With the acceleration of the pace of life, young people are now spending more and more time at work, while spending less time with their children. At this point, taking the baby has become a problem, and only rely on the help of the elderly. However, there will be some differences in the concept between young parents and the elderly.
"The mother-in-law plants the baby in the basin", which is called good for the baby
During the New Year, Guo Guo returned to her mother-in-law's hometown with her 2-month-old baby and husband for the New Year, originally they were all happy, and the result was to go to a relative's house to pay respects to the New Year, and after Guo Guo returned home, he found that the mother-in-law "planted" the baby in the basin, and the lower body was buried in the mud and sand in the basin, and the baby was also crying.
Seeing this scene, Guo Guo was also very distressed, and hurriedly took the baby out of the basin, but the mother-in-law did not think so, and smiled: "Our master told me that after the baby boy is born, he must bury his lower body in the dirt, so that he can become a great person in the future."
For such a statement, Guo Guo did not expect that the elderly would be so ignorant to such a position, and directly carried the child back to their own home.
Why are there many differences between young parents when the elderly bring their babies?
"Prenatal like a beautiful woman, postpartum like an enemy". In the belt of children, the elderly always have different opinions from young parents, and even look down on the scientific parenting methods of young parents.
The task of taking a baby is entrusted to the elderly, and some young parents will inevitably worry. The parenting concepts in the new era are different, and there are many differences in the methods of raising children. Many people think that the elderly are not good with children, and they always go farther and farther away from their own ideas, so it is inevitable that some contradictions will occur.
In fact, the elderly always do not listen to the opinions of young people, which is a common phenomenon, and there are often the following reasons behind it:
Blind Empiricism:
Young parents are inexperienced and lack of consideration in the matter of taking a baby, and these experiences are possessed by the elderly, and in the process of bringing a baby, "that's what we did at that time" is their mantra, just raising children with intuition and past practices.
But such intuition and experience are clearly no longer applicable to current parenting methods, so it is easier to contradict young parents.
Wrong Mindset:
The old people lived in a relatively poor age, and it was normal not to have enough to eat and wear warmly, so in the process of taking care of their children, they would also bring this insecurity to their children.
It is manifested in excessive superstition and frugality and attachment to material things, and in children it is manifested as desperate feeding and dressing, which often angers young people.
The harmonious coexistence of the family is more conducive to the growth of children, and parents should pay more attention
The child's growing environment has a great influence on itself, and only when the family gets along harmoniously can a better family atmosphere be created. Among them, parents should know how to balance the relationship between the three generations and pay more attention to ways and methods.
1) Communicate actively and be considerate of each other
There are pros and cons to "next-generation relatives", and how to reconcile these problems requires parents and the elderly to work together. Parents should often communicate with the elderly, and only when they can unify their opinions can they create a good family environment. No matter who it is, it will be difficult, and parents should be considerate of each other with the elderly.
2) It is important to establish a parent-child relationship and accompany more
Parents can not fully entrust their children to the elderly, and appropriately take time to accompany their children in order to better establish a parent-child relationship. No matter how busy they are on weekdays, the interaction with their children cannot be less, which is the responsibility of parents. While giving children companionship, it can also reduce the burden on the elderly.
3) Education should pay attention to the way and take more care of the elderly
Young parents face their children's education problems and inevitably have disputes with the elderly. If you argue in front of the child, it will have a big impact on the child's inner development. Parents teach their children to pay attention to ways and methods, and try not to discipline in front of the elderly.
Kojima would like to say:
Although the elderly have some disadvantages in taking children, parents should see the advantages. As parents, we must know how to better handle the relationship between each other, and only by creating a good family atmosphere is it more conducive to the healthy growth of children.