Author: Number One Emotion
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I often hear people say: "Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law and daughter-in-law are harmonious." ”
Deeply.
However, not all mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are well aware of this truth, and some mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will even quarrel over trivial matters, which eventually leads to the whole family falling to the brink of rupture.
In fact, in order to have a harmonious family atmosphere, in addition to the sweet feelings between husband and wife, the harmonious relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is also indispensable.
Among them, of course, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is the most difficult to get along, two people may fall into the abyss of contradictions if they are not careful, if there is no good mentality, even small contradictions will gradually escalate into major contradictions.
Case:
Her name is Zhong Linlin, she just got married this year, and left her parents for the first time for the New Year, and she inevitably felt some nervousness in her heart, but she also very eagerly wanted to feel the happy and harmonious atmosphere of the whole family.
It is reasonable to say that it is a particularly warm thing to Chinese New Year's Eve night and the whole family to celebrate the New Year together, but Zhong Linlin does not have this feeling, but feels that she is excluded, there is a feeling that it is difficult to integrate, or that the family just regards themselves as an outsider.
First of all, Let's talk about Zhong Linlin's experience Chinese New Year's Eve night and her mother-in-law's difficulties.
Originally, there was less communication between Zhong Linlin and her mother-in-law, and she did not live together after marrying, but Chinese New Year's Eve night the whole family was together on New Year's Eve, which was a good opportunity for deepening the feelings between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
After Chinese New Year's Eve came to her mother-in-law's house that day, she saw her mother-in-law doing cleaning at home, and after a brief exchange, she was asked to go grocery shopping with her husband, at this time, her mother-in-law gave her a good feeling, but there was not much communication between the two people.
However, after the food was bought, the mother-in-law has been muttering that there are many things that have not been bought, and some of the things bought are not very fresh, in short, it is a complaint, fortunately, Zhong Linlin's husband also followed, otherwise all the responsibility would fall on herself.
Zhong Linlin thought that this matter had passed like this, but what she did not expect was that her mother-in-law actually asked her to cook Chinese New Year's Eve meal alone, although she could also cook, but she had never cooked a large family's Chinese New Year's Eve meal, which made her a little confused.
Zhong Linlin was busy in the kitchen for half a day, the more she thought about it, the more aggrieved she was, her husband saw the situation and immediately came to lay hands, under the comfort of her husband, Zhong Linlin finally had a smile, but her heart was still not angry.
Let's talk about the circle of friends of the mother-in-law, and Zhong Linlin's final choice.
The mother-in-law did not wait for the daughter-in-law to eat together, but the family took care of themselves to eat first, when Zhong Linlin also glimpsed her to take a few photos, it seems that she also sent a circle of friends, but she was busy cleaning up, so she did not care to look at it.
Chinese New Year's Eve was not happy eating, but Zhong Linlin still did it with the overall situation as the most important thing, did not want to be unhappy with her mother-in-law because of this matter, and went home with her husband after eating.
But when she opened WeChat to see the circle of friends, she saw the content that she could not accept no matter what, and the copywriter of the mother-in-law wrote: "I made a big table Chinese New Year's Eve meal, tired but very happy." ”
But Zhong Linlin wanted to argue with her mother-in-law, but her husband would not let her, and the two even had a big fight over it, and Zhong Linlin had the idea of divorce at that time.
Case Study:
In the process of getting along with the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, Zhong Linlin is obviously a wronged party, who was arranged to cook a Chinese New Year's Eve meal by a person for no reason, and not only did not get praise afterwards, but even the mother-in-law also put the credit on herself, which is undoubtedly a manifestation of not caring about the feelings of the daughter-in-law.
Then there is the husband's indifference, seemingly to his wife, but he supports his mother's unreasonable teasing all the time, which eventually causes Zhong Linlin to chill and thus have the idea of wanting a divorce.
To tell the truth, the key to getting along between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law lies in the mentality, if each other can put the mentality flat, there will be no next thing, but it is precisely the mother-in-law's arrogance, which leads to the contradiction between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law, and eventually leads to a big mistake.
If the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law lose understanding and respect, then the relationship between each other will definitely get worse and worse, even the trivial things will be invisibly magnified, and then it will not be a contradiction between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, but the beginning of the whole family.
Whether it is a mother-in-law or a daughter-in-law, at all times, we must maintain a peaceful mentality and a broad enough mind, only in this way can the family be warm everywhere and life will be happier and better.