Our current era is indeed a lot less bound to people, everyone is more intimate when they get along, and they do not pay special attention to it when they get along with the opposite sex like before, people have their own social circles, they all have their own friends, and this aspect is especially evident in women.
Everyone has the right to make friends, and it is normal for this society to have contact and communication with the opposite sex, but some things are still an uncrossable bottom line. Especially when you have your own marriage, keep a certain distance from the opposite sex, which is responsible for your own marriage and the other half, marriage originally carries a kind of limitation, if you still do whatever you want after marriage, the final result is only to let others more and more disappointed in you, and your marriage will eventually come to an end.
Choosing marriage means choosing responsibility, learning to keep a distance from the opposite sex is also a manifestation of trust, which is more important than our own hearts should have a decision, sometimes we also need to polish our eyes to see if the friends around us are sincere, because some people have damaged their marriage, it is not worth the loss.
Zhu Hui from childhood to adulthood her popularity is good, around her side of the opposite sex friends are also a lot, because she is a girl, there are many people will subconsciously be more tolerant of Zhu Hui, in fact, Zhu Hui likes this convenience, even if she still with those friends of the opposite sex after she married how to do, how to do, never took into account her husband's feelings, in the end, the marriage is in danger, she used to think that those friends also hit her face.
01． After marriage, he still has close ties with his male girlfriends.
Zhu Hui and her husband Yu Xiaojun met through blind dates, Yu Xiaojun is the family is in a hurry, anxious to get married, so from the two people to realize that before and after the wedding did not even have half a year, Yu Xiaojun thought that the feeling of this thing can be cultivated after marriage, and now where there are so many people who are happy with each other and finally enter the wedding, it is such a hasty decision that Yu Xiaojun regrets it very much.
Yu Xiaojun is actually a very traditional person, he has always wanted a wife who cares for the family, and after getting married, he found that Zhu Hui was completely different from what he imagined.
Zhu Hui can't cook, the first time after marriage to cook almost fried the kitchen, the rice cooker was also burned, Yu Xiaojun no longer dared to let Zhu Hui into the kitchen, but Yu Xiaojun's craftsmanship is also like that, Yu Xiaojun does not care about what to eat can fill the stomach on the line, but Zhu Hui is different, she is very particular about this aspect. Eating at home is not used to, then go out to eat, they there are large and small restaurants Zhu Hui basically went, expensive cheap, but not with Yu Xiaojun, but with Zhu Hui's male girlfriends.
Zhu Hui this person is actually quite exquisite, she will let herself in the limited economic conditions, try to live a delicate life, she uses things, wear clothes, she tries to choose a brand that can be called a name, Zhu Hui pursues is to be happy in time, money This kind of thing does not bring death, it is better to spend it earlier. Her concept of consumption is completely opposite to Yu Xiaojun, Yu Xiaojun wants to make plans for the future, he thinks longer, and he has to be responsible for the future and his children. One only pays attention to the present, one hopes for the future, so the three views of these two people are different, then they are even more communicative.
So Zhu Hui went out shopping, online shopping will never tell Yu Xiaojun, because Yu Xiaojun will only nag in her ear over and over again to save money, listening to annoyance, the husband he married does not know how to coax his wife to be happy, is an elm knot, do not understand the style, if it were not for the bride price given by Xiaojun's family, and Yu Xiaojun's conditions in all aspects are not bad, Zhu Hui and Yu Xiaojun This kind of man will not have any relationship at all, or her own male girlfriends understand her heart better, will send her flowers, send her gifts Isn't what women want romantically?
Zhu Hui used to go shopping with her friends, clubbing, going to KTV singing, night without return also happens from time to time, they are a group of people who pay more attention to pleasure, Zhu Hui is still like this after marriage, when they call Zhu Hui at two or three o'clock in the middle of the night, Zhu Hui can immediately get up and take the car to follow them, Yu Xiaojun does not let, Zhu Hui is angry, and said that he is not a prisoner who has the freedom to go out.
Later, Yu Xiaojun met Zhu Hui on the road several times, hooking up with several people on the road, and there was no self-consciousness of a married person at all. And because his wife colleague did not laugh at Yu Xiaojun, behind his back, he was laughing at Yu Xiaojun's head and did not know how many hats there were, Yu Xiaojun was a man after all, this kind of words made him feel very uncomfortable on the face.
02. Divorce.
Yu Xiaojun decided to discuss with Zhu Hui well, the real get along, the two people are very inappropriate, the existence of this marriage is actually a mistake for both of them, it is better to separate early than this, but Yu Xiaojun found that Zhu Hui was not there after returning home, called zhu Hui, only to know that she went out to travel, of course, with her male girlfriends, his wife has nothing to never inform herself, Yu Xiaojun really does not want to maintain this kind of marriage in name only. But Yu Xiaojun still felt that divorce was a big deal after all, so he still waited for Zhu Hui to come back before saying this.
Zhu Hui also said very bluntly that she also decided to divorce, that night Zhu Hui moved out of Yu Xiaojun's house, returned to her mother's house, she was about to divorce, but Zhu Hui was only superficially calm, in order to maintain her exquisite life, Zhu Hui actually owed a lot of money, which is also one of the reasons why she married Yu Xiaojun, now about to divorce, what can be done with money, Zhu Hui is very upset and sent a circle of friends to borrow money, but What Zhu Hui did not expect is that In the past, as long as she sent something annoying in the circle of friends, she would comfort her male girlfriends for the first time this time but no one paid attention to her, Zhu Hui felt strange, so she sent a message to one of them, but what she received was a red exclamation point, she was blocked, she contacted her 6 male girlfriends in a row, and found that she was blocked by them.
This is something that Zhu Hui never thought of, this situation she never thought of, before those who can eat and drink with her friends in the face of the real problem of money, very crisp and decisive end of this friendship, Zhu Hui at this time began to feel regret, thinking of their current situation, Zhu Hui on the divorce thing flooded muttering, she began to think of a way to keep Xiao Jun, but Yu Xiaojun wanted to divorce the heart is very resolute, do not want to listen to any explanation from Zhu Hui, For Zhu Hui's hesitation, Xiaojun should not be seen, and he did want to live a good life with Zhu Hui before, but what this woman did not take his husband to heart at all, and divorce was a foregone conclusion.
Later, Yu Xiaojun also learned the reason for Zhu Hui's hesitation, which was from a friend who loved gossip: "On the night she decided to divorce, she sent a circle of friends to borrow money, and as a result, she was blocked by 6 male girlfriends." Hearing this, Yu Xiaojun could only shake his head, he knew that if it were not for his own vital interests, how could Zhu Hui behave like that towards him, but the two people were now divorced, and Zhu Hui would have nothing to do with him in the future.
Maintaining a certain distance from the opposite sex after marriage should be what we should all do, only caring about their own happiness, completely ignoring the mood of the other half, and even showing that they do not care about their other half at all, then there is really no need for such a marriage. A person who never cares about him, who does not care about the feelings of others, is also incapable of taking on the responsibilities of a family.
It does not deny everyone's right to make friends, this is our freedom, but friends should be limited to friends,
Any behavior that makes your other half feel uncomfortable, as well as things that cross the bottom line, can not do it, this is to give our other half of the trust and sense of security, everyone needs a sense of security, this is not exclusive to women, this kind of thing should not be said more, this is our obligation, unfortunately, there are still many people who can't do it, I hope everyone can strengthen their awareness.