Approaching the Spring Festival, the Spring Festival, which is jokingly called large-scale population migration, is about to begin, and most of them are starting from first-tier cities and big cities such as Beijing, Shanghai, Guangzhou, and so on.
These people who have been living in big cities for many years are for the sake of livelihood, and some choose to cross the ocean to come to big cities for better opportunities.
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But among this group of people, there are still some people who are fleeing, and in addition to not being able to mix, there is also a very important reason, that is, their children cannot receive the same education as other children in the city.
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Transfer students in those years
In the short film "Mobile Education", the father stayed in Beijing for 18 years, and the master's degree was studied in Beijing, but he still could not settle down, and the things he did not care about when he was young became the key to survival when he had children.
Because the child did not have a hukou, he could not settle in Beijing, resulting in the child's inability to receive public school education, which also made the father have the idea of fleeing Beijing.
Although he and his wife wanted to stay in Beijing, they could not let their children receive education, so the couple finally had no choice but to settle in Chengdu.
The child also naturally became a transfer student from Beijing to Chengdu. Nowadays, there are more and more such transfer students, and parents have the idea of settling in big cities, but their children's education cannot be satisfied, which has become the experience of most transfer students.
Zhang Xuefeng, a famous teacher who graduated from Zhengzhou University, became popular on the Internet as early as 17 years by relying on his comedic style and poisonous language, and his career was also affected.
It is reasonable to say that such talents, their own careers are still related to education, and it should not be difficult to settle in Beijing and give their children a good educational environment.
But in fact, Zhang Xuefeng was unable to settle in Beijing or solve the problem of his children's schooling, so he could only announce his departure from Beijing and move to Suzhou on March 13, 2021.
In addition, Zhang Xiaolong, CEO of Beijing Chalk Blue Sky Technology Co., Ltd., posted on Weibo that he paid 4 million yuan in taxes and 80 million yuan in taxes, but his children could not go to school in Beijing.
Although Zhang Xiaolong quickly deleted Weibo and twice responded that his original intention was only to criticize Beijing's education system, without any intention of offending Beijingers, he apologized to friends who felt offended.
However, the discussion caused by this matter is not small, and people with high social status such as Zhang Xiaolong and Zhang Xuefeng cannot settle in Beijing and give their children a chance to receive an education, let alone ordinary people.
In "Mobile Education", the father said that his children already recognized themselves as a Beijinger, but they had no opportunity to receive education in Beijing, so they had to force the family to "flee" Beijing.
This cruel social situation determines the uneven distribution of educational resources, creates children to lose on the invisible starting line, and also makes countless parents experience educational anxiety.
These transfer students who grew up in big cities and transferred to other schools after school age did not realize that their lives were not just a change of place, but a different starting line.
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Parental responsibilities
In the short film, the father's life in Beijing is not too good, but he is also rich in experience and conditions, and he feels very frustrated because of his children's education and fleeing Beijing.
He also reflected on whether it was because he was not motivated when he was young, did not consider the problem of settlement, and the children he harmed could not be educated in Beijing. In fact, there are many parents in life whose frustration comes from the guilt of their children.
According to the National Bureau of Statistics, the birth population in 2021 will be 10.62 million, and the population birth rate will be 7.52 ‰. The birth rate in 2021 was 7.18 per thousand, falling below 10 per thousand (i.e. 1 per cent) for two consecutive years. The 2021 birth rate is also the lowest in nearly 72 years (since 1950).
Part of the reason for the decline in fertility motivation is also because many young people think that they have children and are not able to take care of them, and this anxiety is widespread among young people who have children at the right age.
The fear of parental responsibility young people is not competent, which is not only a psychological problem of young people, but also a practical problem of the whole society.
Nowadays, as parents, under the policy and morality, the responsibility is getting heavier and heavier, and the parenting and parenting must be both pronged, and the requirements for parents are very high.
Young people of the right age to give birth may not have enough wealth and material accumulation in society to maintain their own lives, not to mention the subsequent expenditure on children.
In addition to the cost of raising children, the resources to give children in education also require human and material costs, which makes many people afraid of having children.
Nowadays, in terms of parenting, many news shows the unreliability of young people with babies, resulting in accidents and other situations in children. This impression of the lack of responsibility for young people makes many people blame the reasons for young people's infertility as selfishness and lack of responsibility.
But in fact, young people are afraid of not being able to give their children a good education and cannot take good care of their children, and it is precisely this strong sense of responsibility that has become the reason for preventing young people from having children.
In addition to social factors, this fear also requires parents and expectant parents to have a new educational perspective that can adapt to the current environment.
Jackie Chan's education method has become a burden at present, if every family will cultivate their children as dragons and phoenixes, and give their children an education that is not suitable for themselves, then parents and children will feel miserable.
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Don't let education become guilty
Despite fleeing the north, there are still many families who let their children receive excellent education in different places, and their children's education in these places is not necessarily worse than in the north.
There is an impressive segment in the short film, the father said that when the child runs in Beijing and Chengdu, he can exercise his adaptability, but the child's adaptability needs to be supported by (parents).
In fact, education is the same, no matter how much pressure there is on social competition and educational competition, as parents, we support children in the big environment, encourage children, let children receive a good education in a healthy environment, and receive meaningful education, which is the key to solving the problem of parents' guilt about their children's education.
Not only are parents fleeing the north, shanghai and Guangzhou, there are many parents in life who feel guilty about their children's education, thinking that they have not provided a better educational platform for their children, in fact, letting children grow up healthily and study seriously should be the most conscientious things that parents do.
Educational resources can be obtained through many sources, but a confident and loving family requires the joint efforts of parents and children.
As parents, we don't just expect something from our children, we spend most of our time expecting ourselves to do more for our children.
In fact, the parents of "chicken babies" are also partly because they are anxious in the face of their children's uncertainty about their future, so they become chicken babies in behavior.
In general, a large part of the problem of education lies with parents. In "Mobile Education", the father's guilt about the problem of his children's education has not been alleviated until Chengdu, making education a thing that is indebted to his children.
In fact, the problem of children's schooling is the problem of parents competing for educational resources, but parents should also reflect on whether the most important educational resources at present are teachers, the environment, or the support given to their children by parents.
The reason is understood, but the anxious parents can never stop, little by little accumulating the debt to their children, and eventually it will become a "chicken baby" type of crammed education for their children to make up for the deficit.
In this way, in the end, it can only alleviate the anxiety of parents. Do not let the child become a victim of parental anxiety, parents should be rational and reasonable to give their children a suitable education, to give children a healthy and sunny future, is the best way for parents to make up for the inner "guilt".