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During the New Year, it is rare for relatives and friends to get together, parents inevitably take their children to visit relatives, and many adults cannot avoid all kinds of teasing children, such as pinching their faces, kissing, hugging one, etc.
In the face of the enthusiasm of relatives and friends, are you also embarrassed, refuse it on the spot, not only appear to be stingy and ignorant, but also easy to offend people; do not refuse, and are afraid of being hurt and leaving a shadow.
In Pino's mother's view, if relatives and friends have no sense of proportion, let the child be afraid, cry or affect their health, parents should resolutely refuse, do not be embarrassed.
01, "You picked it up from the trash can!" ”
Many people like to make fun of children in this way, and feel that it is not malicious to "tease children to play" again. What is even more heinous is that many onlookers, even relatives, will also echo on the side, and when they see children sad and frightened, they will laugh instead.
When I took my daughter back to my hometown for the New Year, a large family sat around chatting and eating melon seeds. The daughter felt bored, and she lost her temper a bit, at which time a relative said: "You are still crying, you just picked it up from the trash can, and if you cry again, they don't want you anymore." ”
"Yeah, I went to the trash can with your mom and dad that day to pick it up, and your mom felt pity for you and brought you back." Another relative echoed;
My daughter was suddenly frightened and cried, I heard the crying and quickly ran out of the room, the relatives were still laughing strangely, I learned the reason for the matter, immediately crouched down and said to my daughter: "You are not picked up in the trash can, you are born in October by your mother."
While comforting my daughter, I shouted to my relatives, "Tell her that she didn't pick her up." "The relatives were a little angry when they saw me, and awkwardly explained to their daughter that in order to prove that it was just a joke, I took my daughter to my grandmother and let her hear the answer she wanted to hear again, and the daughter was relieved.
American psychologists have found through research that 2/3 of children will feel sad or angry after being teased, and when it comes to being teased, they will think of bad examples.
Therefore, children do not forget to be teased after crying, and some jokes may make children remember for a lifetime.
Therefore, during the New Year, when someone teases the child in this way, the parents should resolutely refuse, stand on the side of the child in time, and safeguard their interests.
If you face a child's request for verification, "Did I pick it up?" "Parents should clarify to their children at the first time and tell him their parents' love for him.
02, "Come, it's okay to take a sip"
During the New Year, it is inevitable to drink alcohol at the dinner table, and some people will raise their wine glasses and let the children take a sip, which is called: "The amount of alcohol is practiced, and now it is okay to drink a small sip." Then when they watched the children crying because of the wine, they laughed.
In the face of these unremarkable relatives and friends, parents should directly refuse to avoid their children being hurt.
Alcohol, has been medically proven to be a kind of carcinogen, adults often drink alcohol will hurt the body, not to mention the children who are growing and developing, these hazards, parents should know in advance:
Cause mouth ulcers: Compared with adults, children's oral mucosa is tender, when drinking high concentrations of liquor, the oral mucosa is susceptible to irritation and damage, and then ulcers.
Damage to body organs: A child's digestive system is developing, so alcoholism is much more likely to occur than in adults, and in severe cases, death can result.
Children who have accidents because of drinking alcohol abound, and parents should not be careless.
Affects intellectual development: alcohol has a certain stimulating effect, after the child drinks, it is easy to damage the brain, there is a decline in attention, memory or intelligence.
Therefore, when faced with relatives and friends advising children to drink, parents should immediately stop; if the child has drunk, you can let the child rinse immediately, drink more water or milk, which can play a role in diluting alcohol.
03, "good cute baby, come, kiss one"
Taking the baby to visit relatives and friends, seeing the cute children, they can't help but kiss to show their liking. This is actually a very risky thing.
People's Daily once reported that an 18-month-old child suddenly had a red rash on his arm, red and swollen, accompanied by a fever, and went to the hospital to check and found that his mother had "aphthous sores" and infected the child through kissing.
This is still true for mothers who pay special attention to hygiene, let alone other people? Therefore, for the safety of children, adults should not kiss children casually, so as not to turn "like" into "hurt".
04, "Come, show everyone a show"
At parties, some people like to let their children perform a show, exercise their children in the name of exercise, and whether the children are willing or not, they will yell for them to perform in public.
Star Wei Daxun, when participating in the variety show, during a break between meals, Wei Dad proposed: "Daxun, come and perform a show for everyone."
Wei Daxun looked at his father with a confused face: "How did I not know this", and the observers present said bluntly: "This is definitely the nightmare of every child's childhood party".
Indeed, as a child, Pino's mother was particularly disgusted with reciting poems, singing or performing in public. So when someone proposes to let my daughter sing in public, I will be my daughter's "shield": "If you want to hear that song, I will sing it to you, don't let my daughter sing it." ”
Regarding letting children perform in public, Fu Seoul also talked about his own concept in the program: "People let their sons memorize poems, I will say I will memorize them."
In Fu Seoul's view, this kind of public performance at the dinner table will make the child feel nervous and uneasy, and if the performance is not good, it is easy to fall into self-doubt, and she does not want to do this.
When friends and family offered to let their children perform in public, many parents were embarrassed by their faces and did not know how to refuse. If you encounter such a scene during the New Year, you can turn your head to the child and say: "Uncle likes you too much, so even if you don't perform they will not be angry, since the atmosphere is so good now, the uncle is happy, then the baby can invite the uncle to perform." ”
In this way, it will not make the child feel cramped, nor will it embarrass himself, but also transfer everyone's attention from the child.
In short, the above 4 behaviors, in the eyes of Pino's mother, are not teasing the baby, but hurting the child with bad intentions. In the face of this kind of scene, parents must not only refuse strongly and decisively, but also tell them loudly: Don't use the above ways to tease my baby, not once.