Yi Zhongtian: "Chinese women can't count on men, but Chinese men often have to count on women. When the battle was defeated, he called the woman to "kiss"; When the country is dead, it will use the red face and disaster to "blame the crime".
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From ancient times to the present, women have played multiple roles in this society, and once upon a time, we were influenced by the traditional belief that women should have a proper home and fulfill the responsibility of being virtuous and helpful, but in reality, they took on far more than men.
"Women can hold up half the sky" sounds not without exaggeration, but for women who are responsible for family management and workplace struggles, this sentence is well deserved.
There are old and young, inside and out, their responsibilities cover almost all aspects of life, and even the heavy responsibility of having children seems to have become their sole responsibility.
One can't help but wonder: isn't this a kind of social sorrow for women? Isn't it fair that women have always been in a disadvantaged position in the relationship between the sexes, but they bear a heavier burden than men?
Equality between men and women has been strongly advocated in contemporary society, but in reality, our men are far from fulfilling their due obligations, but they are evading their responsibilities and even blaming women for all their faults.
Have you ever met a man like this? If you can't earn money, you blame your wife for not having a prosperous husband, you can't give birth to a son, you blame your wife for not being able to give birth, your child is not good at studying, you blame your wife for her poor education, and even if you have an affair, you have to blame the original spouse for not being able to give family warmth.
The main culprit of such stupid thinking lies in the weakness of human nature to find "external causes". Whether it is a family or a society, once there is a problem, they always habitually turn their eyes to others, hold others accountable, and cover up their own mistakes.
There is no shortage of such examples throughout history. Da Ji of the Shang Dynasty, Bao Xi of the Zhou Dynasty, Yang Guifei of the Anshi Rebellion, and Empress Dowager Cixi of the Eight-Nation Alliance...... The decline of the country is blamed on these so-called "troubled women".
In fact, blaming others for all the difficulties we face is tantamount to labeling ourselves as "escapism". The more you look for scapegoats, the more you will fall into a subjective and one-sided dilemma, and it will be difficult to face up to and solve the crux of the problem.
As Hans said, people prefer to attribute the success of others to luck and their failures to themselves, and vice versa, they attribute their success to their own abilities and their failures to external conditions. But it's not that simplistic.
There is an ancient saying: "A gentleman has no virtue and self-cultivation, and a villain has a grudge against others." "The weak complain, the strong reflect, the true wise will never blame their failures on the right time, place and people, but will try to find the deep-seated systemic reasons behind them.
If you want to break through the predicament and change the situation, you can only start from yourself. On this point, Exupéry, the author of The Little Prince, explains it thoroughly: "It is much more difficult to judge yourself than to judge others, and if you succeed in judging yourself correctly, then you are a true wise man." "
Discovering one's mistakes is an enlightenment, and correcting one's mistakes is a complete enlightenment. The wisdom of self-reflection and self-improvement that can abandon excuses, ask oneself, and find the root cause from within, is a great wisdom that everyone should understand.
There is no doubt that blaming others for everything is doomed to be futile. If men always habitually blame women for all their faults, they will only fall into this vicious circle and oppress women to the point of being overwhelmed.
In order to achieve true equality between men and women, men must shoulder their responsibilities and not shirk or evade. How can only one person be blamed for the stubborn illness of the family? Men should abandon the human weakness of looking for scapegoats, look at themselves, meditate on the root of the problem, and resolve the conflict in a wise way.
Only in this way can we avoid forcing women into the embarrassing situation of "three heads and six arms", so that this world no longer only has the inequality of "yin and yang".
Maintaining a rational and verifiable mindset and facing up to and solving the root causes of internal problems is not only a prescription for solving the dilemma, but also a broad road to true equality.