Your children will be worse than you in the future, and the "chicken baby" is not as good as the chicken itself

Saying that "inner volume" is the hottest topic and vocabulary in recent years, I believe that no one will oppose it.

In a state of widespread social anxiety, everyone is afraid of being left behind. All things are volumes, and only reading books breaks through ten thousand "volumes".

If we realize that the infighting of all walks of life and all classes of society is an inevitable phenomenon, and that the individual is powerless, then anxiety is not necessary, but it only increases the trouble and increases the internal friction, and it is not beneficial.

In fact, I prefer to believe that the inner volume, anxiety, are the speculation of the capitalists, so that everyone begins to get nervous, working during the day, chicken babies at night, overtime on weekends, holiday charging, this is not rolled up, as long as it is rolled up, there is consumer demand, buy books, report training classes, order overtime takeaway, businesses are not happy, the purpose of capitalists is not achieved?

Not afraid of your roll, afraid of you lying flat.

Some people began to change their thinking, probably thinking that their life is like this, there is no way to break through, trying to make up for their regrets by looking forward to jackie chan and hoping for a woman to become a phoenix, a goal that they can't achieve, let the child achieve it, and also know its name: don't let the child lose on the starting line!

But I think that the chicken baby is an excuse for the loser, not as good as the "chicken" itself.

Reason one: society is constantly updated and iterative, in our era, is the rapid development of the Internet, housing prices soared, the rise of consumerism in the era, is the opportunity everywhere, the easiest to make money. But even in such an era, you still haven't become rich, and you can still pin your hopes on your child's age, hoping that he will be stronger than you?

The reality is that our childhood was an era when there were no computers and computers, and it cost a month for a few dollars. And when our children grow up, the competition will only become more intense, they may work a hundred times harder than us, and they may not be able to get into college, let alone enter key universities.

Reason two: Parents who have given birth to children, at most twenty or thirty years old, thirty and standing at the age of fifty know the destiny of the day, feel that they are "old" and "tired", can not toss, can no longer struggle.

It is not fair to go home to your husband and teach your children with peace of mind, and constantly put pressure on your children to force them to take on the grand goal of "striving to be strong" at the age when they should be most happy and enjoy playing.

Reason three: Parents are the best role models for children. Many people do not know that the final height of a person on the road of life depends on where the starting point of their family is.

Although efforts are important, what is more important is the influence of the original family on you, whether your parents are strong, whether you have enough capital and connections, and whether your educational concepts are advanced, these are the most important parts that affect your child's future.

It is not the same age who lets the child lose at the starting line, but the parents of the same age. Your child is not competing with children of the same age, but with the family behind the children of the same age!

Therefore, parents who understand the real reasons behind it will not only know how to put all their time and energy into their children to make them unhappy.

Instead, taking advantage of the fact that they are not yet seven years old and eighty, they can still insist on working to make money, and they will continue to recharge outside of work, enhance their own value, and strive to make more money and accumulate higher capital.

Parents lead by example, and children see how hard their parents work, subtly, and will also strive to make themselves better.

Many parents are afraid that their children's class will slip down, their grades will be worse than other children's, they will be eliminated by society, and under various worries, under the banner of "for your own good", they will force their children to work hard, the effect is often contrary to the road, children have fear and resentment towards you, and the learning effect is greatly reduced.

These parents have not thought that the real "love" is actually not to let the children face the social pressure early and lose their due childhood. Instead, try to protect the child's physical and mental health when he is still strong, and bear social pressure for him, rather than avoiding his own responsibilities and transferring pressure.

The children I gave birth to were not to increase the working labor force for capitalists, not to grow faces for myself, nor to raise children and prevent old age. The children I give birth to hurt myself, what I can do is to work hard to accumulate capital at an age when I can still work hard, and the more I try, the less obstacles my children have on the road to success, and the fewer setbacks they need to experience. It was the only thing I could do for him.

Teaching by example, leading by example, is the best way to educate, if you want to let the child work hard, then you do a good job yourself, let the child see, more convincing.

Instead of escaping reality through "chicken babies", it is better to "chickens themselves" to look directly at the problem and let the child be born on a level.