teens and twenties.
14-year-old girl who became a mother became popular on the Internet! Show off growing up with your kids
What were you doing when you were 14? At that time, I should still be in junior high school! Ideologically, I feel that I am growing up rapidly, and I am a little rebellious in behavior, but on the whole, I still seem very naïve, eager to become an adult quickly, and there is a little bit of youthful ignorance.
But very few people will consider getting pregnant and having a baby! On the Internet, there is a 94-year-old mother, posting a bunch of photos of herself and her children, and with the text "I am 94 he 08, he grew up with me."
After reading this set of pictures, it is quite surprising, because from the time of calculation, the 94-year-old mother became pregnant and gave birth to her current child when she was 14 years old, and for her own behavior, the mother is still very proud.
Many parents and netizens do not buy this, believing that this kind of "young and ignorant" behavior will only affect those teenagers who are not deeply involved in the world, which is disgraceful! Some netizens even reprimanded: unmarried and pregnant, do you have a face?
In fact, not only these, in the early years, there was an Internet celebrity named Yang Qingming on the Internet, because the 17-year-old unmarried pregnancy won a lot of traffic, and even her behavior was sought after by many fans, forming a very bad atmosphere, fortunately, after the report, the account was banned by the platform, which did not cause a worse impact.
analyse:
Adolescence is the most precious and memorable time in a person's life, and at a good age, what should be enjoyed is growth, happiness, campus, and friends. Don't be confused and do something you regret for the rest of your life.
Marriage and childbirth not only mean maturity, but also mean responsibility and degeneration, early marriage and early pregnancy from the normal stage, destroying not only their own lives, but also giving children the family and growth atmosphere that they should have.
Do the right thing at the right age, just like the network is developed now, many young girls see that when the Internet red anchor is very promising, drop out of school early and run out to develop, here is advised not to be attracted by a momentary brilliance, for most people, success is no shortcut, step by step to enter high school and college, is the most secure way.
In adolescence, parents must educate their children well about the following points
First, teach children to get along properly with the opposite sex
Adolescent children, the mind begins to sprout, shallow curiosity and admiration for the opposite sex, which is very normal. But those of us who have come here also know that the ideas at this stage are very naïve, even ridiculous, but children are easily overwhelmed and impulsive.
In this regard, parents must teach their children to get along with friends of the opposite sex correctly, correctly look at the budding thoughts of adolescence, be rational and careful, and do not do something inappropriate.
Boys should learn to respect women, girls should learn to cherish themselves, maintain reason for ideological contact, exercise restraint in behavior, and must not do things that they regret.
Second, slowly cultivate children's outlook on life values
Children at this stage have begun to think about many problems, and at the same time have some ideas that contradict their parents. At this stage, parents must communicate more with their children, do not quarrel when there are problems, and use facts and reasoning to persuade.
Set some good examples for children, such as brothers and sisters who are admitted to college at relatives' families, or some excellent people around them, to guide a good path for children's growth and teach children to become a rational thinker. Have their own values, right and wrong, so that children can grow up to be more excellent.
Third, be friends with your children
Adolescent children, parents must take time to talk with their children, know the child's mental journey at this stage, many parents feel that the child is rebellious, in fact, a big problem is that parents do not understand the child, do not know what he is thinking, what he desires, only know blindly suppressed, feel disobedient and do not understand.
At this stage, the child is already a small adult, and the mind and body are rapidly maturing, so it is advisable to start from the identity of a friend and re-understand your child, so that you will get along more harmoniously and you can better accompany the child to grow.
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