Recently, many parents sent private messages saying that some of the children's problems, I summarized the problems, and there are two questions that parents ask more,
First, the child in the second grade likes to watch electronic products, mobile phones, iPads and other things, in order not to let him watch, the home does not install TV, usually iPad also take away. How should it be guided?
Why are today's children so dependent on electronics?
The first is because we play less on our own than before. Look at our generation or the previous generation, most of the things we played with as children were readily available in life, such as making a few bricks, taking a bud rice or taking a sweet potato and roasting it.
Even when we were younger, we played with mud, sand, and origami a lot, and at that time, the things we played with were usually not instruction manuals, that is, we played how we wanted to play.
So now let's look at the most popular Lego, science toys, is these things in accordance with the instructions to play, so the child's creativity is limited, because its creativity is limited, so the fun he feels in playing is limited.
And video games just came into being at this time, although it also has the restrictions of the rules of the game, but relatively speaking, the freedom to play the game is much greater than the freedom of us to play Lego, and there are images and sound feedback in the game, usually when passing the level, there can be rewards, so the player is more and more want to play.
When the real toy is seriously insufficient, this electronic product happens to appear, so it is a good substitute.
Then if we parents hope that their children are not addicted, we must help him find some fun things, and these fun things give priority to those things that are limited, such as making some crafts in express boxes at home.
For some parents, this matter seems to be quite difficult at first glance, but once you make the first craft, the child will be attracted to this thing by you, and the interest should be divergent, because it is unlimited, and the more you do it, the more complex and refined it may be.
Of course, this puts forward some requirements for parents, first of all, they must be able to design, be able to do it, and have many ideas. If you really can't do it in this regard, you can also use other ways, such as A SLR camera is a very good way.
Although the SLR camera also belongs to electronic products, in fact, its gameplay can be very rich, and there are a variety of parameters in the game relationship. For example, if the sensitivity is high, the noise is too much, and the image is not clear;
If the sensitivity is too low, the sensitivity to light is not enough, and the exposure time has to be extended, so that the picture may be blurred, so this is a game.
The larger the aperture, the greater the brightness, but at the same time the depth of field becomes smaller, you can only make the scene at a specific distance to shoot clearly, farther than it or closer than it are easy to blur, but at the same time there is an artistic effect such as background bokeh.
SLR camera it is a lot of game relationship, we in the process of playing SLR camera, not only can understand some optical knowledge, but also experience some game wisdom.
What's more, if a child plays with a SLR camera to a certain extent, it will become good at discovering the beauty of life. This beauty is not only the beauty of the surface of the picture, but the beauty of the story and the beauty of the heart. There is no shortage of beautiful things in the world, but there is a lack of eyes that are good at finding beauty.
I have a habit of visiting Taobao, and I like to see what good books are suitable for children. Just saw this 100,000 why of the Children's Publishing House?
Although I did not buy this new edition of the book, from my own feelings, this set of books was the initiation book of my natural science, and it made me particularly like to study physics and chemistry later.
Of course, the content in this book may still be mostly text and few pictures. But in addition to this, there are many other books, such as what science is ah or other versions of why there are more pictures of that kind, as long as it can attract your child.
In addition, there are some popular science books, which look very colorful, and they talk a lot about what dinosaurs, aliens, spaceships, most children will like. So I think you buy these books to at least satisfy your child's curiosity to some extent.
In short, we still have to use our brains to find ways to find alternatives to iPads, mobile phones and other such things, and we have to diversify.
You see just now I gave a few examples, the first is a hands-on creation, the second is a SLR camera, is to find beauty; the third is that we read books.
In addition, you can buy your child a balance bike or buy a two-wheeled bicycle for him to play with, which is something related to sports.
But in the final analysis, in fact, we parents themselves can play, the same thing, parents who can play can play it out of a very good trick, the more play the more interesting.
When a child first likes this thing, he often sees others playing this thing very interestingly, so that he can be attracted, and he can also inspire him and stimulate his imagination to create more interesting ways to play.
But if the parents themselves can't play, you can't make this thing interesting, you can't attract the child, and maybe the child will have a hard time satisfying his creativity in this matter.
So the most important and crucial thing is that our parents themselves will also play, to be able to think of some things to play, so I often say that the child problem is the problem of parents,
The above games are actually regardless of age, and your child can play whether he is in elementary school or college. Because a really fun thing is not to pick age, people of different ages can play it to different heights.
Second, some parents reflect that the child has no motivation to learn, his words are written every time to complete the task, in fact, he can write well, every homework must be urged and reminded, I am very anxious, every time he writes bad words to wipe and rewrite,
This kind of problem is not just a parent mentioned to me, but in the final analysis, the problem lies in the parent, not the child, why?
If you think about it, if the child writes badly, he has to rewrite it, how much frustration does it feel? Once he experienced frustration in writing, do you think he would feel better when he was writing? How can you write a good word if you are in a bad mood?
The next time you see him writing badly, you can say that you love to think and have a strong hands-on ability, and if you write better, it will be even better.
In this way, the child will sound much more comfortable, and if you don't believe it, you will see that after he is in a good mood, the words will be more beautiful.
In addition, the influence of your parents is also very important, if you can practice words at home every day, and stick your progress on the wall, let him see that your words are getting better and better, what kind of mood do you think he is in?
If there is a calligraphy and painting exhibition, an art exhibition, you can also take your child to see, let him see the moment when others write beautiful words, he will yearn for this beautiful thing, and he will pay more attention when writing in the future.
But I think what needs to be reminded is that when you take him to see these performances or exhibitions, it is best not to take the purpose, do not let him think that you are going because you want to remind him to practice words, otherwise he will first have resistance, and after he has resistance, everything he sees will be greatly reduced.
Finally, I would like to add that the reason why the child cannot write well is because he cannot calm down, because his heart is too impetuous, and the heart of the parents is the cause of his impetuousness.
I saw that you said that you didn't write well and wiped it off, how impetuous you must be, how can your impetuous mood not affect the child?
So I guess, this parent usually has this mentality, so your child's personality is also this mentality. Then I'll ask you again, how are you writing? If your words are not good, why do you want your child's words to be written well, if you do not have such high requirements for children, your heart will be calm, and after calming down, its words will be better. So in the final analysis, it is still the parents themselves who want to change.