Recently, the epidemic has entered the "spring cold", which has caused a lot of impact on our lives.
But what is more difficult than us is the epidemic prevention personnel, every time the full nucleic acid, they wear suffocating protective clothing, braving the cold or heat, standing outside for a whole day, but also constantly bending over.
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They are also responsible for delivering supplies to the people in the quarantine area, sometimes so tired that they lie directly on the ground.
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For their selfless efforts, people are grateful and want to express this gratitude.
Some parents choose to let their children give Dabai a cultural performance, so at various testing points, they sometimes see children dancing to Dabai "Listen to me say thank you, because of you, warm the four seasons" thank you dance.
It may seem like a good thing, but this behavior is scolded online...
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Behind the scolding of dancing to the great white,
Hidden in people's inner scrutiny...
Let the child use the form of dancing to thank the epidemic prevention personnel, itself is correct, the purpose of parents to do this, one is to let the white people get a little comfort, the other is to let the child learn to be grateful, it seems that there is no problem.
But they ignore the real needs of the Great White.
Dabai's work is very intense, and when the task is heavy, he is busy until late to get home from work.
Watching a child dance for a few minutes is a waste of precious time. Moreover, dancing may cause the mask to not be tightly covered, and the safe distance cannot be guaranteed, increasing the risk of infection.
Look, delay time; don't look at it, and be afraid of hurting the child's heart and failing the parents' wishes. It is really inappropriate for Dabai to face such a dilemma in a tense work.
What's more, there are so many people waiting in line to do the test, you are here to show yourself, express gratitude, but let so many people waste unnecessary time in the cold wind, is this fair?
What's more, letting children dance as a way to win eyeballs, with speakers and shooting equipment, this is not only not to express gratitude, but to disrespect the white, but also to disrespect the child.
True gratitude should be from the perspective of others, considering their actual needs, rather than immersing themselves in self-motivation and self-satisfaction, creating additional burdens on each other.
For Dabai, the best way for us to express our gratitude is to cooperate with their work, go downstairs in time to do the test, queue up well, and prepare the test code in advance, so that they can complete the work as soon as possible and go home early to rest.
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Moreover, this practice of parents is not actually a correct education for children.
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Shape beautiful ideas for children,
Parents need to start from the child's point of view...
Cultivating a child's sense of gratitude is very good in itself, and it is also an excellent education.
But if the idea is not right, it will make the child misunderstand the meaning of gratitude, and may also cause the child to be hurt by the outside world.
For example, if we want to thank our friends for their help with gifts, we should combine our daily understanding of our friends and think about which items are their favorite, rather than picking the "good things" that we like and think to send over.
The same is true for Dabai, if Dabai truly receives the child's gratitude and is comforted in his heart, so that the child can feel the complete meaning of gratitude, and if Dabai or others are completely indifferent, the child may be very confused, and even the heart may be hurt.
If the parents coax and force the child to dance, and the child does not show this beautiful emotion from the heart, it is not only useless to the child, but also harmful.
Obviously, I want my children to get a good education, but in the end, they are self-defeating, in addition to dancing for the white, there are many such things in daily life.
For example, a chestnut: when the family goes out to travel during the holidays, the child is obviously having a good time, the parents in order to send a circle of friends, let him put up a pose to take a picture, the child does not cooperate with a reprimand, tears also have to "click" a piece, said to make him a growth commemorative book.
Such a growth commemorative book, I am afraid that it can only remind children of the painful memories of being forced and forced when they were young, right?
In addition, when relatives and friends gather during the New Year's Festival, parents are often keen to let their children perform live, what memorization, dance, singing, writing, arithmetic... It is simply a child's talent (da) art (xing) exhibition (she) show (si) dance (xian) stage (chang).
The parent's intention is good, and they want to exercise the child's courage and self-expression in this way, but if the child is reluctant, the parents also force him, and even go home to criticize him because he does not perform well, which deviates from the original intention of the good, and the child may be more reluctant to perform in the future, resulting in a vicious circle.
If parents let their children perform in order to satisfy their vanity, it is even worse. Because the child's temporary excellence does not represent anything, it is easy for others to judge the child, and if there is a slight deviation afterwards, it will become a laughing stock.
The true strength of the child is not shown to others and should not be used as a tool to show off.
Everyone wants their children to have the qualities of kindness, wisdom, bravery, and strength, but in the process of raising children, they cannot start from the self or external form and forcefully instill these ideas into their children.
In examination education, "cramming" is often criticized, and in terms of ideological cultivation, "spiritual cramming" also adversely affects children.
In "Cherry Pills", Yamane, from a small stomach is not good, the body is very weak, his father in order to exercise his strong will and improve his physical condition, often carry out harsh physical training for him, but also forced him to eat twenty "nutritious" dried fish every morning, resulting in Yamane running away from home. Moreover, Yamane's stomach has not improved, and his personality is only promised, which has not met his father's expectations.
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Not because the mind is good, the child can absorb rich nutrition. Each child is unique, parents in the process of educating their children, can not be in the form, or in order to meet the needs of some aspects of their own, but should start from the characteristics of the child, the child "customized" education Oh!
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Some parents force their children to give up their toys or snacks in order to teach their children to share; some parents forcibly carry their children who are crying and crying on the high slide in order to exercise their children's courage...
Not from the child's heart of the wish, not from the child's real appeal, no matter how good the form, will not play a good role, and even bring a counter-effect.
How to stimulate and awaken the emotions in children's hearts, so that they want to feel from the bottom of their hearts, is the problem that parents should think about carefully.
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