Yesterday and friends eat hot pot, the next table is a family of five people eating hot pot, there is a three- or four-year-old child, the child's parents and grandparents are eating, the child wants the mother's mobile phone, the mother told the child: "Baby, the mother's mobile phone is out of battery, wait until home mom shows you cartoons." ”
The child did not rely on it, directly cried, and also threw the dragon fruit handed to her by her grandfather directly to the ground, watching the child cry, the mother looked at the other guests with an apologetic face, but she did not take out the mobile phone to show the child, and said to the child: "You are useless in crying, you go out when you are crying." ”
She continued to eat and chat with the others, completely ignoring the child, and after a while, she clipped a small piece of yam to the child, and the child obediently ate the yam and stopped talking about playing with the mobile phone.
This matter caused me to think, in fact, there are many such children now, they lose their temper, cry regardless of the occasion, so that parents are very embarrassed, so what should parents do when children lose their temper?
Do you follow the child or do it against the child? In fact, the way parents deal with it determines the child's future personality.
When a child loses his temper, parents most commonly deal with these two ways: go along with the child or work against the child.
Follow the child
Many parents feel that the child is angry because of a little trivial matter, they don't care about the child's small temper, directly follow them, meet their requirements, let them not disturb the work of the parents, parents do not do this is not right, parents will only cultivate a child who likes to make unreasonable trouble, and later when others do not meet his requirements, he will lose his temper, such a child is also very bad in interpersonal communication.
Work against your child
Many parents like to work with their children when they lose their temper, they seem to be accustomed to children, and it is not right to work with children, and the child's bad emotions are not relieved, and the emotional backlog may lead to some psychological problems in the child.
What should parents do when a child loses his temper?
First, adjust expectations
Parents should first adjust their expectations, many parents have high expectations for their children, feel that their children are the best, should not lose their temper casually, so when the children lose their temper, parents will be very angry, want to teach the children, absolutely do not compromise, and the children to do, regardless of the child's emotions, in short, I am not used to you.
This is not right, parents should adjust expectations, treat their children in their own homes in the same way as ordinary children, children are always children, empathize with it, even if we are adults, we all have emotions, but we know how to measure, we can control our emotions, parents should allow children to have bad emotions, while helping children deal with bad emotions.
Second, do not hit the child
Many parents feel that their children are unreasonable when their children lose their temper, and they will beat their children, so that the symptoms are not cured, but only use violence to make children compromise.
It will only make the child more rebellious or they will not express emotions in the future, they will endure their emotions, but they will not relieve their emotions, until one day, they will be overwhelmed by these emotions, suffering from autism or depression.
Third, do not be reasonable when your child loses his temper
Many parents try to reason with their children when they lose their temper, we can think about it in a different position, when we lose our temper, can we listen to others to reason with us?
We will only feel that others are standing and talking without waist pain, so parents do not reason for the child when the child loses his temper, this is useless, sometimes they will make themselves very angry, parents should pay attention, you can wait for the child to calm down, in the child to reason, this time the child can also listen to it, the reasoning at this time is meaningful reasoning.
Parents should know what their children's own ideas are, let the children speak their emotions, give the children some patience, communicate with the children, and then help the children to relieve their emotions.
Parents should also help their children, so that children recognize their own bad emotions, so as to solve bad emotions, and children themselves realize that bad emotions are also the best emotional solution.
Bad emotions have a great impact on children, if they have not been relieved, it may crush children, parents love their children, they must help their children, relieve bad emotions.