As a model parent, Liang Qichao's nine sons and daughters are outstanding in character, talented and have their own achievements! Regarding education, Liang Qichao said: We must guide children's fun!
Sensory happiness is usually short-lived, the happiness brought by a meal or a party is difficult to sustain, and following the law of decreasing returns, the threshold will gradually increase, happiness will become more and more difficult, can only be achieved by increasing stimulation and surprises, satisfaction and then inevitably fall into emptiness; and happiness based on value experience can last a long time.
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Liang Qichao
The child's fun must be guided
In the early years of life, the fun is the most intense, and the sky-high price is chaotic; if he is not led to the road of higher taste, they must flow into the inferior taste.
We advocate fun education to give children or young people a taste that can be used for life when the interest of children or young people is strong and the direction is not decided.
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Lu Xun
Protect your child's skepticism
Taming and the like are not evil virtues. But development has begun, and it is not a virtue to be tamed in everything, and perhaps it is simply not a good thing. Of course, the words of "Father" and his predecessors must also be listened to, but they must also be reasonable. If I had a child who thought he was inferior to others and bowed backwards, or if he was smiling and in fact always plotting dark arrows, I would rather hear the pleasure of calling me "something" to my face...
However, the general trend in China is only developing on the side of ——— "quiet" such as taming, low eyebrows and pleasing eyes, only promises, can be regarded as a good child, the name is "interesting". Lively, healthy, tenacious, chest and back... Anything that belongs to "moving" is inevitably someone shaking their heads...
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Kingdom Dimension
The purpose of education is to make man a perfect man
What is the purpose of education?
It is only a person who makes man perfect. What is a perfect person? It is said that the human capacity is undeveloped and harmonious is also. Human ability is divided into two kinds: one is the ability of the body, and the other is the ability of the spirit. Developing its body and shrinking its spirit, or developing its spirit and abandoning its body, is not the so-called perfect one. The perfect character, the spirit and the body must be developed in harmony.
The spirit is divided into three parts: knowledge, feelings, and will.
In this regard, there are ideals of truth, beauty and goodness: the ideal of intelligence of the "true" person, the ideal of the feeling of the "beautiful", and the ideal of the will of the "good" person. The perfect person must not fail to prepare the three virtues of truth, beauty and goodness, and in order to attain this ideal, education begins.
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Nebula Master
Six keys to homeschooling
Historically, there have been many celebrities who have been able to achieve fame thanks to good tutors. For example, Meng Mu Sanqian, mother-in-law teaching filial piety, and wang Xizhi practicing characters and Wang Mian learning painting, all because of the success of family education, so they can eventually become immortal talents.
At present, the most important thing in family education is that children should cultivate:
Integrity in dealing with the world
If children develop the habit of lying from an early age, it is tantamount to laying an ambush for their future, so cultivating integrity in the world is the basis for successful business.
Good habits
From an early age, cultivate children's good habits such as love and cleanliness, compassion and care for life, turning off the lights and closing the door at will, and with good habits, why bother with being a person in the future can not be perfect.
Polite character
From an early age, children should develop the habit of respecting others, and even not only be polite to their elders, but also treat anyone with courtesy and courtesy, the so-called "respect for others", can treat others with courtesy, and naturally can be respected by others in the future.
Receptive character
Some students can't read or take exams, all because they can't listen attentively in class and don't have the habit of accepting. How can a character without acceptance, like a vessel covered, withstand the nectar that descends from heaven? Therefore, from an early age, it is necessary to develop a child's acceptable character, so that we can learn and progress.
The virtue of hard work
"Diligence is meritorious, drama is useless." Children's mental inadequacies are due to their playfulness, so they should be guided to read, to work, and to develop the virtue of hard work.
Normal life
Develop a normal life for children, including three meals and normal emotions. A normal life is beneficial to physical and mental health, and it is even more important for standing in the world in the future.
In addition to the above six points, it is especially necessary to maintain the self-esteem of the child, and not to often wantonly ridicule him, ridicule him, blame him, and discriminate against him.
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Yang Chen
A good education should inspire interest
I experience that "good education" is first of all to inspire people's interest in learning, to learn consciously, to cultivate people's self-motivation, to guide people to be eager to learn, and to constantly improve themselves. Let students be educated unconsciously and let them subtly. The role of role models in this regard is very important, and words are not as good as examples.
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Nan Huaijin
Being human is first and foremost important
Teach your children to be human first
Why should a person read? The most correct answer in tradition is the four words "read and be reasonable". To be reasonable is to first understand the truth of being a human being. If you want to ask the Chinese nation, what is the purpose of education that Chinese has always had? Let's repeat: it's for "being human", not for "living".
Know your child's nature
I think that most of the education in ancient and modern China and abroad has made a mistake, and parents often subconsciously pin their wishes on their children that they can't do in their lives, but they forget the sexual orientation and essence of their children.
Education, first of all, to know the child's sexual orientation, first understand the direction of a child's temperament. ...... Education is only an increase in the upper edge, and the teacher tries to help him, cultivate him, and make him stand up on his own endowment, which is the purpose of education.
Let your child start by doing small things well
According to traditional Chinese culture, the real children's education is "sprinkling and responding", children enter primary school between the ages of six and eight, how to sweep the floor, wipe the table, how to talk to teachers, adults, friends polite attitude, rules, this is the most important. In ancient times, when I entered primary school and began to learn "sprinkling and sweeping", it was the basis for learning to be a person, and the purpose of education was to be a person.
You don't look at sweeping the floor, wiping the table, serving the bowl is nothing remarkable, these are all kinds of life education, life education will be, and it will naturally be done when you grow up. The basic education is not well learned, and it is called learning knowledge and learning knowledge, but there is no basis for being a human being, and this education is a failure.
Respect your child's hobbies
A person who likes engineering and insists that he study literature cannot do it. There are many children who like to play with broken watches and toys since childhood, and parents must punish him for not destroying things. In the eyes of the educator, this child is a mechanical genius, and he should be trained in this regard.
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Mo
Only with good parents do good children
The biggest impact on people is family education
Everyone's first family education from birth, the most affected is also family education, this kind of education has words and deeds, and even I think that body teaching is more important than words. You live in this family, your elders, your relatives, the way they treat work, how they treat others, I think it will have a very direct and subtle impact on the children. Therefore, I think that having a good family style is indeed very beneficial to the growth of children.
Good parents are learned
There are no naturally successful parents, and there are no parents who do not need to learn, and successful parents are the result of continuous learning and improvement. I have come into contact with so many outstanding parents that none of them have easily achieved the success of the godson.
A good mother is prevented from happening, while an unqualified mother is that the child's problem is already very serious, and even the teacher has talked to the child, and she is not yet aware of the existence of the problem.
Everyone must learn the relevant knowledge before becoming a parent, and the awareness and knowledge about how to be a parent is prepared as early as possible, and the fuller the better.
The child's problem is a reflection of the parent's problem
Excellent children are mostly the result of quality education, and problem children are mostly the products of problem families. Most of the children's problems are not caused by the children themselves, but the refraction of the parents' problems, and the parents are often the biggest creators of the children's problems, and they are also the biggest obstacles for the children to correct their mistakes and shortcomings. The most urgent thing is not to educate children, but to educate parents, without parental change there is no change in children. There are no children who do not want to learn well, only children who cannot learn well, no children who do not have a good education, only parents who will not educate. Therefore, scolding yourself before scolding the child, and hitting yourself before hitting the child, is the only way to completely change yourself.
Help your child adapt to test-taking education
According to statistics, there are nearly 10 million "idle" minors on the mainland. The so-called idle minors refer to children who should be studying in school and do not want to read, and choose to drop out of school, of which 94% are the result of academic failure, academic backwardness, school weariness, truancy, and running away from home have become the four-step process of juvenile crime today.
Therefore, helping children adapt to test-oriented education has become a due obligation of our parents, and the best way to help children reduce their burden is for our parents to increase their burden, that is, our parents can become the child's mentor.
Good communication is all heard
Good parents, their good communication comes from consciously following these three principles:
The first step is to listen, which is to let the child speak out and understand the true meaning of the child's words.
The second step is understanding, that is, to think from the child's point of view whether it makes sense, and the result is often reasonable.
The third step is advice, which is that it makes sense that the child may not be able to take the right action, so parents should give advice here.
Of these three steps, listening is the worst parents do.
Ways for children to develop a big heart
The most important factors, such as will, mind, and morality, cannot be effective through "explicit education" such as parental preaching, but are incorporated into the flesh and blood of children through parental behavior, that is, "latent education.".
In addition to the example that parents can set a good example, the best way for children to cultivate a big heart is to let children read more famous books, read more biographies of great people, and let children look at society and themselves with the eyes of great people from primary school.
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Ye Shengtao
Education is all about building habits
Usually it is said that someone is not competent, that is, someone has not developed many habits. For example, Zhang San's memory is not strong, that is, Zhang San does not have the habit of remembering some of the things he saw and heard. To say that Li Si's expression ability is not good means that Li Si does not have the habit of speaking out his thoughts and feelings. Therefore, the more habits are formed, the stronger that person's abilities become. Doing things requires all kinds of abilities, so the most important thing is to develop various habits.
We are educated in schools with the aim of forming habits and empowering them. When we leave school, we still have to be educated in many ways, and we have to educate ourselves, and the purpose is still to form habits and enhance our abilities. The more natural the habit, the better, and the more powerful the better.
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Qian Mu
The first priority of education
The first task of education is that every member of this nation and nation can come to know their own traditions. Just as a person is taught to know himself. I don't even know myself, so I don't need to say anything else.
Today, the first big mistake in the education of our Orientals is to imitate the West and copy the West. I don't know that the education of every country and every nation must have its own set.
But this does not mean that we should be complacent and self-contained. Nor does it mean that we do not know how to value others, and do not know how to learn from the strengths of others to make up for our own shortcomings. But there should be a limit to all of this. Do not forget yourself in order to learn from others, and you must not destroy yourself first in order to learn from others. Today, we in the East have such a trend, and we urgently need to improve it ourselves.
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Cai Yuanpei
Something that determines a child's life
What determines a child's life is not academic performance, but sound personality cultivation.
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