Campus life is the most memorable experience of growing up, children experience collective life for the first time in school, meet good friends, know how to get along with people, learn cultural knowledge in school, and spend a happy childhood, adolescence and adolescence.
Although learning tasks can be stressful and there are troubles with getting along with classmates, school life is a memory that most children have. As a parent, I hope that my children will grow up happily and get along well with their classmates at school, but in reality, school life will also bring nightmares to some children.
The news of the accidental death of a junior high school boy in Lingbi County, Suzhou City, Anhui Province, has attracted attention. Just 14 years old a fresh life disappeared, anyone will be distressed to hear it, and the parents' mood can be imagined. A news video shows the student's father shouting at the school gate why a live-jumping child would die in his dormitory.
The father said that the husband and wife have been working outside the home for many years, in order to create a good learning environment for their children, he applied for a single dormitory for his children, and the cost of accommodation is relatively high. The school arranged for the senior students to live in the child's single dormitory, and privately agreed to share the 300 yuan accommodation fee, the conflict originated from the dead child asking the senior students for expenses, and there was a conflict.
For a time, the phenomenon of campus bullying once again aroused concern, similar incidents are not uncommon, some students are slandered and ridiculed by classmates, some children have been bullied by classmates for a long time, and even beaten to lose their lives. There are also some children who can't stand bullying, rise up to rebel from victims to murderers, etc., and shocking incidents are not unique.
China Daily did a survey in 2015, and of the 1,002 people surveyed, 73.3% had experienced bullying in school. The Supreme People's Procuratorate also released data in 2017, and in 2016, 1,881 cases of violent crimes of school bullying were accepted by procuratorial organs across the country.
Statistics released by the China School Bullying Survey Report in 2017 show that the incidence of school bullying in the central region has reached more than 46%, and language bullying has reached more than 23%.
Unesco once had a study that showed that for every 3 students in the world, 1 child was bullied.
Children who have been bullied cannot escape the tragic ending
For everyone, this is a set of data, but for children who encounter bullying in school, it is a major event related to mental health and even life, and it is a potential threat that cannot be prevented. Whether domestic or foreign, public or private, even very strict schools, can not completely eliminate school bullying.
Children who are bullied are not only physically harmed, but also trauma and psychological shadows that may be lifelong, or even destroyed for a lifetime. Children who have been bullied cannot escape the tragic ending, and these injuries may affect a lifetime.
1. Personality problems
Many children who are originally lively and cheerful, if they are bullied by school, subjected to verbal ridicule, insults and even humiliation, physical injuries may be cured, but psychological wounds cannot be repaired. After experiencing psychological blows, children mistakenly think that they are very poor before they are rejected by their classmates and will lose self-confidence.
With the experience of being bullied, the child's personality will become cowardly, suspicious, sensitive, timid, become a flattering personality, and even have low self-esteem for life.
2. The spirit is hit
A few days ago, a 13-year-old girl in Xiangxi, Hunan Province, experienced being beaten, robbed of money, and intimidated by her classmates at school and became insane. She was asked for 20 yuan by her classmates and asked her to give it every week, otherwise she would be blocked in the toilet and beaten. Soon the little girl began talking to herself, pulling her hair, and after the family took her to the hospital for examination, she was diagnosed with mental illness.
Children who should be pampered and surrounded by happiness are bullied by their classmates, suffer psychological blows, and they will become depressed with limited endurance, leaving a shadow psychologically, and being mentally shocked and stimulated.
3. Psychological pressure
Dr. Long Ze of the University of London once said that when people are bullied in childhood, the impact on the heart will continue into middle age, and the probability of depression is 5 times higher than others. Psychological "compulsive repetition" refers to the relationship patterns that a person establishes as a child that has a long-term impact and will continue to be copied.
Having suffered from school bullying, you may not mention this experience from time to time, but the child's inner pressure and fear will leave a deep imprint, and the psychological pressure will not disappear.
What can parents do to minimize the harm of bullying in school
Many children, because of their personality or fear of being criticized, do not dare to tell teachers and parents even if they are maliciously bullied by their classmates. As a parent, we should pay attention to the state of the child, if you find that he resists school, is often unwell, mentally ill, sleeps and dreams, etc., and becomes negative and unconfident, the original love to talk and laugh personality becomes taciturn, these abnormalities need to be paid attention to, and understand in depth whether the child has encountered school bullying.
To find a child's abnormality, parents should first give him more care, more companionship and communication. When you find your child being bullied, you must stand in his position and perspective, so that he feels the support and security from his parents. The attentive companionship of the parents allows the child to have an outlet for emotional release, otherwise he may use extreme ways to hurt himself.
After finding that the child is bullied, parents should do a good job of appeasement rather than accusation or questioning at the first time. If it is understood and judged that the child's ability cannot be properly resolved, you can turn to the teacher and the school to seek justice.
In the early hours of the morning, mom came to nag:
Children are the future of society and the hope of the family, and any problem encountered in growth should be paid attention to by parents and schools. Campus bullying is invincible, and even will not realize that as a parent, it is to protect the child to the greatest extent and pass on the awareness of self-protection.
In the face of bullying, we must stand in the position of the child, give him encouragement and support, both parents and schools have the responsibility to protect the child's personal safety and mental health, away from bullying.
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