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Poetry: "Happy New Year, fireworks for nine days." Golden Dragon Tengyu, six out of the good Field. ”
Time flies, and it's New Year's Time again.
It's hard to take a vacation, get together with relatives and friends, have a glass of wine, and talk about the past and the future. It's all about happiness when I think about it.
The Analects writes: "A gentleman desires to be content with words and sensitive to deeds." ”
At any time, we must insist on saying less and doing more, and do not lose the atmosphere of the New Year because of a few words, so that everyone is very disappointed.
New Year's Day, as soon as I opened my mouth, the picture was two words - auspicious.
Therefore, you need to keep your mouth shut and say the following five things when talking to people.
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First, don't talk about a year's income, avoid comparison.
What's the catch all year? Whether it is honor or status, it comes down to "making money". Quantifying a person's achievements with the amount of money seems to have become a tacit rule.
People who retire, with more pensions, show that their lives are good; people who work have a large bonus, indicating that they have merit; people who start a business say as soon as they open their mouths how much they invest, and they have face on their faces.
In fact, don't talk to others about income, especially in places with many people.
You should consider several situations: other people's income is less than yours, you are crushing and despising others as soon as you open your mouth; others have more income than you, and you will feel that you are not full of taste.
Bacon said: "The good ones who show off are despised by the wise men, admired by the foolish, flattered by the wicked, and at the same time they are slaves to the words they boast about." ”
More money and less money, that's your own business. You won't be rewarded for your income. The damn thing is that some people are jealous of you and think you're showing off.
Not to mention income, avoid the heart of comparison, everyone sits around together, there is no sense of hierarchy, can be equal dialogue.
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Second, don't talk about "bad things in the past" and avoid touching on the pain.
There are some people who are used to which pot does not open which pot. He thought that the most unpleasant thing, which everyone was most interested in, could cause laughter in the hall.
In fact, unpleasant things, even if they have passed, you say it, it will make the parties feel very uncomfortable.
For example, a relative goes out to work, the money is not earned, and the travel expenses are lost. As soon as you talk about it, this relative will be particularly embarrassed and will even have a vendetta against you.
In the past, if the person takes the initiative to bring it up, it means that he is mentally prepared and ready to accept everyone's ridicule; if you bring it up, his heart will be very chaotic, and it is possible that his emotions will be out of control.
All year round, everyone has experienced a lot of things, you don't say bad things, you have to choose happy things to say.
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Third, let's not talk about the grand plans for the coming year, so as not to fall into the laughing stock.
Relatives and friends gather, not this year, next year will not gather.
What you say at this time, the Spring Festival next year, everyone will ask "what is the result". If you just brag, you will naturally become "dumb and speechless".
Man, don't get up too high, I'm afraid I won't be able to get down in the future.
If everyone makes fun of you, you are uncomfortable for a long time, and even associate the words of "teasing" with the broken things in a year, thinking that you are "leaking in the house and raining overnight".
For example, a person who opens a breakfast restaurant says as soon as he opens his mouth that he wants to open a large hotel this year. If you don't care about the consequences and open a big hotel, you will do the stupid thing of "punching a swollen face and filling up the fat", if you don't open a big hotel, it will be a joke.
According to your actual situation, see what you want to do in the next year. Although your plan is simple, it is very grounded and you can have the joy of getting your wish.
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Fourth, don't talk about young people's marriages and avoid embarrassing each other.
Cartoonist Zhu Deyong once said: "Marriage is like a dangerous building, you never know when it will collapse, when you realize that it may collapse, it has collapsed." ”
Although this sentence is somewhat exaggerated, the marriage is unstable and objectively exists. Relatively speaking, young people's marriages and romances are very fragile. Maybe, just in the past year, a relative or friend divorced or broke up with a friend.
It is best not to take the initiative to ask about the marriage of young people. You know, many young people hate the "seven aunts and eight aunts" to urge marriage, and they don't like everyone to sigh "Hey, divorced again."
No matter whose home you go to, the first time to observe, who is missing in the family, is not the young people dragging their children back to their hometowns. See clearly, and then open your mouth to say emotional things, it is not too late.
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Fifth, do not seek people to complain, to avoid being looked down upon.
If on the first day of the Chinese New Year, someone shed tears at home and saw their relatives complaining, what would you think?
In my hometown, there is such a custom: during the New Year, when you meet a beggar, you must give something and be generous.
Everyone was worried that the beggar would say something bleak. I'd rather lose some money and stuff than get a few kind words from the beggar.
Singer Andy Lau sang: "I wish the girls all over the world to marry a good boy; I wish the children in the world that they are smarter than the talents; I wish the three uncles to buy and sell, and the business is famous all over the world..."
The New Year is a blessing, not a complaint, don't go back in time. No amount of suffering, it was last year, not this year.
The person who complains is uncomfortable in his heart, and the person who accepts the complaint is eager to leave earlier. Onlookers laughed secretly, but only for the sake of face, did not laugh out loud.
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Some people may ask, this can't be said, that can't be said, then everyone can't sit still.
It is best to talk about the books you have read, care about the lives of the elderly, talk about the realistic hopes of the coming year, talk about what you can help each other, tell a joke, listen to the instructions of the elders, etc.
There is a way that people are refreshed when they are happy, and the wind blows especially warm in the New Year.
New Year and new atmosphere, we want to bring more warmth to the people around us, and the words spoken are like spring breezes, giving people a boost of spirit.
As soon as he opened his mouth, there was poetry: "Spring is like a strong youth, with iron arms and waist and feet, leading us forward." ”
New Year's Day, talk well, and say good wishes.
Author: Cloth coarse food.
Follow my words and go into your heart.
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