Recently, the media reported that a special new type of relationship developed by a good girlfriend living in the United States - "platonic same-sex life partner"!
Not homosexual, but the two face life like ordinary married couples, but also allow each other to find their own happiness, the mode of getting along is a bit strange...
April Lee and Renee Wong, 24, are a good sister from Singapore, and the two who have played well since childhood have been tested by friendship after graduating from high school, because April, who was admitted to film school, moved to Los Angeles to study in the United States.
Despite a 16-hour time difference and thousands of miles between the two places, they maintained close contact, especially during the COVID-19 outbreak in 2020, which made them realize how important the other person was in their hearts:
"When Renee and I went through quarantine together on a Facetime video call, we found that we both enjoyed spending ordinary time together.
In every phone call, we never thought about catching up with each other's achievements, but actively helped each other heal, learn and grow, and although we chose very different paths, we saw how it affected our personal growth. ”
So after graduating from a university in Singapore, Renee found a job at a local digital marketing agency, in fact, he saw that the company had an office in Los Angeles, thinking that he could move in and work with April.
After a year of training in the local area, she finally qualified for the company's expatriate assignment, and the two finally managed to reunite and live together in a studio apartment in Los Angeles in September 2021.
The two of them who play together all day again are called a happy one, and in their spare time, they go around every corner of the city
As soon as there is a holiday, they will simply pack up and run to the beach for a vacation, and this tacit understanding of having the same idea and place with the other party without saying it is really envious of others
However, the sisters are not young, so they also have moments to face reality together, and April once talked about the situation at that time:
"We delved into finances, boundaries and potential conflicts that year, which may stem from knowing each other so well but never living together, so it's also our 'negotiation phase'.
But after living together, our relationship did become more intimate, not only as thoughtful and tacit roommates, but also as financial partners who supported each other, and achieved their respective goals in a faster and more interesting way with each other's push! ”
In fact, the two were just good friends and roommates at that time, until April later saw an article on the Internet about the special relationship between women in the 1800s, which inspired the two of them.
It is written that two women who have no romantic interest in each other are married so that they can continue to pursue their careers without being bound by the relationship:
"The concept immediately resonated with Renee and I, we both have unfulfilled ambitions and desires that would mean a compromise on those dreams if romantic partners were considered in life decisions."
This alternative approach to cooperation shatters our preconceived notion that we should spend the rest of our lives with one or two spouses, rather than alone.
It raises the upper limit of the future we envision together, showing a more attractive third option – live with your best friend!
In a way, we feel that the term 'platonic life partner' seems to be more indicative of the relationship between Renee and me than 'best friend', and can also seem more formal~"
In this way, the two agreed to become platonic same-sex soul life partners, and unlike ordinary girlfriends, they were a couple who shared financial and emotional support.
But this is different from ordinary couples, because they are not gay and will not have sex, but just treat each other as family, commit to building the future together, and consistently help each other become their best selves:
"We have deep platonic feelings and commitments to each other, and also had dispassionate discussions about big life decisions to ensure that both parties are aligned in their goals.
While I'm not familiar with how romantic couples decide to get married, I think it should be similar to how we decide to be platonic life partners.
When someone consistently helps you be the best version of yourself and makes your future brighter and more hopeful, how can you not want that person to always be by your side? ”
Although the two are a special relationship between girlfriends and partners, mainly through the ability to help each other become a better version of themselves, April also said that this does not mean that their love is without prerequisites:
"The condition of our love is: as long as you always love yourself, then I will always love you!"
If any of us give up on ourselves or stop serving each other's lives, then in addition to providing comfortable companionship, we have allowed the other person to leave.
We strive to be accountable to each other and believe that boundaries are the most important part of maintaining a healthy relationship, going through communication, negotiation and compromise like a normal couple, and wanting to give each other the best life possible! ”
And when asked why they chose this relationship, April and Renee sent a video to explain:
"Because the future we look forward to is the same, because we see each other as more important than the person we are in love with, because we are willing to share finances with each other!"
As for feelings, it is because for us platonic love is more important than romantic love, and because we have all been hurt by men in our relationships! ”
These kinds of ideas and ideas are almost exactly the same factors, which determines that they become platonic life partners
However, as platonic life partners, the two will not hinder each other from finding a love partner and happiness.
In their relationship, both parties can date other people, and instead of being jealous of each other, they have a blessed attitude and are even happy to help each other record the sweet moments of love!
Just like April is currently dating a New York man, Renee is very supportive of them together, and secretly took advantage of the fact that the two were tired of taking a video and sharing it with netizens to "eat dog food"
Not only that, but Renee and April's boyfriend also got along well and accepted that the sisters were the most important in each other's hearts.
Now the three of them often get together to play, and even take April's boyfriend to apply nail polish together, which can be seen to be a good fit
April's view of the new partner who "broke into" their relationships and lives was the same
"He saw my life partnership with Renee and knew how Renee had made me love him better and understood that he didn't have to be everything to me, just show up and be there for me."
And because of this platonic life partnership of mine, I was able to enjoy what he was now, not what he might be for me in the future.
But in any case, the "deep, unconditional love" between me and Renee will always come first in my heart! ”
Since they allow each other to fall in love, the curiosity of netizens is even heavier, and when asked "what if one of you falls in love and leaves", April's answer is also frank enough:
"It's a risk in any relationship or even a marriage, and that's it for the sake of confronting the problem anyway!"
Such a deep sisterhood that promotes the continuous progress of the other party is really enviable