The best way to conquer a person: the cat abandonment effect
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What you can't get is more loved, and if it's too easy to come, you don't pay attention.
Cai Jianya's song "More and More Don't Understand" makes people re-examine the relationships around them.
In feelings, once it is too easy to get, it will not be cherished, too persistent, and easy to lose.
How to be able to both love and feel loved, the "cat abandonment effect" may be a good choice.
The "cat abandonment effect" is about a kitten who, after a one-time abandonment, tends to behave more docile and well-behaved than before when it returns home.
The same is true of men, when you give him a gentle country, he is easily intoxicated, and finally loses his measure.
When you cool him down for a while, he will instead say that you are good, which is the complex psychology of people.
The "cat abandonment effect" is essentially a kind of indulgence, and a good grasp can often conquer a person.
As the saying goes, "It is a woman's right to do things, but once you make unreasonable trouble, you lose your fun and demeanor."
Therefore, once the "cat abandonment effect" is applied to feelings, if it is used well, it is the bottom card for emotional victory, and if it is not used well, it may also be an oil and vinegar agent for emotional ruin.
Smart women can often grasp this degree very well, so that they can be at ease and make the other party obedient and intimate.
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Learn to cool the other person down and know how important you are
I have seen such a statement on Douban, saying that there are positive and negative poles in the relationship, and one side is tough and the other party is weak, and it is indeed true to think about it.
In feelings, it is difficult to have balanced love, otherwise how can there be the problem of who will confess first and who will propose marriage first?
Therefore, in a relationship, it is important to know how to show weakness appropriately, and more importantly, to know how to let the other party know that he cannot do without you, that is, where your importance is reflected.
In the movie "Love Call Transfer", the male protagonist Xu Lang and his wife have been married for seven years and have reached the threshold of the seven-year itch of life.
It was the anniversary of him and his wife's anniversary, and he saw the same day in front of him.
The same purple sweater, the same fried sauce noodles, and even the same words of concern that have remained unchanged for seven years.
All of this made him feel a little bored, so he proposed to break up.
Fate seemed to give him the chance to start over, and he met the angel, who gave him ten chances to fall in love with different women.
Among these women, there are high-end white-collar workers who are strong and extremely controlling.
There are also special obedient, obedient workplace whites, more hearted apes, break up and contact the unemployed women of the ex.
In the end, he was also tired of such opportunities.
After using up nine opportunities, he said to the angel that he hoped to give him a gentle and considerate woman who could live his life in peace.
Then his wife appeared in front of him, and none of the people he met were as good as his wife.
Perhaps in response to the saying "a thousand sails are not", the most important person to you will always be the person around you.
One pursuit after another is actually a process of cooling, he said your good, and finally will come back to you.
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It can be good for a person, but there must be a premise
Some people say, "To love a man is to love his wholeness, and to love a man is to be unconditionally good to him."
This is obviously a misunderstanding of love.
People think that marriage is actually a fixed deposit, how much you can save to the back, you can also harvest some benefits, they see the benefits as the other party's love for the return.
The truth is not as people want, more often marriage is like the stock market, may be full of pots, may not get anything.
Therefore, those who gamble in love have nothing more than learned how to love someone conditionally.
Just like Li Li in "Fifteen Years waiting for migratory birds", he silently loved Pei Shangxuan for fifteen years, during which he did not confess from beginning to end, so he was silently good to him.
Perhaps too good love no one cares, Pei Shangxuan always attributed his feelings for her to the height of his lovers above his friends.
This relationship is like waiting for a migratory bird, it has been abandoned and it has been waiting.
It's just that the time line is too long, coupled with their unconditional kindness to others, and eventually lost this feeling.
Love must have conditions, otherwise it becomes upside down. Everyone knows in their hearts that the sugar they want is not sweet, and this is the truth.
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The way to conquer a person: the cat abandonment effect
The best way to conquer a person is the cat abandonment effect.
You can leave for a while, let your mind take a vacation, or you can sum up the relationship well.
As for why you want to separate, it depends on how deep the other person's feelings for you really are.
Those who don't have deep feelings will do everything they can to leave, and those who have moved the truth, no matter how you push, he will come back.
Just like Yukimi and Sedum in "The Legend of paladin".
When Yukimi threw herself into the arms of Yun Ting, despite how out of tune Sedum was, he continued to pursue her as always, and finally had a lover who finally became a family.
The matter of feelings is that this person is willing to beat a person and is willing to be beaten, so the cat abandonment effect is properly pinched, which is really a preservative in the feelings.
