A mom recently asked me a question: What if a child relies too much on his parents? The mother's son is in the sixth grade of elementary school, and when the child was a child, the mother quit her job to take care of the child at home wholeheartedly, helping the child to do almost everything.
The child's mother packed up his things before going to school every day, and his mother looked at the class schedule to bring him textbooks and related exercise books, and on this day his mother was sick, she did not help the child pack his school bag, and the child did not care whether his mother was sick or not.
The next morning, seeing that his mother had not packed his school bag and prepared breakfast for himself, he dragged his mother into the room and asked his mother why she did not pack her school bag, did she not want him to study?
Mother to take care of him as a matter of course, he also relies on this kind of care of the mother, will not think for the mother a minute, will not be distressed mother sick, in fact, such a situation is common in many families, parents help children deal with a lot of things, children do not have to worry about what heart, parents become omnipotent, and children become too dependent on parents, they take the parents' efforts as a matter of course, will not be grateful to their parents, at the same time their life self-care ability is very poor, leaving their parents, Their lives are going to be a mess.
Parents love their children We can understand that we want to help children deal with all things, no children are not the heart of parents, but parents should also correctly educate their children, let children develop an independent character, take responsibility, rather than blindly relying on parents.
Smart parents should learn to "show weakness" to their children, if parents do these three things, the child will definitely get better and better.
First, show weakness to the child
Last weekend I went to my sister's house, the little niece of six years old, Mango, was doing housework, she was wiping the floor, this scene stunned me, I asked my sister: Can such a young child do housework? Are you all comfortable letting her do the housework?
My sister told me that she should let the child do moderate housework, so that she can understand the difficulty of her parents, filial piety to her parents in the future, at the same time, her self-care ability in life will also be improved, if she has her own family in the future, she will not do anything and will not like her.
After lunch, my sister sat on the couch and told Mango: Baby, my mother made a lunch so tired, can you go to help my mother wash the dishes, my mother needs your help now, Mango heard her mother's weakness, rolled up her sleeves and went into the kitchen to wash the dishes, taking a bath while singing songs, I have to say that my sister's weakness is very effective.
If the mother shows weakness to the child, the child will do some things, so that the child understands the parents' difficulty can also exercise the child's self-care ability, I think the sister's education method is very good, the parents should show weakness appropriately, tell the child that the mother is very tired, the father is very tired, let the child do something for the parents, increase the child's understanding of the parents, let the child feel sorry for the parents, so as to cultivate a better child.
Second, let children be self-reliant
Some children rely on their parents for everything, parents can pretend that they are "unreliable", for example, when children tell their parents to buy things for themselves, parents can tell their children: Sorry baby, I accidentally forgot, you still go by yourself, so that the number of times, the child will choose to go by himself, he feels from the heart that the parents are unreliable, and he will not rely too much on the parents, so that you can cultivate the child's ability to live independently.
Third, recognize the child's excellence
The little niece Mango finished the housework, and her sister would praise her every time: the baby is great, doing better than her mother, Mango will be very happy, and she will run fast after calling her to do anything, and at the same time she has confidence in her ability, listening to her sister, Mango is the host at the New Year's event held by the kindergarten.
Many students did not dare to go on stage, only Mango bravely raised her hand to become the host, and when other children felt that she might not be able to do it, Mango also firmly believed in her own ideas and did not flinch.
Parents' praise can make children have the confidence to do some things, they dare to follow their own ideas in the future, parents can recognize the child's excellence, let the child become more confident, dare to express themselves in front of others, which can also increase the parent-child relationship.
Parents educate children to pay attention to methods, some education methods will only ruin the child, parents must correctly educate children, so as to cultivate children with self-confidence and ability, let children understand the parents' not easy, know how to thank parents, learn to do some things independently, do not rely on parents all the time.
Parents' education is the foundation of children's growth, parents must educate their children scientifically, so as to cultivate a good child, so that parents can really worry about children.