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Mr. Yang Dai once said: "When I was young, I was so eager for the waves of fate, and when I was old, I knew that the world was my own and had nothing to do with others." ”
From a certain point of view, each of us spends the winter alone in our own world, living well or badly only to ourselves, and there is no such thing as so-called empathy.
So in the final analysis, we work hard all our lives, just to satisfy ourselves. As for what others think and think, it doesn't matter that much.
There is no standard way of life, only different choices.
But for a truly mature person, the most advanced and intelligent way to live must be to save money and enjoy solitude. Because these two points are related to our material needs and spiritual needs. In the case of meeting material needs, having a charming spiritual world can feel more warmth and happiness.
One: People who save money well have a more fulfilling heart and more security in their lives
No matter at any time, money can give us enough confidence, no matter what happens in the future, your ability to resist risks can make you feel that you have enough security.
Those who know how to save well are undoubtedly wise and far-sighted.
Some people do not have the concept of saving money, spend as much as they want, and always feel that life should be happy in time. As everyone knows, from the moment you don't have the concept of preparing for a rainy day, you have put your life in a dangerous situation.
There are also some people who can't save money because they are constantly paying for their own face.
They are keen on consumption upgrades and enhance their image by buying some luxury goods and emerging products. They hope to use these things to make others envy themselves and improve their grades.
There's a documentary called "The Secret of British Consumption," which has a section about five different classes of Britons with different economic abilities, namely single mothers with three children, self-employed female bosses, middle-class women, single multimillionaires and baronesses.
The economic strength of these five people is from low to high, but what is surprising is that the craziest pursuit of famous brands is actually the single mother who has been in debt.
Because this single mother is completely out of control of her life, she does not have any point to fill herself, and can only enrich her life through famous brands.
Baron, on the other hand, already has wealth, status, and knowledge, so she doesn't need a brand to show her strength.
People like single mothers are pathetic because they are empty and inferior at heart, they don't have the right perception of themselves, and all their sense of identity depends on external objects.
And the more full the heart, the lower their material desires tend to be, because they know what they need, and their strong hearts do not need to rely on the eyes of others to be recognized.
The people who save money have enriched their spiritual world enough not to need these vain consumptions to fill the empty mind. They can save the money and use it where it's more useful.
Everyone should be enslaved to money, not to become a slave to money.
Saving money is not just a habit, it's a way of thinking. Saving money is not stinginess, not stinginess, but reasonable planning and effective protection of your own life.
Second: Enjoy being alone, be closer to your inner self, live more soberly, and be richer
Man is a social animal, and when we live in this world, it is impossible to exist alone without the social collective, so from a certain point of view, it is difficult for a person to be quietly alone.
We need to play so many roles, need to maintain all kinds of social relationships, coupled with the pressures of life, etc., there is no time to be alone, and there is no energy to enjoy life well.
That's why being alone is even more important.
Some people say that low-quality socializing is not as good as high-quality solitude, and this is true. Instead of spending so much time and energy on useless socializing, enjoy being alone, reading a book, listening to music, or watching a movie.
Then you will find that the more you like to be alone, the clearer the inner world becomes, as García Márquez said in One Hundred Years of Solitude:
"A person's best state is to be alone, quiet and comfortable, without having to deal with other people's emotions, and without deliberately judging other people's thoughts. Accompany yourself and return to your true self. ”
Those who can enjoy solitude from the heart are the really smart people. They live to understand, no longer to deal with interpersonal relationships and the emotions of others, but to accompany themselves well, returning to their authenticity and original intentions.
Saving money well will give you the ability to resist unknown risks; enjoying solitude can bring you closer to your inner self and thus have a fascinating spiritual world.
When both material and spiritual needs are met, you are a wise person who understands completely and is also a happy person.
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