Hello everyone, I'm Pinocchio Mom!
Some time ago, I went to the supermarket with my husband, and in the fruit area, a young mother and the staff quarreled loudly, attracting many people to watch.
01, the mother took her son to try strawberries, was stopped
Pino's mother and husband also went over, and after listening for a while, they understood the reason for the quarrel between the two, probably because the mother took her son and frantically tried it at the strawberry tasting place, but did not buy it. When the staff saw this, they came to stop it, so there was an argument.
Only to hear Bao Ma shouting loudly: "Isn't your strawberry placed here for people to eat?" What happened to my son who ate a few more? ”
"How many more are your son's orders?" He ate the box I had just cut," the staff member said.
Mama Pino looked in the direction of the staff's finger, and sure enough, there was only a small amount of strawberries left to try.
"My son is only 5 years old, what are you talking about with a child?" Bao Ma continued to shout;
At this time, the son next to Bao Mom suddenly ran to the staff, kept hitting the staff with both hands, and shouted angrily in his mouth: "I beat you to death!" ”
While avoiding the children, the staff said, "If you try it like this, we won't be able to do our activities." ”
The onlookers on the side also began to accuse the mother and son one by one, saying that she "loves to be greedy and cheap", "just eat and don't buy", "no quality" and so on.
Bao Mom obviously had some hanging on her face and awkwardly dragged her son towards the supermarket exit. Looking at the back of the mother and son leaving, I felt at that time that I must not be a parent like that.
Greedy and cheap may be cool for a while, but always greedy and cheap will always suffer big losses! Seemingly simple truth, children do not understand, as parents, must understand.
02, greedy and cheap people, looks really ugly
Take your children to the supermarket, all kinds of crazy tasting but not buying people abound, friends are in a fruit shop, once met an old man, at the cherry, reached out and grabbed a large handful for the grandson to eat.
When the friend saw the situation, he came over and said: "Give the child a taste without taking so much, take one or two on it, the cherry is very expensive";
Unexpectedly, the old man suddenly said excitedly: "How much can a child eat, eat two of you, is it against the law?" ”
In the end, the friend quarreled with the old man and broke up.
What my friend did not expect was that shortly after the old man left, her daughter-in-law came to make a big fuss at the fruit shop. Her daughter-in-law also took pictures of her friends and fruit shops and posted them on the Internet, and said with a caption: "The mother took 2 cherries for the child to try, and the hostess roared..."
Then it also attracted an interview with a reporter, and the friend said grievously: "The cherry is originally expensive, more than 60 pounds, the old man is a big catch, and we also have a cost in doing business." ”
Looking at my aggrieved friend, I said angrily: "What the old man and her daughter-in-law lack is not money, but virtue." What's more, parents love to be greedy and cheap, and children will not be indifferent, but will look in the eyes, remember in the heart, and will involuntarily imitate their parents.
Some netizens on Zhihu once asked: "What behaviors of parents make you feel very humiliated?" ”
One of the high praises replied: Parents love to take advantage of small things, so that they feel very humiliated.
Indeed, when Pino's mother was a child, she took a car with her mother, in order to save 20 yuan in the fare, my mother let me pretend to be a child curled up in her arms, all the way nervous to dare not breathe, curled up for 1 hour to the station, I found myself wetting my pants, that moment really felt too humiliating.
03, love greedy and cheap parents, can not raise atmospheric children
As the saying goes: "Greedy and cheap, eat big losses", many parents for a momentary small profit, with their own "stinginess" gradually destroyed the "atmosphere" of their children. After all, no one wants to be friends with people who just want to take advantage.
Pino's mother has a relative, especially greedy and cheap, the market to buy a vegetable to follow two onions; when visiting the supermarket, will also take some plastic bags... These behaviors of parents deeply affect the child and are internalized into the child's behavior habits.
After the children of relatives go to school, they are almost all alone, have few friends, and live like "lonely people". Later, I heard that children love to take advantage, pencils, tissues, erasers, etc. like to use others, and never give people a greeting, and gradually pulled into the "blacklist" of friendship by their classmates.
The growth of each child is deeply influenced by the parents, and only when the parents are consistent in words and deeds can the children be consistent.
When Pinocchio's mother accompanied her daughter to read "Harvard Family Training", she once read such a small story: a father took two sons to see a movie, and the ticket price of the movie was: 5 coins for adults, 3 for children over 6 years old, and children under 6 years old for free;
At this time, the father said to the conductor: "My two sons, one 7 years old, one 3 years old, and me";
After buying the ticket, the conductor jokingly said to his father, "If you say that your 7-year-old son is only 6 years old, I can't see it, you can save 3 coins."
"Oh, well", and then led the child to the ticket hall, crouched down and said to the sons seriously: "The reason why Dad did not say that you are 6 years old is that he does not want you to remember this disgraceful moment for the rest of your life."
The growth of children is inseparable from the words and deeds of parents, if you do not want to raise a "stingy" child, then parents please "atmosphere" it.
There is a hot question on Zhihu: How much impact will the bad example of parents have on children?
One of the high-praises was that the impact was catastrophic and would take a lifetime to overcome. The answerer said that his mother likes to be greedy and cheap, and he is also deeply affected by this bad habit, resulting in almost breaking up with her boyfriend and friends.
Childhood is a critical period for children's character development and normative behavior habits, which is called the "wet cement period" in psychology. Parents' behavior habits and personalities will deeply affect the child in every word and deed, and even internalize into the child's behavior habits.
Write to the end:
"A gentleman loves money and has a way to get it"! As a parent, for the sake of the child's growth and future, we must avoid greedy for a small bargain, so as not to affect the child and let the child "suffer a big loss".