There has been a saying in these years: usually fathers are kind and filial piety, chickens fly dog jump when tutoring homework, after all, in our Chinese point of view, the world's top priority as a student is definitely to learn to write homework, many people mention that foreign students are envious, so in the legend, foreign children are playing every day, never have to worry about learning, and will not be yelled at by their parents because of learning things! Is this really the case? Recently, a lady in Chengdu shared a video of her American husband tutoring her children at home in the circle of friends, and suddenly found that we were misled!
This American father is estimated to be more confident in his ability and feels that he is fully capable of tutoring his baby's learning, but the fact is very face-slapping, this child only wrote one line in 3 hours! A line of up to 20 words, that is to say, 3 hours of grinding and writing 20 words, many times people's emotions are very stable, the ability to endure is also very strong, and then the ability to endure is still a little vulnerable in front of a child who likes ink, just like this father.
Some netizens joked that this is a foreigner who has gone into the countryside after he has gone to China? In fact, this father's emotional loss of control finally became a roaring emperor or a mouthful, in the study of this matter, parents all over the world are the same, the child is the main body of learning, if the child does not want to learn, no matter how much anger the parents have no effect, the typical emperor is not anxious eunuchs. Therefore, the sentence that parents have never understood is: If it is useful to force children to learn, is it not that all children can be admitted to first-class universities?
Does this mean that parents should let their children go unchecked? This is definitely not OK, which reminds me of the matter of Dayu zhishui, Dayu's father, Cang, has always used the way of blocking when controlling the flood, and for many years it was not finally cut off by the waist in Yushan, Dayu learned the lesson of his father's failure to control water, and adopted the "water control must be smooth, the water nature is down, and it is led into the sea." Where it is high, it is chiseled, and where it is low, it is channeled" the idea of water control. According to the priorities, a sequence of governance was established, starting with the areas around the capital and then expanding to other places. Isn't it like managing these babies to learn this job? Therefore, in the matter of children going to school, we must not be in a hurry, I personally feel that we must do the following things well, maybe the child's learning can really come to fruition.
1, first of all, to understand their children's learning, some children are good at language learning, some children are good at mathematics, some children are very attentive to handicrafts, each family's children are different, parents should be based on the characteristics of their own babies, to take advantage of the situation. After all, children with strong self-discipline are a minority, and most of them are greedy and do not want to learn. I think that if they don't like to write homework, we have to force them to learn, it's a bit like the cow doesn't drink water and press their heads, we need to guide them slowly, or tell them that if they can complete the homework every day, there will be appropriate rewards, give them a set time, and cultivate the child's good habit of consciously independent and timely completion of homework, which is more important than anything. This requires a process, after all, the child's self-control ability is not strong, they need to be supervised.
2, the process of children's learning is a process of exploring new things, many things that seem very simple to us may be a big mountain for children, so children in the process of doing homework, there must be a lot of situations. We can't take our own decades of experience to ask for a small baby, so when we want to get angry, think about our childhood, think about the child's feelings, empathize with it, in fact, the child also hopes that he will do everything, the exam is the first, but learning is not a matter of two days all day, the child will not do the problem, the homework is normal, we were in school at that time, it was also step by step, more patience, less irritability. If you get angry, it may be a shadow on your child, not the grade you want. If you really can't help but want to get angry, then I suggest you go outside for a while, calm yourself down, and then come back, because our emotions will directly affect the child.
3, find a way to become the child's friend, do not use coercive means to force the child to do what you think you want to do, but let the child realize that these things have great benefits for themselves, you will succeed. Remember how the master in "Kung Fu Panda" taught Fei Bo Panda martial arts? He took advantage of the fact that Fat Wave liked to eat, and integrated martial arts into the most basic routine of eating, and then Fat Wave defeated the invincible Taro.
In fact, every family has a difficult scripture, the parents themselves can not have a good mood at any time, once they encounter something unpleasant, it will become a scene where they do not fight, and the child will easily become an outlet for catharsis, which is even more undesirable! Many netizens see the Video of the American Father being inflated by the milk baby, on the one hand, they feel funny, and on the other hand, they feel as if they see their own childhood, and some netizens also lament that if it is their parents, they are estimated to have begun to pack on their heads.
In the end, I think parents must control their emotions, because reports of bone fractures or heart attacks caused by tutoring children's homework occur from time to time, and even more serious family tragedies, and a random search can see a lot of such reports! What do you think about this in front of the screen? Welcome to show your views in the comment area, the content is original, the pictures are from the network, if there is infringement, please inform, delete immediately!