How can parents cultivate their children's sense of responsibility?
Some time ago there was an 8-year-old bear kid on the Internet who destroyed the school. In the video, the official mother took a video of herself collecting garbage to earn money and losing money. The conversation between the photographer and the bear child was impressive. He asked, "Why did you come out and pick up the garbage?" The kid said, "Because I broke the class card."
Then ask him, you made a mistake, your mother punished you for picking up the garbage? The child said that it was not punishment, but that her mother really had no money, so she had to let me pick up the garbage and sell it. After communicating with the child's mother, I learned that this child is in the second grade of primary school this year and is usually naughty. This time, he not only broke the class card, but also broke the class card of the previous class.
Since the teacher asked for compensation this time, the parents used this method to educate their children. Many netizens said that this grounded education method is far more useful than scolding, so that children can recognize their mistakes and be responsible for their own behavior.
In fact, many common problems in children are caused by lack of responsibility, such as procrastination, rubbing, disgust with housework, crying and so on.
Therefore, cultivating children's sense of responsibility has also become a key issue in family education. What are the reasons that can affect the development of a child's sense of responsibility?
First of all, the excessive opportunities are mainly manifested in the parents trying to meet all the needs of the child, or giving the child everything they think the child needs. For example, buy too many toys for children, meet all of their children's snack needs, give children too much money, and so on. Parents' over-giving can make children mistakenly think that they don't need to work hard at all, and that as long as they want, they will be satisfied. At the same time, children are also prone to breed a false belief that everything they get is taken for granted, which leads to a lack of responsibility.
Second, overprotective is mainly manifested as a series of behaviors taken by parents who are overly worried about their children's injuries. For example, the child does not want to eat, the whole family coaxes to feed the child, accidentally falls, quickly picks up the child and coaxes the child to be pushed by the classmate, and immediately goes to the child to stand up. The consequence of this is when parents are among their children.
With all difficulties or dangers, the child loses the opportunity to face the challenge, lacks the ability to face and solve problems alone, and cannot bear the consequences alone, which further leads to the child's lack of responsibility.
Third, excessive control is mainly manifested in the parents' occupation during the child's growth.