"The wisdom of the youth is the wisdom of the country, and the wealth of the youth is the wealth of the country", when he was a student, he first met Liang Qichao from his "Young China Saying". At the end of the Ming Dynasty and the beginning of the Qing Dynasty, it was the era of Liang Qichao's life, when the feudal society was dark, the Eight-Nation Alliance invaded China, the country was in ruins, and the people were in dire straits. Liang Qichao actively participated in various restoration movements, calling on everyone to create an independent and self-reliant new China.
However, the Penghu Reform Law failed, and Liang Qichao was forced to flee to Japan, and he did not give up his efforts and pinned his hopes on the vast number of young people. Young people are the hope and future of the motherland, and Liang Qichao is a famous political activist and thinker, who has infected thousands of young people with his thoughts, writings, and calls to action.
In addition to his career success, he was also an amazing father, and when he was educating his children, he also regarded family education as a career.
Liang Qichao had 9 children in his lifetime, three of whom were elected academicians of the Chinese Academy of Sciences. They are the eldest son Liang Sicheng, who is a famous architect, the second son Liang Siyong, a famous archaeologist, the fifth son Liang Sili, and a rocket control system expert. The rest of the children were also elites in all spheres of society, including poetry researchers, army colonels, librarians, economists, revolutionaries, and so on.
Liang Qichao's success is not only in his own career, his efforts in family education, and the great contributions made by his children to the construction of a new China, but also the greatest achievement of his life. Compared with many modern fathers, Liang Qichao seems to be a "superman".
Once a mother said to me in a private message that after the child was born, her husband rarely participated in the growth of the child, as long as he told him that the child's growth needs the company of the father, he said that he was too busy at work, making money was so hard, and the pressure was really great.
Fathers are busy with their careers and don't have time to manage their children? Liang Qichao, a busy father, can be said to have all aspects of his children's education and concern. Some things about the child, even if he is busy, will take time out and arrange them properly. There is no substitute for fathers' education of their children, and the following advantages may be lacking in mothers:
The children's learning, the father's vision and pattern are more profound than the mother's
Many parents, when the child reaches the age of education, they begin to be anxious, and even some mothers begin to consider the future education of their children from pregnancy, what kind of kindergarten the child goes to, where to go to primary school, and what kind of interest class to attend. Did your dad participate in such a decision?
Children's education is indeed a big thing, and Liang Qichao's educational thinking is that children's education should be taught according to their aptitudes. He asked his eldest daughter Liang Sishun to give a Japanese tutor a make-up lesson and let her learn the social sciences of the West. He asked Liang Sicheng and Liang Sishun to have a calligraphy teacher and instruct them to practice calligraphy.
In addition, even Liang Qichao was troubled by his children's choice of school, and in a letter to Liang Sishun, he said: "After returning to China, it is really a big problem to study for the younger siblings of Ru. ”
The education of the child is the responsibility of the parents, and the involvement of the father is important. Because in social activities, the father's social relations are more extensive, touching all walks of life, and the vision of the future development of the child will be more profound.
Dad's involvement in raising children can make children have a pleasant and relaxed living atmosphere
Moms are the ones who care most about their children, but they don't necessarily love you the most. My children taught me one such lesson. Once, I went out for training and needed to leave home for more than a month. My heart was full of reluctance and worry about my children. What should I do if my father cooks food and the child is not used to eating? Dad will not cover the child with a quilt at night, what should the children do if they have a cold?
I thought the kids would be in the same mood as me, but when they heard the news, they cheered: "Daddy, Daddy, Mommy is gone, can we eat instant noodles together, can we watch MORE TV at night?" When they got an affirmative answer, the sound of their persistent screams of celebration rang out in the living room.
The mother will have an involuntary desire for control over the child, and the father is the one who brings the child a relaxed and pleasant atmosphere of life. When Liang Qichao educates his children, he advocates that they should be people who are tight and measured.
When Liang Sizhuang was studying abroad, her father Liang Qichao wrote to her: "It is very good to be able to enter the university, that is, you can't and don't have to worry, the days are long." ”
He said to his son Liang Sicheng: "I am afraid that because you have learned too specifically, you will make your life nearly monotonous, and a life that is too monotonous is easy to get tired of, and tiredness is the root of suffering and even degeneration." ”
Dads with their children can occasionally seem very unreliable, but it is this "unreliable" dad who tells his children that learning is important, but there are many interesting things in life that are also very important. The relaxation and pleasure brought by fathers to their children's mental aspects are also the spices in their intense learning, and they are the "gas station" for them to continue to work hard.
Therefore, the growth of children not only needs the meticulous care of mothers, but also a father who accompanies children and creates family joy is very much needed by children.
Dad teaches children to be strong, and moms teach children to be tolerant
Seven of Liang Qichao's nine children have studied abroad, and the youngest of them, Liang Sizhuang, was only 17 years old when he went abroad.
In that era when communication facilities were not perfect, it was not too much to describe it as "once this life is gone, life and death are two unknowns". Liang Qichao's children, everything they experienced abroad, can only be carried by strength.
In the process of educating children, Liang Qichao always firmly believes that whether a person can become a talent is mainly to see whether he has a strong will and perseverance. A strong person can always overcome the difficulties and bumps on the road to success, and those who fail are always unwilling to get up in the face of difficulties.
Dad is the embodiment of strength and bravery, and he is often more strict with his children. When the child encounters failure and wants to withdraw, the father tells the child: "Persist, you can achieve success, you can't give up because of hard work." "Fathers cultivate the qualities of bravery, strength, independence, self-confidence and decisiveness of their children, which is a little bit of subtle results.
In the eyes of the mother, her child is perfect no matter what he looks like. Some children learn to walk more slowly, and when he falls, the mother uses her gentle hands to lift the child up and tells the child: There is a mother behind you, and I am your protector. Mothers fill their children's hearts with a sense of security and teach their children what tolerance is.
Parents love their children, and they should have far-reaching plans for them. On the road of parenting, parents should share the mission and give their children a better future.