He Suohuan, a writer of gender-emotional psychology, writes sentient stories, interesting strangers, and material knowledge.
For young people, time and age are the biggest confidence.
There are many things that you don't do when you're young, and when you're older, it's too late to do them.
When you are young, if you don't work hard, but choose to be comfortable and escape, then the second half of life will pay for your own willfulness and indulgence.
When people reach middle age, even if you want to try to do something, you are "more than enough and not enough."
When we are young, we should do 3 things well: save money, be alone, and be ambitious.
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Learn to save money to make you more confident
I have two friends by my side.
A friend earns more than 10,000 a month, but it is basically moonlight, and it is good to save 20,000 all year round.
Another friend, who earns less than 8k a month, can save at least 50,000 a year.
First friend:
Despite the high salary, he pays attention to the quality of life in renting a house, renting a small two-bedroom living alone, and the monthly rent alone is almost 4k yuan.
In addition, you also have to buy clothes, socialize, and eat basically takeout.
When you go out to play, you can take a taxi and basically don't take the bus.
Second friend:
Sharing a room with others, eating is basically in the unit canteen, delicious is not expensive; commuting to work is either by bicycle or by bus.
Go out with friends and socialize, and the number of times will not be too much.
He bought very little clothes, his desire was low, and his greatest pleasure was to watch the deposit in his hand grow little by little.
I've seen a lot of people, at a young age, prematurely overdraw their future consumption.
If the salary is not enough, they will borrow money to spend; obviously the income is not low, but it is still the state of the moonlight family.
Just because their desires are too high, they often spend money on meaningless things.
One day you will understand:
The difference between saving money and not saving money is really big, and it will have a great impact on the next life of two people.
People who like to save money:
Even if he is unemployed or plans to change jobs, he can have the confidence to find a job he likes, rather than being forced to do a job he doesn't like.
He can buy a house, he can buy a car, and in the end he can choose the path he is willing to take.
Even if he is married, he will not have much pressure, and even if his parents do not help, he himself has enough conditions to run his marriage.
And what about people who don't like to save money and overdraw themselves?
Their ability to take risks is low, and once something unbearable happens, they are easily overwhelmed by reality.
Saving money may temporarily reduce your quality of life now, but there is no doubt that you will be better and better in the future.
Don't believe what some people say: "Young should be squandered, when young do not enjoy, later when old will not be able to enjoy." 」
The person who tells you this is either not purely motivated or does not see you well.
In the current environment, how many people regret that they have not developed the habit of saving money?
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Learn to be "alone" and save energy for you in the future
The better people are, the more able they are to withstand loneliness.
They prefer to be alone because in solitude they have more time to run themselves and make their lives more regular.
Have you ever heard of the "Golden Cicada Law"?
A cicada wants to break out of its cocoon, and they need to lie dormant under the dark, damp ground for several years.
And the days of dormancy are the days when they accumulate their own energy, which requires great patience and firm faith.
Maybe in the beginning, you will feel lonely and bored; but as long as you can endure it, life will never fail you.
Only by enjoying being alone, trying to improve yourself in the days of solitude, and studying hard, you can always get better and better.
I have a friend by my side who is particularly persevering.
High school education, through the adult college entrance examination to get the academic qualifications, and then the specialist admission to the undergraduate, and finally admitted to the graduate school.
How much perseverance does it take to get this done?
People like to be lively, need to be social, need to socialize, but being alone is not to isolate you from the outside world, but to be selectively alone.
Spend most of your time on yourself, rather than wasting it on meaningless meals and socializing.
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"Ambition" is the source of action
People always have to have some faith, some ideals and ambitions.
Just like a line of Zhou Xingchi: "If people do not have ideals, what is the difference between them and salted fish?" ”
Human ambition can also be understood as "desire."
Proper ambition and desire can fill you with passion and give you more action to accomplish it.
It doesn't matter if you succeed in the end; what matters is that because you have ambition, it makes you more focused on running your life.
The antithesis of ambition is "lying flat".
If you choose to lie flat at a young age, what about the future?
Get married, have children, grow up with nothing to rely on, and then go into a flat state?
When you are young and ambitious, you can win more opportunities.
If you don't even have ambition, then your fighting spirit will be smoothed out by life a little.
Sanmao has a good saying:
"People and things in this world come and go in their own time. We just need to cultivate ourselves to be the best we can be, and then quietly wait. ”
Maybe you're not good enough right now, but as long as you work a little harder and get better a little bit, you'll always end up with the life you want, won't you?
Today's Topic:
Are you satisfied with your current state?
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