Author: 43rd Floor Editorial Office Abandoned Sick
Source: Mom.com Parenting (ID: mmwyuer)
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Giving birth to a child is a game with the god of death.
On January 13, actor Sun Iridium, who starred in "White Deer Plain" and "In the Name of Family", shared a documentary on his pregnancy and the whole process of childbirth on Weibo, and many people shouted after watching it!
From seeing Hong to the way to the hospital, Sun Iridium was smiling at the camera, but she laughed and laughed, and she secretly cried because she was afraid.
The first time you have a child, you will have to face what you will face, and whether you are safe or not, no one can guarantee it.
After oxytocin, wave after wave of intense contractions made her pale with pain, and she could only hold the fence of the bed with one hand, and grasp her husband with the other hand, gritting her teeth and waiting for each contraction to pass.
Finally, she was able to go on painlessly, in her words: "To heaven!" ”
Ten fingers are fully open, and production is about to begin. Force, breathe, relax, exert yourself again...
Sun Iridium's forehead horns were swollen with green tendons, and her husband held her hand nervously, trying to give her some encouragement and comfort.
But she couldn't take care of so much, again and again, again, the next time, the tenacity on Sun Iridium's face made me inexplicably red eyes, it was the bravery that belonged to my mother.
At the moment when the child came out, Sun Iridium's husband cried excitedly, and Sun Iridium's tears also swirled in her eyes, but in order to ease her husband's emotions, she deliberately quipped: "Is the child like a little old man?" "No, it's good-looking!"
Everyone in the delivery room laughed, but the joy of mother-child peace was suddenly interrupted before it lasted long.
Sun Iridium was bleeding profusely!
And her child was also notified of a critical illness because of the early rupture of amniotic fluid, which led to lung infection.
The instant blood loss of 1400cc made her consciousness begin to faint, coupled with the production used up all her strength, Sun Iridium felt more tired than ever, she just wanted to close her eyes and sleep well,
She heard the doctor shouting at her: Iridium iridium, don't sleep, don't sleep!
She tried not to fall asleep, and memories flooded into her mind, the advice of her grandmother, the care of her family, the care of her husband, all of which played in Sun Iridium's mind like a slideshow.
Until she thought of the critically ill child, she suddenly became conscious, she had not yet looked at him well, had not kissed him, had not hugged him, could not sleep, could not sleep!
Perhaps it is the mother's love that is destined to create a miracle, and Sun Iridium and the child are now safely discharged from the hospital after being rescued.
To be honest, this video of Sun Iridium made me cry from the beginning to the end, pregnant in October, once in childbirth, women have to experience too much.
It's not just the pain and tiredness of the day of childbirth, there are all kinds of dangers when you get pregnant.
Sun Iridium also complained about her own experience in the previous video, due to the rise in progesterone, Sun Iridium's chest inevitably became larger, her husband said that she looked a little sagging, and also laughed at her because of pregnancy recently "became a small fat ball".
This "unconscious" joke made her, who was already sensitive during pregnancy, cry several times.
She couldn't help but ask her husband: "You are the closest person to me, do you want me to blame myself when you say such a thing, or do you blame this little friend in your belly?" ”
Unexpectedly, my husband felt that this kind of casual joke was just a small matter, so he did not pay attention to her advice, and even went home to sleep after a party with friends.
As he spoke, Sun Iridium's tears couldn't stop flowing.
Although Sun Iridium's husband later realized his mistake and made up his mind to change his bad fault.
But Sun Iridium also realized that this may be common to all husbands under the heavens, and it is difficult for them to truly empathize with the pain and sadness of their pregnant wives.
I've seen a video before.
There was a pregnant woman in Sichuan who wore pajamas when she was going to give birth and went into the delivery room, and before going in, she instructed her husband to buy hot cocoa for her: "I will come back when I give birth to a baby", and then pushed the door and entered the delivery room.
Not long after, she came out on her own without the slightest embarrassment of giving birth to the child, and the child was held in the hands of the medical staff.
If you look at your husband with nothing to do, you can only praise your wife in your mouth: so capable!
Can it really be done?
not necessarily.
Medically, pain is divided into 12 levels, and the higher the level, the greater the pain felt. The lowest pain sensation is the first degree of being bitten by a mosquito, while the twelfth level is what the mother feels during childbirth.
Someone once described it this way: "The pain of childbirth is like someone squeezing a watermelon out of your nostrils; or someone kicking you in the stomach with pointed leather shoes." ”
Although everyone's physique is different, the pain felt during childbirth will be different, even if you are fortunate enough to experience a slightly inferior pain than the average person, but it is not completely easy.
The heart-rending pain could last more than a dozen hours, or even longer, and no one could escape or stop.
Through the man's "ignorance" and through the shaky door, we seem to really understand:
What a woman's courage is at the moment when she decides to give birth.
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Meeting for the first time in my life
We want to give you the beauty of your birth
In the documentary "The First Time in Life", there is a woman named Wu Lihui, who was waiting for her second child to be born when she participated in the filming.
She said that she hoped to have a daughter this time, and her brother just made up the word "good".
It is said that the second child is easier to give birth to than the first child, but Wu Lihui does not have this feeling.
After oxytocin, the contractions kept coming like a tidal wave, and she was holding the mobile phone and barely counting the rhythm of her stomach tightening, while she couldn't help but hold the bed rail hard, and her body was trembling with pain.
When it came to production, Wu Lihui was even more painful to the distortion of his facial features, and every time he held his breath, his face became extremely vicious and distorted.
Several times she even forgot to breathe until the midwife reminded her to exhale and exhale.
After exhausting her strength to give birth to the child, she could not return to her senses for a long time.
When the doctor put the crying child in front of her eyes, it was a girl, and the wish came true, Wu Lihui wiped her tears and smiled.
After the situation stabilized, Wu Lihui choked up and complained to her husband: "When the first child was born, you said that you would not have a second child. ”
Maybe she still has a sentence that she has not finished: "But I don't regret bringing this life to this world."
"Every mother and son are friends of life and death.
Indeed, behind every child, there is a mother who has given up her life to bring her treasure to this world, even if it is to go to the ghost door to close, she also wants to give the child the beauty of birth.
At the B station, I watched a video of a husband recording his wife's morning sickness, and I was deeply touched.
From pregnancy to the day of childbirth, the wife's morning sickness has not stopped, sometimes vomiting out is mixed with a little blood, on weekdays, she spends almost half of her time in the bathroom, in the middle of the night will be nauseated to suddenly wake up, unprepared to start vomiting.
During that time, she basically ate what to vomit, and the only thing she could eat was white steamed buns.
Later, it was even more serious that when I saw the hotel sign on the street, I turned over the river and began to vomit wildly against the wall.
Such a serious pregnancy reaction made the wife very haggard, thin and green, 20 pounds thinner than before pregnancy.
The husband is very distressed, but he can't share anything for his wife, so he has to take care of her more carefully in his daily life and meet all her needs.
Many netizens said that they not only saw the appearance of love in them, but also saw the appearance of a pair of qualified parents.
The difficulty of morning sickness, only mothers who have experienced it understand, that kind of despair of spitting up their hearts, liver, spleen, lungs and kidneys at once, no one can share a single bit.
This is the only way to be a mother, so every woman is willing to grit her teeth and carry it hard, and at this time, if there is a husband to accompany the process of pregnancy, this difficult time has become magical and beautiful.
In Beijing, a pair of parents and fathers used a funny way to record the process of their mother's pregnancy.
From the 12th week of pregnancy, Dad used a pump to "help" his wife, making his stomach grow bigger little by little like a balloon.
The original flat abdomen, with the increase of gestational age continues to grow, the wife also becomes clumsy, her figure is no longer slim, replaced by a huge belly, because she is pregnant with twins, so the hardship is more imaginable.
When the 37th week of pregnancy finally arrived, the wife covered her ears, the husband carefully "poked" the balloon, and the big belly disappeared, replaced by a fat doll held by the little couple in their hands.
Many people shouted that they were really envious!
Remembering that there is a topic at the Zhihu RoundTable: Is the benefit of having children more beneficial than harmful to women's health or is the disadvantage greater than the benefit?
Some obstetricians personally answered: the disadvantages outweigh the benefits.
Let's start with the benefits of having children in women: reducing the incidence of ovarian, endometrial and breast cancer in women
And then there are the disadvantages: the impact on the "appearance": out of shape, loose skin, stretch marks, postpartum alopecia, lumbar spine damage; most of the vaginal births require lateral incision, stitches are also very painful, and the recovery period of caesarean section is also painful.
The frequency of childbirth is a high risk factor for cervical cancer; it includes defecation dysfunction, pelvic organ prolapse, adverse effects on the cardiovascular system, respiratory system, blood system, endocrine system, digestive system, urinary system, motor system, and osteoporosis.
In addition, there is a risk of bleeding and amniotic fluid embolism complications in the postpartum period.
But even if these obvious disadvantages are in front of them, after becoming a mother, every woman will bravely face the difficulties.
Because of the child, the mother is willing to bear all the dangers in the world, just to bring him to this beautiful world;
Because of the child, even if the mother feels hard, she is willing to endure and compromise.
Because the child is everything to the mother.
In the face of procreation, all the language seems so pale and weak, and the role of the mother needs to be interpreted by every woman for a lifetime.
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When it comes to motherhood, women never think about gain or loss
Chen Weijun, the director of the documentary "Shengmen", once said this:
"If a man is pregnant in October, the body shape is destroyed, the whole endocrine disorder can lead to high blood pressure in pregnancy, kidney failure... In the face of life and death, many men will calculate whether this thing is worth doing, but women are not. ”
In front of the child, the woman seems to be born brave, for the sake of the child, no matter how tired and painful, she chooses to grit her teeth and persevere.
In the mother's heart, the child is the armor on the way forward, and it is also the person who the mother does her best to protect him and ensure his lifelong well-being.
No matter how hard it is, as long as you see the child's smiling face, you have no regrets.
Perhaps mothers and children are born with hearts to hearts, and in the hearts of children, mothers are the closest people in the world and the people they want to protect the most.
For the sake of mom, children can do their best to love you and warm you desperately.
Zunyi had a four-year-old boy who accidentally learned that the scar on his mother's stomach was left by him coming out of his stomach, and he was stunned for a long time, and then he sat on the sofa and secretly cried.
While crying, he repeatedly asked his mother, "Mom, are you still in pain?" ”
Although his mother reassured him that the wound was no longer painful, he still looked at his mother with red eyes and a look of guilt and pain.
Sensible and well-behaved, people's hearts seem to turn into a pool of water, I think, being loved by children like this, probably all mothers feel that the pain in the first childbirth is nothing.
Coincidentally, there was a three-year-old girl in Liangshan, Sichuan Province, who saw the knife scar on her mother's stomach due to caesarean section and asked her mother how the wound came about.
Mom didn't hide it, telling her that she had such a scar because she was born.
After learning the truth, the little girl blamed herself and was distressed, and her tears fell down in large pieces: "I don't know that your stomach hurts mom." ”
The appearance of constant tears also made my mother's nose sour.
Many netizens have told their children's stories in the comment area after seeing the video:
Dabao asked me, where did my mother come from? I said you came out of your mother's belly, told her that she had undergone surgery, and showed her the scars from the caesarean section. She asked me if it hurt, and I said it hurt so much, it doesn't hurt now. Later, when I was pregnant with my second eldest, one day Dabao suddenly touched my stomach and said, 'Mom, is my brother going to come out of your belly like I did?' I told her yes, and she put her arm around my neck and said, 'But Mom, I don't want you to have surgery, I don't want you to hurt.' ”
"My daughter was just over two years old when she first noticed the scar, and once she was taken to the shower, and my daughter touched the scar and asked me how it was broken here, and I jokingly told her, 'It's because you turned your head in your mother's stomach and broke it for your mother', but she cried immediately after listening to it, and beat herself with her little fat hand and told me I'm sorry."
I remember that there was once a test that was widely circulated in the mom circle:
After giving birth, the first person you see, who loves you the most. Everyone's answer is similar: husband, mother, mother-in-law...
However, there is a second-child mother's answer is different: after leaving the delivery room, everyone revolves around the second treasure, and the person who runs to me without hesitation at the first time is Dabao.
A father once filmed a scene where, for some reason, his wife was experiencing pain and life-or-death trials in the operating room, and outside the operating room, their 2-year-old son knelt by the door and refused to leave for a long time.
The door of the operating room was pushed open again and again, and the little one could only look inward through the glass door, as if he could see his mother.
Although he couldn't help anything, he invisibly gave his mother great courage.
You see, we never know how much our children love themselves.
Their hearts are small, small enough to hold their mothers;
Their hearts are also very big, so big that they want to grow up quickly, and when they grow up, they can protect their mother.
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In this world, no woman is really ready to be a mother.
But when it comes to the moment of labor, for the sake of the child, the mother can open ten fingers and seven layers of the abdomen, without complaint or regret.
Only because of us: the blood is connected, and the calf protection is deep.
Before birth, the umbilical cord connects the mother and the child;
After birth, what connects mother and child is love that can never be separated.
Children love their mothers, just as mothers love their children deeply, and each other is the person who misses each other the most in their hearts.
For the rest of your life, the wind and snow are you, the plain is you, the gentleness in your heart is you, and the eyes are also you.
May every child grow up healthy and happy, and may every mother be happy and have a peaceful life.
Women are weak, but mothers are strong.
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