Last night, a video went viral in the hot mom group
Suspected school violence
It has aroused strong concern among parents
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The video went viral on the Internet
A video appeared online of a group of female students fighting in a multi-storey parking lot, and netizens said it looked like it was in Singapore.
From the video, a girl dressed in white holds a shoe and uses it to pat the back of the uniformed girl.
Another long-haired girl was watching the hilarity and laughing.
The beaten uniformed girl kept dodging, and finally fought back in self-defense, trying to attack the white girl who hit her.
However, the long-haired girl helped from behind, grabbed the beaten girl's hair, and threw her to the ground at once.
The girl in uniform hit the ground her head, and after falling to the ground, she was punched and kicked by the long-haired girl, without the ability to fight back.
The long-haired girl first punched the subdued girl in the head with her fist, and then kicked her back several times.
The parents of the hot mom fans were terrified and very worried about the situation of the girls in uniform.
From the video, it is impossible to know the real time, place and details of the event, and we can only wait for the update. Hot Mom will also track the latest situation.
Triggered a heated discussion among parents
Last night, everyone was retweeting this video.
Fans sent messages to Yuzu Tea (location has not yet been confirmed).
Everyone also caused a hot discussion in the group.
As a parent, it is really uncomfortable to watch.
Everyone is also discussing how children should protect themselves?
Singapore
School violence
Many parents feel that Singapore is safe and think that there will be no violence in schools. However, such things actually happen from time to time.
Case 1:
In 2018, a video of a female student slapping a classmate in Singapore went viral on the Internet. On a campus with such a strict legal system in Singapore, hidden dark corners are lifted up for everyone to see the bloody truth...
Case 2:
That same year, at Westwood Secondary School in Jurong, a male student threw a chair at a male classmate sitting in a classroom using a mobile phone, the first chair was emptied and the second was hit in the head of the victim.
Then he kicked the boy's table down, and then punched and kicked him until the boy fell to the ground and refused to give up.
Case 3:
In 2020, a girl broke the news on the Internet that her sister who was in the fifth grade was bullied by a group of classmates, causing an uproar.
She wrote on Twitter: "My sister is often bullied by her classmates. Today, my heart is broken. Yesterday was my sister's birthday, and her classmates wrote notes calling her "stupid" and "ugly" and threw them in her face, saying they were "birthday gifts." They also used to scribble on her school uniform with a marker pen.
And this girl herself has also been bullied by the Internet. She believes that all this is because her sisters are Malay.
The incident drew the attention of then-Education Minister Wang Yikang, who said the school would ensure that the students involved understood the seriousness of the situation and took disciplinary action against them.
Wang Yikang said he was disappointed and worried after learning of the incident. Bullying is wrong and cannot be tolerated anywhere, especially in school. In addition, victims believe they are discriminated against because of their race and are therefore even less acceptable.
Case 4:
Hot mom has also received a mother's confession about her son being bullied at school, wanting to remind everyone not to think that the child will not appear in the school bullying situation.
One night a month ago, I found that my son Komori was in a bit of a bad spirit, and the water cup that he drank from school did not come home. Recently, my sister was sick, and I was also very busy at work, so I didn't pay much attention to my brother, but just told him not to forget to bring a water cup again.
Komori had always been obedient, and came back the next day with a water cup, but it was not brought back in a school bag, and he squeezed the handle with his hand, as if the water cup was dirty. I was going to wash him, and he jumped up and firmly opposed it, saying he would wash it.
But at night, the water cup was still in the corner and did not move. After I washed it, I took it to Komori's room and wanted to help him put his bag back and talk to him by the way. It always felt like he was a little weird these days. Who knows, as soon as I entered the door, I heard a soft sobbing sound, and my son, who has always been lively and cheerful, was holding his own quilt and crying.
It turned out that Komori's water cup was secretly taken by the boy in the next class to put in the urinal of the toilet, and he felt very dirty, and even used other cups to drink water felt very disgusting, let alone drink water with this cup.
The 8-year-old boy felt very wronged and humiliated, but he did not want to tell the teacher, so that more people knew, only to hide in the quilt and cry. He said, "Mom, I don't want to go to school or see the boy." I don't want to drink water anymore.
Komori's mother's communication with the teacher
Even young children will bully others, or they will encounter bullying and do not know how to deal with it. Even, I didn't dare to tell my teachers and parents that I would secretly digest it myself.
Case 5:
In August 2019, the teacher of a kindergarten in Singapore informed his parents that their 4-year-old child had accidentally been injured at school, and when parents asked their children, they found something wrong, asked the school to retrieve the surveillance video and found that on the day of the incident, the child sat obediently in the same place, and suddenly he was surrounded by classmates, and even clearly saw that his classmates punched and kicked him.
The teacher laid out a mattress not far away, ignoring everything that happened. Finally, the child crawled out of the crowd...
School violence is not just physical, there is also a kind of silent violence - verbal violence. It is rumored in Singapore that the most common form of violence and bullying that secondary school students suffer is not physical violence, but verbal violence and "alienation violence".
Just like the little five girls who had a birthday but received a bunch of insulting notes.
Notes that read "stupid" and "ugly"
Verbal violence constantly uses language, behavior, etc. to cause mental or psychological pressure on other students, such as giving insulting nicknames to classmates and spreading negative rumors and gossip about victims. Alienating violence is isolating classmates, which eventually leads to some of their psychic trauma.
Encountered violence in schools
What to do?
As a mother, in addition to the pain, we also see the most practical point, how should we tell our children to deal with bullying?
A dad in Singapore also posted a video teaching children how to defend themselves, click to view:
Small dish uncle cai yiqing,
When encountering bullying, does the child know what to do? 1. What should I do when I am beaten? 2. What should I do when I am surrounded? 3. What should I do if I fall to the ground? #新加坡霸凌 #防身术
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Video source: Uncle Cai
In this regard, Professor Li Meijin, an expert in criminal psychology at China Public Security University, gave such an answer in the program "Let's Talk": Hit back.
Professor Li said: If you do not resist, the child who is bullied will gradually lose his judgment of the likes and dislikes of the world, fall into the evil of bad people, and be injured for life. The bear child who bullies others will bully others and hurt others again and again. Never underestimate the evil of children, because they have no self-control over doing evil.
In fact, as parents, we do not have to narrowly understand "hit back".
The real meaning of these three words is that children must have the upbringing of not hitting people, and they must also have the aura of not being bullied. Instead, forbearance will make bullying more unbridled.
When confronted with bullying, children can do this:
Shout seriously
The first time, staring at each other's eyes and shouting seriously: You can't hit people, it's not right to hit people! Under normal circumstances, due to the shock of language, the fighting between children will stop.
Even if it is verbal bullying, if you keep rejecting, resisting, and telling the other party that this is not right, things will be easier to stop.
Silence is the fate of the bully, and speaking out is the beginning of changing fate.
Ask for help in a timely manner
After verbal advice, the other party still does not stop, and it is likely that it may be malicious harm. At this time, simple warnings are meaningless, teaching children that in the case that they cannot stop bullying, they must find ways to protect themselves with other forces, such as telling the teacher, asking their parents for help, or calling the police.
Be the most solid backing for children
Tell your child that Mom and Dad will always be his strongest backing. Whenever you are threatened with violence and bullied, don't hide from your parents and suffer in silence, your parents will unconditionally side with you. The support of parents gives children not only a sense of security, but also the courage to take responsibility and the determination to protect themselves.
Help your child out of the shadows
Children are bullied, how to get out of the psychological shadow, is a longer and more important topic.
Komori mentioned earlier in our article is lucky to have an attentive mother and a teacher who knows how to educate children. Later, the mother gave feedback to the school, and the teacher communicated with the parents of the other party and came up with an apology method together.
The boy's parents were also surprised that their son had done such a thing, not only bought a new water cup, let the child apologize in person, but also wrote an apology letter with his son, put it together with a small indemnity, and solemnly handed it to Komori.
Komori saw the other party's serious apology, and the shadow in his heart gradually dissipated. After more than a month has passed, Komori no longer cares about what happened at the beginning, truly forgives the other party from the bottom of his heart, and the two people have chatted together.
Relevant regulations
According to Section 224 of singapore's Penal Code, any person who fights in public to disturb public tranquility constitutes the offence of brawl. Upon conviction, offenders may face up to one year in prison and/or a fine of up to S$5,000.
According to Chapter 321 of the Penal Code, any person who commits an act that causes harm to another person constitutes the offence of intentionally causing harm. Upon conviction, offenders may face up to 3 years in prison and/or a fine of up to S$5,000.
Those who beat people will pay a price, and also ask the victims to protect themselves, avoid being defensive, and cannot simply use violence to counter violence.
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