Nowadays, many independent women choose to return to work and work hard for their careers after giving birth, but children have become their biggest obstacle, and they have no choice but to leave their children to their parents.
Therefore, many children are intergenerational relatives, and the elders are just in the retirement free period, naturally they will focus more attention on the children, but the intergenerational relatives will also have many problems.
I often hear colleagues complain about problems with the way the mother-in-law takes the child, but a new colleague says that her child is better than her own, and after listening to her, I think it is true.
If the old man takes the child like this, take the child back to himself!
I believe that many people have heard others complain about their mother-in-law, saying that the mother-in-law says bad things about herself in front of the child, and does not let the child tell others, which is really too much.
A few days ago, I heard sister Wang next door say that her mother-in-law always said bad things about herself in front of the child, and she would let the child convey her "ambition", the mother-in-law wanted a gold bracelet, and it was estimated that she did not have the good sense to tell Sister Wang, so she let Sister Wang's child tell her to buy a gold bracelet for Grandma.
Her mother-in-law will also teach her children that her mother is a bad mother, and when she grows up, don't be like her mother, which makes Sister Wang, who originally spent less time with her son, more distant.
If the elderly like to say bad things in front of their children, or secretly instruct their children to do something, it is recommended that parents still take their children with them, so as not to have a gap with their parents when their children grow up, and even grow into narrow-minded people.
The old man with the child is most afraid of the child is spoiled, as long as the child is happy, anything can be satisfied with him, and even the child is raised to be a little emperor, the meal comes to open the mouth to reach out, and the child is raised to become a "bear child".
For example, after the child makes a mistake, when the parents teach, the elderly will feel that the tone of the adult is too fierce, will come over to "persuade", and even the elders will beat the parents in order to stop it, and be infinitely tolerant of the child.
If the elderly always dote on children, and even quarrel with parents for the sake of children, then we must pay attention to whether it is really correct for children to be carried around the elderly?
Now it is not necessary to take a child before, the former child went out to play all day, did not need to worry, and would come home on time at night.
But now with children out to play must be inseparable, now the traffickers are particularly rampant, in the blink of an eye the children will disappear, sometimes children run up, the elderly may not be able to catch up.
If the elderly are relatively weak and older, there is some pressure in all aspects of taking children, no matter from what point of view, the elderly should not continue to carry children.
If your elderly have the following characteristics, you can rest assured that you can give your child to them to bring!
1. Clear thinking and clear thinking
If the old man has clear thoughts and clear ideas, your child will kill two birds with one stone for the old man.
2. Properly pamper the child
If your elderly can properly pet the child, you can also give the correct criticism and guidance when the child makes mistakes, especially when parents educate the child, do not participate, and create a space for the child, then the child can be handed over to the elderly with confidence.
3. Strong, healthy and young
If the elderly are healthy, relatively young, can take good care of children, and like to play with children, then children can still bring to the elderly.
The concept of the elderly with children will be different from the modern concept of bringing children, but no matter what, we must be grateful to the elderly, good for the elderly, and the place where the elderly are not right can communicate more and communicate more, after all, it is for the good of the child.