In today's society, we often find that despite hundreds or thousands of names lying in our phone contact lists, there are very few people with whom we can actually share our joys or pains.
Not only young people, but also many middle-aged and elderly people have begun to avoid family gatherings, alienate old classmates, and choose to live alone. Behind this, in fact, we have gradually realized that there are not many people who really care about us.
Once upon a time, we thought that the warm greetings and homely chats of others were out of concern for us.
However, as time goes on, we begin to understand that some people's passions have other purposes behind them.
They may feel jealous of our happiness and try to create a sense of crisis by sowing discord and disrupt our peaceful life.
And when we are in trouble, they will pride themselves on superiority and use their successes to preach to us in order to satisfy their vanity.
Guiguzi, a legendary hermit in the pre-Qin period, was knowledgeable and integrated with hundreds of schools.
As an important representative of Taoism, he is also a master of the art of war.
His disciples, such as Pang Juan, Sun Bin, Zhang Yi, Su Qin, etc., were all influential figures in the pre-Qin period.
For thousands of years, Guiguzi has been a saint in the eyes of military strategists, the ancestor in the hearts of the Zongheng family, and the strategists respected him as a saint, and the famous family regarded him as the ancestor. In Taoism, he is even more respected as the ancestor of Wang Chan.
This "god-level" figure has a unique insight into the way of making friends. He solemnly warned the world that there are four types of people with whom they must never have deep friendships.
The first type of person: the person who is close to the person is colorful, the superior person is angry, and the person who wins the person is not allowed to have deep friendships.
This domineering person is conceited and arrogant, self-centered.
In the face of the weak, he is arrogant and rude, and thinks very highly of himself; In the face of the strong, they have ill intentions and try to calculate secretly.
For example, Pang Juan was jealous of Sun Bin's talent and framed Sun Bin for fornicating with the enemy, causing Sun Bin to be tortured and ruined.
This kind of jealous and capable person only knows how to pursue personal fame and fortune, regardless of the feelings of others, and associating with it is like dancing with a wolf.
The second type of person: his appearance is charming, his words are clever, and those who decorate his sights cannot have deep friendships.
People who are docile on the outside and sycophantic in speech are often deep in the heart and good at camouflage.
As the early Tang poet Song Zhi asked, his character was corrupt, obsessed with power and scheming, and for his own selfish desires, he cruelly ordered his servants to crush his nephew to death.
For people like Song Zhiwen, his sycophancy often hides sinister intentions. He will exploit your use value and even betray you at critical moments without hesitation.
The third type of people: it is difficult to set up things, it is difficult to say words, thinking does not know how to change, and those who do not know how to change cannot have deep friendships.
This kind of thinking clings to backward traditions; Ideas are unwilling to keep pace with the times, like stubborn stones, neither accepting new knowledge nor understanding human feelings.
For example, Zhao Kuo learned the art of war since he was a child, and his father Zhao Hao often talked about the use of soldiers.
But Zhao Hao doesn't think he has practical talent. Zhao Kuo's mother wrote to King Zhao twice, saying that Zhao Kuo was not suitable to be a general, because Zhao Kuo was significantly different from his father: Zhao Haoguang made friends and gave generous gifts; Zhao Kuo thinks very highly of himself, greedy for private rewards, and greedy for farmland.
The king of Zhao couldn't listen to the advice, Zhao Kuo replaced Lian Po to resist Qin, was defeated, was shot to death, hundreds of thousands of soldiers were buried alive, and the state of Zhao was severely damaged.
The fourth type of people: gossip and unscrupulous, selfish and disregardful, and those who are forced to do so cannot have deep friendships.
Some people are keen to spread rumors just to make a splash, and they are indifferent to the feelings of others and only focus on their own gains and losses.
This kind of selfish person is not worthy of deep friendship.
For example, Lu Qian and Lin Chong in "Water Margin" are small and have a very iron relationship.
Lin Chong once confided in Lu Qian about the pain of being molested by Gao Yanei.
However, Lu Qian betrayed Lin Chong in front of his interests and assisted Gao Yanei in framing him.
After Lin Chong survived Cangzhou, he was able to avenge himself by killing Lu Qian with his own hands outside the mountain temple.
Guiguzi, with his profound wisdom, has a thorough insight into the potential dangers of these four types of people.
Although thousands of years have passed, these four people still linger like shadows.
For your safety and long-term considerations, the wise choice is to keep your distance and stay away from them.