Many people may feel that the elderly love their children and grandchildren, how can there be no love, but in real life, there will indeed be various situations, some even very "strange"
Case: The old man loves the house and Wu, the same grandson but treated differently, the child's heart is clear
After Ms. Ding and her husband got married, they gave birth to a son and a daughter, because the family conditions were not good, so they needed both husband and wife to go out to work, so they could only give the children to their in-laws to bring. The in-laws are now taking the two children of the little uncle's family, also a son and a daughter, and they were originally unwilling to help with more children, and Ms. Ding's husband said many times before agreeing.
Ms. Ding has always known that the in-laws prefer the little uncle, after all, the younger son will be more pampered, but she originally thought that since the same grandchildren, the old people will definitely treat them equally, but she did not expect that the old people would even treat the children differently.
Ms. Ding's two children are not young, one is seven years old, one is nine years old, and several times they have said to Ms. Ding, "Mom, we don't want to go to our grandparents' house, we can take care of ourselves at home, our grandparents only hurt our cousins and cousins, some things don't let us eat, saying that we will leave them to eat." Even if the child said so, although Ms. Ding was distressed, she couldn't help it, after all, she was not at ease when the child was at home.
Every time she sends the child to the old man's home, the old man also greets her with a smile and giggles, and praises the child, but if she really likes the child so much, is this kind of differential treatment too much? And although the child said that he was young, he did not understand anything, and he also knew that he looked at the face and had a clear heart.
01 The performance of these "fake pain" children in the elderly can be seen at a glance, and the children also have a number in their hearts
This situation is particularly easy to occur in multi-child families, when the elderly have multiple children, if you prefer which child, then often love the house and Wu, more favor the grandchildren born of that child, then there will be a difference between the children, the elderly will often give good food, fun to the children who like more, and sometimes even criticize other children for not letting their favorite children. This part of the elderly will show love and love for the child in front of the child's parents, but behind the scenes, it may not be good for the child.
There are also some elderly people who accept the living expenses given by the children's parents when they help take care of their children, and there are still many, but the elderly will save this part of the money, and even subsidize it to other children, and in front of the child's parents, they will chant, how much money they spend on the child, and sometimes they will say that they still have a part of the upside-down paste. In fact, whether there is money for children in the end, children have a number in their hearts, and these elderly people basically love their children on the surface, but in fact, they are "false pain".
There are also some elderly people who say that they love their children, and the most painful thing is which child, but in fact, when they really take care of their children, they are not willing to spend time to take care of their children, and even feel that taking care of children is very troublesome, but they dare not show it in front of the children's parents.
Just like a friend of mine before, her in-laws are like this, every time in front of her, they say how willing they are to their children and how much they love their granddaughters, but every time the children come back from their in-laws' house, they will complain, and they will never want to go to their grandparents' house again, because grandma often complains in front of her, "Your mother always throws you to me, I have to tie you to this trouble, where else can I go." ”
Later, it may be that the child has been more wronged by the grandmother, so he is reluctant to go again, and the friend has no way, so he will no longer send the child to the mother-in-law.
In fact, there are many elderly people who are holding such a mentality now, and children are very sensitive in the face of these situations, so they can perceive that once this situation is more, children may have a greater rejection of the elderly. Therefore, it is not recommended that the elderly do too much of the above things, otherwise it will bring greater damage to family affection.
For young parents, between such an old man and a child, in fact, we should also do a good job of communication, play a good role as a medium and bridge, let the child understand the elderly more, and also give the elderly more economic and ideological help, so that the feelings of both sides will become better and better.
Of course, if you really can't change the mind of the elderly, it is better to take the child yourself, or send the child to the nursery, otherwise if the child has a shadow on the elderly, it may not be conducive to the harmony of the family in the future, which is not conducive to both sides.
Conclusion: Although some elderly people are indeed like this, they still believe that most of the elderly people love their children and grandchildren very much, and they are eager to give them everything, so they still have to be more grateful to such old people.