Today's children, generally will be spoiled by the parents, there is a need to respond, but with the increase of time, the child's requirements will be more and more, sometimes as long as they can not get, will lose their temper, crying and making trouble, many parents sometimes in the form of yelling, the method of playing, but still can not improve the child's crying and tantrums, parents finally give up discipline, can only properly agree to the child's requirements, but this method is obviously not right, then we will analyze and analyze how the child's temper is generated today, to see if the child's temper can be resolved!
First of all, we should clearly know that most of the tantrums of children will only lose their tempers when they are not satisfied!
Now because we are parents, too doting on the child, the child a little crying, parents will immediately lower the posture, so that for a child without self-control, will think that the parent's high posture is pretending, when the child is not satisfied, will take the way of crying, take the way of tantrum, attract the attention of parents, let parents to meet the needs of their hearts!
In addition, the child wants to let the parents understand their own thoughts, but the parents do not understand in time, resulting in tantrums, just like the loss of adults, which is our innate emotion!
For the child's tantrum, in fact, there is a way to resolve, for example, the child wants a toy, but did not buy it for the child, the child is crying at home, as a parent, you do not need to coax, do not need to roar, take the child back to the room, let the child make trouble, because all the children are noisy for the parents to see.
You need to quietly watch the child make trouble, wait for the child to get tired, cry tired, and then go to hold the child, use an equal way of speaking, and say to the child: "I know that you want that toy very much, but we already have the same toy, and you don't play with that toy, if you like this toy very much, you can play this first, if this is broken at home, I will buy you a new one, but if you think it is unreasonable, you still want to cry, I can accompany you, when you are crying tired, figure it out." Let's go out, I'll wash your face, we'll rest and rest, and I'll play with you! ”
In this way, the child will calm down, to think about whether the request just now is reasonable, but also to think, parents are not by their own crying and making a fuss to meet their own, the next time the child has a need, the child will think, this request is reasonable or unreasonable! After a long time, children will develop self-control!
In fact, the younger the child, the more unstable his mood will be, when encountering unpleasant things, or when there is a need in the heart, it will be vividly expressed on the face, we must observe the child's performance more, to emotionally comfort the child, to have patience to teach, do not reprimand loudly, do not angry scolding, so that when you teach the child, the child can listen to what you say!
For children who have gone to school, because of the increase in age, the increase in friends, and the increase in the level of learning thinking understanding, the child already has his own ideas, and has different views on some things, but he is not like us have a sound thinking mode, we must accept the child's thinking ideas, and listen attentively to the child's expression, so that the child also feels respected!
Children, the reason why they are called children, is because they do not have the thinking and practices of adults, they do not know what is right and what is wrong, they need to get answers through continuous trial and error, and then through the feedback of parents! We teach our children to tell them whether what they have just done is correct, and they use tantrums and crying to blackmail their parents in order to meet their own needs, but this need is not necessary. We must let children know that we love children very much, but at the same time we do not like children crying and making trouble, so that we can educate children not to cry in the future, and we can also avoid the estrangement of children and parents.