Did you survive to the age of 98 without illness or disaster and have not been hospitalized, have you already defeated 99% of the people? My husband and grandmother did it, and she fulfilled a dream that many people could not achieve.
After lunch, I was finally able to visit my grandmother in the old home, which was also my main task when I returned to my in-laws' house for the New Year this year. Yesterday after dinner, my father-in-law took her from my uncle's house to our old courtyard, and from today onwards, it was our turn this month, and today she got up at noon, so we rushed to see her after lunch. She is the person who really accepts me as a family member except for her husband, and if it were not for my grandmother, I might not have come back this Spring Festival.
Grandma's eyes were now visible but a little blurry, there was no problem in speaking but she was a little deaf, her mind was still clear and not confused, but this time she was more calm than before. This feeling made me slightly uneasy, and I even hoped that she would cry out loud like the last time we met her dissatisfaction with her eldest son (husband and uncle), which also proved that her vitality was still strong.
When she first met her grandmother, she was 84 years old, with a childlike hair, a tough body, a love to talk and laugh, living alone in a small courtyard separated by a wall, only one house, and the kitchen was a palm-sized place where she herself found wooden planks and wheat straw and rain cloth under the window of the house. Presumably because no one listened to her, she pulled me a family that could often talk from the ** at the east end of the village to the ** at the west end of the village.
After we moved to the new house, my father-in-law let her move to the old courtyard, after she could not cook in the past few years, my father-in-law and uncle began to take turns to deliver meals on a monthly basis, when it was the turn of the uncle, I lived in the uncle's house, and when it was my turn to live in the old courtyard (my mother-in-law did not live in the new house, so the father-in-law has been living in the old courtyard with grandma). Her original kitchenette had been torn down, but the black smoke by the window was still there, and it was a trace of Grandma cooking. My compassion for her should have come from this.
After my daughter was full moon, because my mother-in-law did not want to be in Zhengzhou, I was afraid that I would not be able to bring it well, so I took my daughter and mother-in-law back to my hometown for three months. At that time, my grandmother was 87 years old, and when she heard that we were coming back, she waited for us on the main road in the village long before, and when she got home, she found the opportunity to hold my daughter and look at it again, and excitedly said that this was her first granddaughter.
My grandmother had two sons, and her eldest son gave birth to three sons and six grandchildren; my father-in-law was the younger son, and he gave birth to two more sons, that is, my husband and brothers, so my daughter is the first girl in these generations, and compared to my mother-in-law's dissatisfaction, she is still quite rare to have my daughter.
Since then, every day after breakfast, she has come to our courtyard to wait for my daughter to wake up, and as soon as she hears any movement, she will come in and sit by our bed and wait, looking for an opportunity to help me hold a while or take a handle. At that time, although she was 87 years old, holding her daughter did not have any problems, the longest time she held and walked more than 200 meters, although because of the holding of her daughter is often noisy by my mother-in-law, but she still smiled and did not mind, should come back, secretly or hug.
Until the daughter was four months old because of the discord with the mother-in-law I returned to Zhengzhou to start bringing my own baby, from then on every time I went back to wait for the longest and farthest person is still her, after receiving us as long as there is a chance will take the daughter away and carry her home; every time she leaves, she will secretly give me 100, 200 stuffed money, but it is difficult for me not to take it, so I have to secretly return it to her first. Of course, every time I come back, I will buy her food and clothing.
She was 90 years old when she had a son, and when she first brought her son back, she could still hold her son for a while, but her mother-in-law strongly asked her not to hold the baby again in the future, and she obeyed this time and never hugged, just followed.
Later I came back less and less, but whether my husband came back alone or we came back together, every time I would buy her something in advance to be at ease.
Last year, when my husband came back alone on National Day, she thought about a few of us, and she didn't come back for a long time, so hurry up and come back... When she came back, she was calmer than ever, and it made me wonder if she felt like she was running out of time and seeing less.
Recently, her hands and feet have been a little puffy, it has become difficult to walk, and she has been lying in bed for longer and longer... In the face of the helpless passage of life, although she is already the oldest person in the village, I still feel uncontrollable sadness.
Listen to the father-in-law said that the grandmother was kind and weak and optimistic and cheerful all her life, about 50 years old began to be widowed, the eldest son is not filial (but the qing officials are difficult to break the housework, the husband said that the grandmother is biased towards my father-in-law, my mother-in-law said that there is no eccentricity is the uncle is not filial piety), my mother-in-law is not good to her, but fortunately my father-in-law is very filial to her body and has been particularly good, before the age of 95 can cook for herself, no one to take care of, live to 98 years old has not been hospitalized, no bedridden, occasional headache brain fever village to take some medicine, Thinking of this, I think this is also a blessing from God for being kind to her.
