Recently, everyone has been talking about Gu Ailing's success in the Winter Olympics. We are all proud of her success. There are also parents who are complaining that their children are not Gu Ailing, and everyone then discovers Gu

Recently, everyone has been talking about Gu Ailing's success in the Winter Olympics. We are all proud of her success. There are also parents who are complaining that their children are not Gu Ailing, and everyone further discovers the growth environment of Gu Ailing, Gu Ailing's family, and the identity of Gu Ailing's parents, so they all sigh and sigh: they think that Gu Ailing's success is unattainable. On the contrary, in the context of the basic education reform on the mainland, in the context of the state's vigorous implementation of the "double reduction" policy, and under the premise that the "Family Education Promotion Law" has begun to be formally implemented, it is a very interesting thing for everyone to seriously study Gu Ailing's family education.

First, parents should have their own opinions and responsibilities. Gu Ailing's mother is Chinese, and her father is American. They all infiltrate their respective cultures into Gu Ailing's blood in their daily lives. They have neither "become tiger mothers" like many Chinese parents, nor have they "let go" like American parents. They are all in accordance with their own understanding, according to their own ideas, they hope that children will grow up healthily and happily. They are not anxious, they do not follow the trend, they do not follow the crowd. Do not use "other people's children" as a model for the growth of their own children. Training a skier is very expensive. But Gu Ailing's mother did not say: How much money I have spent for you, you must fight for it, what award you want to get. What she said was: You don't owe me anything. Such a tolerant education, on the contrary, makes Gu Ailing extremely self-disciplined and has a strong internal driving force.

Second, respect the child's opinions and develop specialties according to the child's interests. Gu Ailing's mother has only one wish, that is, she hopes that her child will be happy and that her children will develop according to their own hobbies and interests. When they cultivate their children's strengths, they do not consider what awards they want their children to win, nor do they consider that their children's strengths are related to a certain type of examination and are linked to attending a certain famous school. She only wants her child to enjoy life in her interests and enjoy the success of her interests. We all know that interest is the best teacher. Every child has a mountain in his heart, and we as parents are trying our best to find the mountain in the child's heart and help the child to climb to the top. It is resolute not to impose on children their own hobbies, a certain major that is conducive to examinations and further education. Gu Ailing's mother did not stop the child on the grounds of danger when she learned to ski and play football, but encouraged her and helped her to move forward. Growing up, Gu Ailing's mother would not ask her child to become some kind of "successful" look. It's like treating a seed, giving her soil, guiding her to grow, letting her blossom and bear fruit on her own.

Third, do a good job of quality companionship. We have always stressed the need to accompany children with high quality. High-quality companionship is not to spend a lot of time sitting next to the child, nor is it to give up your work on the grounds of "for the child", and to be a supervisor and monitor the child when the child is studying and doing homework. High-quality accompaniment is the accompaniment of the "heart", the influence of parents on the child in terms of body, mind and spirit for the development of children, the demonstration of parents when living at home, the positive guidance of parents, the subtle influence of parents, and the silent penetration of parents. High-quality companionship is still the encouragement and support of children when they work hard, it is the tight embrace of children when they encounter setbacks, it is the mutual understanding of children when they fail and lose, and it is the sharing of success with children when children achieve results. At the age of 13, Gu Ailing participated in the adult competition for the first time, and after losing the initial battle, she fell down on the ski slope. Back in her mother's arms, her mother did not review her at the first time, without reproach. Instead, she hugged her daughter tightly and said, "I'm proud of you." In Gu Ailing's body, there is a valuable undertone. That's the trait of a child who is loved and encouraged.

In summary, we found that when raising children, Gu Ailing's mother respects the child, does not overprotect the child, does not restrict the child with "I am all for your own good", she dares to let go, let the child develop freely, and enjoy the success and progress of the child with the child. We are not the parents of Gu Ailing, and our children may not become "Gu Ailing", but the family education concept of Gu Ailing's mother and the love and support for Gu Ailing are worth learning. We do not expect children to be as outstanding as Gu Ailing, but we hope that children can grow up in love, be strong in warmth, forge ahead in strength, and achieve self-achievement in endeavor.