"Mom, why are you going to work?"the mother's textbook answer won countless applause
Readers who have become parents are sure to be familiar with a scene where your child cries and cries when you are about to leave for work.
In fact, every time I face my son's retention, my heart is very unhappy, and I want to stay with him, but the real work cannot be allowed.
I don't know if your child has ever asked you a very realistic question: Mom, why do you want to work?
How do you answer your child when you hear this question?
I thought about the scene I saw the other day:
The child cried and asked the mother this question.
The answer given by the mother was that work could give her children a better life and buy them what they wanted.
In fact, it is still quite sad for children to ask this kind of question and think about it carefully, because there is no way to live for adults.
Parents do not want to miss the stage of their children's growth, and also hope to give their children more companionship, but in the end they still bent their waists for five buckets of rice.
Working like mine is actually quite free for working hours, but even then I still can't balance work and family very well.
I have to say that I have really experienced it to appreciate the difficulties of parents in this regard.
Since there is no way to balance, answer the child well when he asks him this question.
Because this question may be the child's first doubt about society.
The answer to this question may more or less affect the child's future thinking and employment direction.
In fact, many parents will encounter their own children do not like to go to work, once they mention to their children to work, the children will cry twice and hang themselves.
At this time, the children are really very reluctant to go to work, because there is no clear concept of going to work for them, they just feel that because of the work, their mother must leave, which is a bad thing in their eyes.
Therefore, it is necessary for parents to seriously tell their children about going to work and give their children enough security.
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Lead by example and think carefully about the meaning of going to work
When the child is still young, the answer to the question should be more rigorous, because the child at this age cannot distinguish which are true and what is a joke.
Therefore, before answering why you go to work, you should ask yourself about your attitude towards work and whether you are motivated when you treat work.
Only when a person truly loves work will they feel that work is very meaningful.
When the parents are a person who is very serious and loves life, it is possible for the child to become a person similar to the parents, full of passion for things, and optimistic about life.
If you feel that work does not realize your value, but only choose to work because of life, please avoid conveying such ideas to your children.
Because children are educated, they may not have the same ideas as their parents in the future.
So don't take the child as a reason to work at this stage, after all, when there are no children, parents have already started to work, such an excuse is not fair to the child.
When the child receives the negative emotions of the parents about the work, the future will be subconsciously uninterested in the work, so take the child's problem seriously.
Some parents say that because you can meet your needs because you go to work, children who hear this kind of words will make their children feel that they are a burden to the family, and it is because his mother will be so tired.
So the words really have to be said well.
Work is for themselves, and when answering children, it can be said that it is because the mother loves the job now, because the mother has seen a lot of food and made a lot of friends.
Just like those friends you usually play with, mom needs friends, and moms and friends can be happy together, right?
I hope that baby you can also find your own love of the career in the future, see a lot of different things, and make a variety of friends.
Establish a correct career outlook for children as soon as possible, which will be conducive to children's future employment.
For about forty years of work, if work does not bring a corresponding sense of belonging and accomplishment, then work must be boring for children.
Over time, children will start complaining, complaining about the difficulty of the world, complaining about why their parents are not rich and can keep themselves from trying.
When the next generation of children has the next generation, it may also become such an education method, but the next generation will also complain about work, forming a vicious circle.
Never underestimate the impact of parents' words on your child, sometimes for a lifetime.
Perhaps parents are now mired in the mire, but when faced with children who are still a blank sheet of paper, I hope that parents' answers can be positive and positive.
The right values have always been a valuable quality.
Teach your child that the harder you work, the luckier you get.
Every parent expects their child to bravely pursue his ideal and ultimately achieve it.
So in order to give your child a good environment to grow up in, think carefully before answering the questions.
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Working at the same time does not affect the mother's love for the child
The child's crying is actually just afraid that the work will take away the love that the mother belongs to him, and in the child's eyes, the parents are the whole world in his eyes, so they have a strong possessiveness towards the parents.
How to make children not eat vinegar from work?
Take the initiative to accompany the child, and it is the kind of accompaniment that is fully committed, and it is a good choice to accompany the child to play games and read books.
After returning from work, you can also say to your children: "Now the mother has come to play with you." “
Over time, children gain enough security from their parents' behavior to know that they have always been loved, and that high-quality companionship is key.
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Truly let children understand their profession
You can explain your work to your child when you start to have memories.
Or often take the child to feel the content that needs to be done in his career, the working environment, etc., so that the child can better understand the behavior of his parents' work needs to temporarily leave him.
Among them, what needs to be explained to children is what value work can achieve, and the disadvantages of not working.
One mother, whose profession is a cleaner, explained to her child this way:
Mom gets up early and goes out to clean the road you are about to walk, will you be in a good mood when you walk such a road?
In this way, the child will understand the meaning of his mother's work as soon as he hears it.
Hopefully, more and more parents will pay attention to answering their children's questions, and only when children truly understand the meaning of a thing can they better accept different things.
It is hoped that parents can play a good role as a guide and help their children reach the other side of the ideal.