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When people are old, what they are most afraid of is not to get sick, not to die, but to be disliked.
Once you realize that you are superfluous and annoying, you will have a strong psychological burden. Even if you are healthy and live a very rich life, you will have extreme thoughts and be depressed all the time.
In fact, such an idea is not necessary, compared to those who are demonized and immoral old people, you can take good care of yourself, for the children, it is already a blessing.
When the TV series "All Is Good" was broadcast, many people said that if anyone's family met an old man like Su Daqiang, they would run out of luck and ruin their blessings.
The reason is that Su Daqiang not only does not know how to think about his children, but also causes endless trouble for his children, and it is normal for such an old man to be annoying.
Everyone will grow old one day, and probably no one will hope that they will be rejected when they are old. If you have such an idea, then the following three things can not be done under any circumstances.
One: Don't favor sons over daughters
As a parent, not being able to level a bowl of water will itself affect the direction of the whole family, and will also affect the feelings and relationships between brothers and sisters. In the TV series "An Jia", Fang Xiangjin's mother is a typical case.
Fang Xiangjin's mother prefers sons to daughters, this kind of thinking has been deeply rooted, she regards her daughter as an accessory, has always controlled her daughter's life, it seems that the only value of her daughter's existence is to help her son.
Fang Zhijin knows that knowledge can change fate, as long as her parents are willing to support, she will be very successful in the future, and she will try to repay them in the future.
But from childhood to adulthood, Fang Xiangjin's family has never supported her. She could only work and teach herself, but she had no way to get a diploma.
But Fang Zhijin did not give up her life, she seized the real opportunity. After engaging in sales work, she was not afraid of hard work, and slowly achieved good results.
She could have lived a good life, but because her parents were too patriarchal, the relationship between her family was strained.
The low-level old man is easily bound by deep-rooted thoughts, and Fang Xiangjin's mother is distressed about her son and always thinks about him. Fang Xiangjin's younger brother was overprotected by his parents, unable to be truly independent, and did not want to work hard, and gradually he became accustomed to his sister's care and support.
They have several sisters in the family, and if the parents are not affected by the wrong ideas, everyone works together, and life will not be so hard.
Although Fang Zhijin struggled very hard and knew how to keep the bottom line at work, she always chose to compromise in the face of her family, and eventually made her life more and more difficult.
Whether a family is prosperous or not, the key lies in the elderly, I hope you do not meet the patriarchal parents, their thinking can not be changed, not only incapable of improving the quality of life of the family, but also drag down the future of their children.
Two: Don't have too much control
Aunt Li is a very controlling person, he has two children, and her daughter married far away very early, because Aunt Li has complained about her for a long time.
In fact, there is a reason why her daughter chose to marry far away, and she knows that if she marries a man from her hometown, Aunt Li will definitely interfere in their married life, and it is difficult to have real freedom.
In order to get rid of the control of her parents, Aunt Li's daughter can only choose a path that is more suitable for herself.
But Aunt Li's son Lin Wei can't get rid of it, Lin Wei talked about a girlfriend when he was in college, their feelings are very good, but Aunt Li doesn't like each other and tries everything to make them break up.
Later, Aunt Li asked relatives to introduce objects to her son, and as long as Lin Wei did not cooperate, she began to make trouble. Not eating, not going out, not sleeping, forcing her son to agree.
But even though Lin Wei had married the girl she liked according to her mother's instructions, Aunt Li's desire to control did not stop. She always pointed fingers at their marriage, and Aunt Li even wanted to control her daughter-in-law.
On weekends, the daughter-in-law would occasionally return to her mother's house for dinner, but Aunt Li just didn't agree. In addition, Aunt Li taught the other party at every turn, hoping that her daughter-in-law would obey her words.
However, her daughter-in-law is an only child, spoiled from a young age, it is impossible to wronged herself, Lin Wei was married less than two years after divorce.
Lin Wei, who is thirty years old, because he has a mother who is too domineering, his life is extremely miserable, and the blind date girl does not want to contact him again after learning about his family situation.
Whether a family is prosperous or not, in fact, depends on the character of the elderly.
Parents who are too controlling, do not know how to respect others, everything has to be done according to their own ideas, they have no empathy, and eventually they will only make the home more and more unhealed.
Three: Don't cause trouble for your children and keep a peaceful mind
Zhou Ning's grandmother's mentality is particularly poor, she is only 63 years old, although there is a little problem with her body, as long as she maintains a good mood, she can live happily.
Zhou Ning's parents are very filial and will consider everything for grandma in advance. But Grandma always looked at things very negatively, and as soon as she was unwell, she began to think wildly. Zhou Ning's father could only take leave to accompany her at home, and he patiently advised his grandmother to go to the hospital for examination, and she was very uncooperative.
In order to take good care of her grandmother, Zhou Ning's mother had to wake up several times a night, and when her grandmother was thirsty, she had to help pour water or help her go to the toilet.
Zhou Ning's mother was tossed to the point that everyone was haggard, and her father could not work with peace of mind, and the two often quarreled over their grandmother.
There is an old man with a poor mentality in the family, they are like children who have not grown up, they are always particularly willful, the family atmosphere will not only be very depressing, but you will also feel physically and mentally exhausted after a long time.
When people are old, if they don't want to be disliked, they must first do a good job of themselves, take care of themselves, restrain their behavior and thoughts, know how to compare hearts to hearts, and know how to hurt their children, otherwise the more you find trouble, the more you push the people who love you farther and farther.
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