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Chen Weijun, the director of the documentary "Shengmen", said:
"It is said that childbirth is a matter of two people, a matter of husband and wife, but it is not. It is the woman who really faces everything. ”
Just recently, actress Sun Iridium, who starred in "The Biography of Chu Qiao" and "White Deer Plain", posted a video of her pregnancy and childbirth on Weibo.
This video truly recorded Sun Iridium's feelings when he gave birth, and the audience burst into tears.
It turns out that no matter what profession and identity of the woman, no matter how much she loved to laugh and be strong before, at the moment when she was about to face childbirth, it was accompanied by a heart-wrenching vulnerability.
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At the beginning of the video, Sun Iridium comforts himself while smiling at the camera to relax himself.
She didn't want her family to worry, nor did she want viewers to worry.
But the reddishness of the eye sockets cannot deceive people.
When it came to the contraction, Sun Iridium was even more painful and could not control his expression.
However, after Sun Iridium gave birth to the child, there was postpartum hemorrhage, and the situation was very critical.
Sun Iridium already felt confused and confused to hear the doctor desperately saying in his ear not to sleep.
There were also doctors pressing hard on her womb, but still did not stop the spurting blood.
Until the end, the doctor clamped the opening of her uterus with forceps and then rescued her.
Fortunately, Sun Iridium finally broke through the ghost gate, but whenever he remembered the scene at that time, he still had palpitations.
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Chen Xiaogui, an Internet celebrity hot mom, has also shared her own production experience on social platforms.
As a new mother, she was very scared, so she asked her husband to accompany her.
First, the husband always feels safe, and second, she also hopes that through this way, her husband will realize the hardships of women getting pregnant and having children, and hope that he can be more considerate of himself in the future.
However, what is different from Chen Xiaogui's expectation is her husband's reaction, which is not more of a heartache, but of feeling "scared" and "disgusting".
"Such a big pool of blood, I will vomit on the spot!" I still have a blood halo needle. ”
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As for the production described in the wife's video, Chen Xiaoqi's husband is even more blunt, that is, he sweated a little and did not do anything.
In addition, Chen Xiaogui's husband also warned other wives who wanted their husbands to accompany them, saying that in fact, men's endurance is really not so strong.
"Cut the umbilical cord, go down with a knife, zi la, that sound... Goosebumps all fall to the ground! ”
While describing, the hand is also making a gesture.
Finally, he also talked about his friend's experience of accompanying the birth, and saw the doctor put his hand in and pull the child out, and a big man was scared to cry.
So if you don't want your husband to divorce, don't let him accompany the birth.
And Chen Xiaogui also showed understanding and support on the side:
When a woman gives birth to a child on the delivery bed, she has no image and no dignity, and if a man really hurts you, he will hurt you without a babybirth.
The essence of human nature and love is that I am lovely and he will love me more, not that you give birth to a baby for him to love you more, so don't let your husband accompany him.
Netizens in the comment area have been aggrieved for Chen Xiaoqiao:
A pregnant mother who survived such a painful process did not complain, but the husband on the side just looked at it and was very excited.
When you can't stand the pain, he looks at your blood and says he is disgusted and wants to throw up. He is so disgusted, why do you have to bear children for him?
Is production really just a little sweaty?
Production is a door, outside the door is the joy of waiting for the new life, but inside the door is the thrill of fighting with the god of death.
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Even Ella, who has always been lively, said emotionally:
"After becoming a mother, I knew that living in the world was not easy, I experienced very severe pain at that time, life was never easy, thank you for persevering." 」
Once in labor, you need to endure 12-18 hours of labor pain.
Such pain is almost equivalent to 20 ribs broken at the same time.
In addition to the pain during childbirth, there are also a whole bunch of problems after childbirth.
Uterine shedding, urinary leakage, postpartum depression, etc.
There is a sentence in "The Woman Who Woke Up":
"To destroy a woman, all you need to do is marry her home." And if you want to destroy her completely, give her another child. ”
Husbands are not required to empathize, at least when wives are weakest, when they need help the most, to respect and understand, rather than ridicule and ridicule.