In the past, the carriages and horses were very slow, and there was only enough to love one person for the rest of my life. Now, WeChat is very fast, almost today is still a couple relationship, tomorrow may become a stranger.
In the fast-paced era, if you can meet someone who is willing to take the time to listen to your nonsense, please cherish it.
After all, it's easy to be happy at first sight, but it's hard to stay together.
In ordinary days, it is also a different kind of romance to have a person who listens to you say a lot of "nonsense" every day, understands your unspoken meaning and wants to stop talking.
For the rest of my life, it is really a great happiness to meet someone who can speak.
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Behind every nonsense is I miss you
Recently, the costume detective drama "Wind Rises Luoyang" starring Song Yi has been on the hot search again, this time because of Liu Ran's demonic lines in the play.
Because every few lines, the word "Erlang" will appear, so everyone laughs and says that Liu Ran is "Erlang Color Bell".
Although it is a joke, the love story of Liu Ran and Jiro in the play is very sweet.
Although the two are the first to marry and then love under the arranged marriage of their parents, the twisted melon can also be sweet.
"What is Erlang looking for?"
"How did Erlang's case go?" "Erlang has been investigating the case for so long, he must be hungry~" "Does Erlang like this taste?" "Has the person Jiro was looking for found it?" "Erlang, where are you going?"
"Erlang, what do you ask this for?"
Although a lot of it is nonsense, behind every nonsense is that I care about you and I am thinking about you.
In my circle of friends, Dabai and Ma Jun are the happiest coupleS I've ever seen because of nonsense.
Dabai does consulting work and works in Guomao, while Ma Jun is an authentic code farmer who works in Zhongguancun. One is to the west of Beijing City, the other is to the east of Beijing City, and if Ma Jun wants to find Dabai, he will have to do a subway for about an hour and a half.
Although they have lived together, the long distance and frequent overtime still make the two spend very little time together every day.
But there is a very good punch card system between the two people.
Before going out in the morning, Ma Jun wanted to give big white hair: "I'm leaving."
At 9:30 a.m., Dabai sent a message to Ma Jun: "I have arrived at the company." ”
At 11 o'clock, the two agreed to punch in and drink water and rest their eyes for 2 minutes.
Eat at 12:30 and punch each other.
After eating, Dabai wanted to take a nap and would send Ma Jun: "I slept." ”
Ma Jun would respond: "Kiss, sleep~"
When I woke up at 1:30, Dabai would tell Ma Jun that I was awake, and Ma Jun responded with an emoji.
At 3 p.m. and 5 p.m., we remind each other again to punch in and drink water.
Dabai's off-work time will be earlier than Ma Jun's, and after work, Dabai will clock in again to tell Ma Jun that I am off work.
Very nonsensical language, but every greeting is saying "I miss you".
Behind every response was: "I miss you too, I'm in it." ”
Life can't have big things every day, after the sweet period of feelings, the days will always be flat.
But in ordinary life, some people are willing to accompany you every day to say "nonsense", understand your strange, cute love, afraid that love miserable you.
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Nonsense will not make your heart move, but it can make you feel at ease Here is the title Please enter the title
In the sixth season of "Strange Story", Chu Yin said a very touching passage:
"The first time you said I love you, you may be unforgettable, but you will not remember the 10th time, the 100th time I love you in what situation, because there is no longer a sense of freshness." 」 I've been married for twenty-three years, and I've said everything to my wife, and there's not a single nonsense that isn't right. ”
Indeed, life is a process of constantly turning freshness into security, and turning the sea oath into the right nonsense.
, listening to it may not make you feel good, but there is a solid sense of security.
The words "I am there" and "I ate" are all testimonies of two people's love in ordinary marriages.
I have seen a very interesting phenomenon: those couples who go to the Civil Affairs Bureau for divorce, you can see those couples who can still quarrel, most of them will not leave, but those who do not speak, lack of "nonsense", most of them are gone.
Some time ago, Mango Tv broadcast a variety show about divorce ,Goodbye Lovers," in which the story of a pair of guests, Guo Keyu and Zhang He, was the most uncomfortable.
Teacher Guo was once a generation of film queens, and then at the age of marriage, she chose to marry the actor Zhang He. They survived the seven-year itch of marriage, but they did not survive the first decade.
At the first meeting of the show, the two avoided their eyes, the physical distance was far away, and they basically did not speak.
Although the other two groups of guests also had emotional problems, they exchanged a lot.
As the show progressed, the two talents slowly opened their hearts and began to communicate more and more.
After ten years of marriage, the two do not know each other very well, do not even know what the other likes to eat, and the few interactions are just talking about things.
Because there is not a lot of "nonsense", the marriage of two people eventually goes a strange way.
Indeed, marriages that lack "nonsense" are like a pool of stagnant water, dark and lifeless.
From this point of view, nonsense is not wasted, it is an indicator of relationship, a person is willing to talk to you a lot of nonsense, which means that he still has feelings for you, and this love can make you feel at ease.
So, cherish the person who is willing to talk a lot of nonsense to you, nonsense will not make you feel good, but it will make you feel at ease.
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Because it's you, the crap turns into "love talk"
Man's most precious thing is life, and where the time of life is spent, it means that that part must be very important to him.
People who are willing to take the time to listen to your nonsense must put you in a very important position.
Because it's you, I'm willing to listen.
Because it's you, crap turns into love.
Yang Dai once talked about her and Qian Zhongshu's daily life in "Invisibility Cloak": the two people rarely have flowery language, often talk about a lot of nonsense, but there is a lot of joy.
"If I want to give you a Fairy Magic Weapon, what do you want?"
"We all have to cloak ourselves in invisibility, one for each of us, and we will travel together."
"When you have a good time, you can't help but be mischievous, alarm people, can't stay invisible, and you have to flee quickly."
"Ah, there has to be a method of shrinking the ground."
"Also the Talisman."
The most beautiful look of love is like this, you are making trouble, she is laughing.
Jiaojiao and Brother Chun were once a couple that I was very envious of in college, and the two were like conjoined babies, inseparable every day, and talked late in the middle of the night every day.
But just two days ago, I brushed the circle of friends and saw that Jiaojiao sent a circle of friends dynamics that officially announced the breakup.
I wonder why they broke up, after all they've been together for 8 years.
Jiaojiao replied to me: "After a long time, coupled with the fact that after graduation, the two people chatted less and less, and I didn't know why, and now I don't want to say anything to him." ”
Because, speaking of, together. Because I said no, I chose to separate.
The reason why nonsense is important is because I have you in my heart all the time, put you in my heart, and I am willing to share it with you, and this kind of love engraved in my bones is the most precious.
The rest of your life is short, please cherish the person who talks a lot of nonsense with you, don't wait for the loss and regret it.
Some people say that nonsense is very uninteresting.
But from another perspective, if it weren't for loving you, who would want to lick their faces every day and risk being scolded?
The years are thin, the life is short, may we all be gentle with the person who is willing to talk nonsense with you.
After all, people who live with kindness and joy are warm everywhere and full of stars.
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About the author: Xi Yuan, the most writing enthusiast in the consulting circle, the soul ferryman who knows the most about consultation in the writing circle. *Note: The pictures in this article come from the Internet, if there is any infringement, please contact to delete.